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I've just seen this thread for the first time and I will say this: Karmita--you are a fucking SI rock star.

It's really too bad that you didn't have any videotape on your Exs reaction when he walked in your house. You would have a gazillion hits on Youtube and been living off the proceeds.

I'm so glad that you've survived and thrived on your journey.

I appreciate the warm responses and I salute all of the fine people here.

I just admire so many here who are so much more valuable than any douche cheater can do to us.

Believe in yourself, celebrate yourself, wipe those tears and straighten your shoulders. Say no to abusers, say no to a cheater determining your value.

I'm no more a rock star than the rock star in all of us.

I'm no more a rock star than the rock star in all of us.

And a MODEST rock star too!!

Had a confrontation with the red headed slut. She was drunk and came to my table. I was there with my sister and a few girlfriends. Hauren slurred that a man doesn't look for something else if he's happy at home.

I told her to take her drunk ass out of my sight and if she want's she could go live with my ex in his mother's basement and live happily ever after.

[This message edited by Karmita at 8:01 AM, February 26th (Friday)]

Just read your entire thread

I have to join in the chorus of congratulating you on how you handled the betrayal and what you have achieved since

Karmita…. You Go Girl!

What a piece of trash….. but we all knew that.

Wishing you the best.

And the red headed slut strikes again! WTG on how you handled that! What a piece of work!

You are fantastic courageous woman. I so loved your opening post...way to go. Especially the package you sent the OW...just what she deserved.

Well done you.👍👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

Thanks everyone

I'm just amazed at how stupid the red headed slut is.

Just checking in and sending out a big hug to the exceptional people here.

Being cheated on does not define you and don't let someone else's actions take hostage of your self worth.

Be good to yourself, be smart, think before you act, embrace your anger in a healthy way. Laugh and cry, wipe the tears and straighten your shoulders and know that no matter how hard the road ahead is, there are far better roads to travel on.

There are some things we can't control but we do have the ability to control how we deal with it.

It's ok to take one step forward and sometimes two steps back, it's ok to have good days and bad days, it's ok to be scared and unsure, Just keep moving ahead and let time be your friend.

At this time I'm content and to my pastor's delight I've significantly cut back in swearing. I no longer play darts on a picture of my ex cheater husband and I'm so glad he's out of my life.

I still have some work to do in the trust department when it comes to being in a relationship. I'm still a work in progress but I'm on the right road. Beep...Beep!!!

Karmita, glad you checked in. Sounds like your healing is almost complete.

This post makes me smile, you took action and left no prisoners. Wishing you peace and happiness.

Karmita

I read your story and all I have to say is.

You're awesome....You're funny..Keep it up.

Glad that you checked in, you wonderfully bad-ass woman you!

So glad you checked in, I have wondered how you were doing. I read a research article that said swearing actually increases vocabulary. So hats off to you! Enjoy your new life!

Thank you for always checking in...and reminding us that we can choose to be ok....even though it is hard!!

Hello to the good people of SI

I know that with Thanksgiving coming up it will be hard for many here . I just want to let you know that I understand how tough a time it is and how it might feel like it's a performance to appear fine and get through the day.

I say chuck the performance, order in Chinese, or a bucket of KFC, it's ok to not feel festive. It's ok to be thankful for just getting through the day and life is not a hallmark movie. Don't put more pressure on yourself. Those that care will understand and feck the ones who you know are crap people.

Be good to yourself, love yourself and be thankful for your inner voice which is looking out for you. Listen to that voice, it's the best voice you'll ever hear.

Big hug to everyone here, and yes there is light at the end of the tunnel, keep moving forward. It's great on the other side and it's where true thanksgiving is waiting for you.

[This message edited by Karmita at 6:29 AM, November 20th (Sunday)]

Hi Karmita:

Thanks for checking in again. I hope all is going well for you. Good advice on the holidays and reminding us that we have permission not to participate if we cannot.

I am going to decorate the house completely and bake this year. Every year I have travelled with STBXWH to his family home. Last Christmas Eve he asked me for a divorce and I discovered he was cheating again. This year he is going and I am staying home. I will watch all the Christmas cartoons and enjoy the season with my family. I will facetime my kids who live away and enjoy the peace. The in house separation, even with two apartments has not been easy. Yay for time to enjoy the holidays without any faking for me!!!

As ever Karmita, you ROCK!!! Glad things are still going well for you.

mitz66

Your peaceful thanksgiving of baking and watching your favorite holiday movies sounds wonderful. There's nothing like the aroma of home baked treats, a soft blanket and a heartwarming movie. Hope there's a hot toddy to go with your baked treats.

devastated30

Thank you....I'm doing great and sending you a big thanksgiving hug.

Hey lady, glad to hear from you! And really happy that all is well with you. (((hugs)))