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thebighurt ( member #34722) posted at 11:09 PM on Monday, July 21st, 2014
I'm very sorry for your loss.
This is one of the most beautiful, loving tributes I have ever read: (made me cry even before reading the poem.)
Dad always said that the best decision he ever made in his life to was ask Mom to marry him, the greatest fortune in his life was that she said yes, and his biggest joy was the family they built together - 9 children, 20 grandchildren, and 4 great grandchildren.
What a wonderful legacy they have left you. ((((NIK and family))))
Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?
InnerLight ( member #19946) posted at 11:27 PM on Monday, July 21st, 2014
I'm sorry for your loss. Your. Dad sound like a great man with a big heart.
The poem is beautiful.
BS, 64 yearsD-day 6-2-08D after 20 years together
The journey from Armageddon to Amazing Life happens one step at a time. Don't ever give up!
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 11:37 PM on Monday, July 21st, 2014
(((NIK))))
wishing you peace and warm happy memories to wrap you and your family.
Sending you strength during this time.
((((And strength))))
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
Too_Trusting ( member #99) posted at 12:11 AM on Tuesday, July 22nd, 2014
Oh Nik,
I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss. I've also lost both of my parents, and it is truly heartbreaking. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. 
"Anyone perfect must be lying; anything easy has its cost. Anyone plain can be lovely; anyone loved can be lost." Barenaked Ladies
meaniemouse ( member #10798) posted at 12:24 AM on Tuesday, July 22nd, 2014
I am so sorry for your loss. Healing thoughts to you and your family.
Act as if what you do matters. It does. William James
fraeuken ( member #30742) posted at 12:26 AM on Tuesday, July 22nd, 2014
Dad always said that the best decision he ever made in his life to was ask Mom to marry him, the greatest fortune in his life was that she said yes, and his biggest joy was the family they built together - 9 children, 20 grandchildren, and 4 great grandchildren.
Condolences on the passing of your father. As sad as it is, you should be so tremendously proud of a man who accomplished all this. This is an accomplishment beyond words and not many today achieve it anymore.
Hugs and prayers to you and your family.
Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.
5454real ( member #37455) posted at 12:40 AM on Tuesday, July 22nd, 2014
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
my deepest condolences.
BH 58, WW 49
DS 31(Mine),SD 29,SS 28(Hers),DS 16 Ours, DGS 11, DGD 8, DGS 3
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 13yrs
"I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone."
― Sophocle
CheaterMagnet ( member #33581) posted at 12:44 AM on Tuesday, July 22nd, 2014
I'm so sorry for your loss, but so glad for your good fortune in having such a wonderful man as your father.
Sending you peace and strength.
((((NIK))))
If Happy Ever After did exist, I would still be holding you like this.
All those fairly tales are full of shit.
One more fucking love song I'll be sick. ~ Maroon 5
Lostly ( member #43953) posted at 12:59 AM on Tuesday, July 22nd, 2014
I am so sorry. He sounds like an amazing man who lived a good life. My thought and prayers are with you.
BW 48 - Multiple d-days
Divorced 2012 after 19 yrs
6 smart, beautiful, amazing kids.
I have finally found my voice and it is good!
Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 1:02 AM on Tuesday, July 22nd, 2014
God bless, Honey. ((((HUGS)))
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU
devasted30 ( member #39439) posted at 1:32 AM on Tuesday, July 22nd, 2014
((((nik)))) so sorry for your loss. Hope you are doing okay.
And remember Murphy is right. Nothing is so bad that it can't get worse!!!
fireproof ( member #36126) posted at 1:32 AM on Tuesday, July 22nd, 2014
I am sorry for your loss. Extremely beautiful words and a reminder of what is truly important.
TrustedHer ( member #23328) posted at 4:07 AM on Tuesday, July 22nd, 2014
No matter how timely, or anticipated, it's still a great loss.
((nik))
Take care of yourself. There's a great future out there. It won't come to you; you have to go to it.
inconnu ( member #24518) posted at 4:12 AM on Tuesday, July 22nd, 2014
(((nik))) wish it could be some irl hugs, sweetie. so very sorry for your loss.
There is no joy without gratitude. - Brené Brown
caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 5:12 AM on Tuesday, July 22nd, 2014
((((nik))))
My deepest condolences.
What a beautiful post. It is very clear that he was a special man and you have a special family.
Many many hugs and much cyber support.
Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012
Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 7:34 AM on Tuesday, July 22nd, 2014
You gave each other a great gift. Now you're both free to soar with the eagles. (((((NIK and family)))))
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
karmahappens ( member #35846) posted at 8:00 AM on Tuesday, July 22nd, 2014
The way you speak of both your parents makes it so easy to see why you are such a kind and loving person.
(((Hugs))) to you and your siblings , family and friends.
What a story your parents left. .. truly beautiful.
I am sorry for your loss NIK
♡
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd
Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 8:08 AM on Tuesday, July 22nd, 2014
((NIK))
My most heartfelt condolences to you and your family.
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 1:39 PM on Tuesday, July 22nd, 2014
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
lynnm1947 ( member #15300) posted at 3:30 PM on Tuesday, July 22nd, 2014
My condolences and hugs for your bereavement, NIK.
Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!
"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks
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