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In your confrontation, did you give away the fact that you had access to the journal. ??? If she does not know you actually saw the journal them you might now still have access to it.

Badhurt, I did not tell her that I read her journal. But, I think she figured it out since she has closed off access to journal. WW is now sleeping in our spare bedroom while we deal with this issue and took the locked box of journals with her. This past weekend she is at her parents (or so she says but it doesn't really matter at this point). She made her decision and I'm done with trying to save the marriage. Personally, I don't need to read anymore, I don't think I want any more images to haunt my thoughts. I have all I need to be convinced of her cheating.

Bigger, they didn't stay in a hotel. They were at OM's house. (he has multiple) WW admitted to staying at OM's house.

Also Bigger, thank you for your wisdom on this. I will definitely offer up that conference call once my wife gets word from OM that I contacted OMW.

After all this, separation is imminent. Just need to work out all the details first. Too much distrust for me to R at this time.

GKG

With what she has done, I hope the details of separation you are speaking of are not just a separation with no divorce filing. You need to be done with her. You know that because you did not even try to verify she was actually at her parents, which she probably was not since you i think just got back from a vacation with them.

I do not see why you want to bother with the conference call at this point.You have exposed or attempted to expose affair to OM wife.

You know what she has done and she knows it too and is not going to agree to that call in a million years at this point.

Expend your energy on detaching from her and asking her to leave your home. it is going to be more hurtful to you living in the same house since now she will make no attempt to hide her affair.

You should keep posting here. There are people who will help you with anything that you encounter along this painful journey that you did not ask to take.

I think you need to get you rear end to an Attorney, like Yesterday.

She is remorseless, and has indicated she is done. You need to prepare yourself financially. You need to protect yourself.

Take a break from the emotions, and do what needs done to make sure she doesn't rob you blind in the process of leaving.

Along with the above call the omw, then call him and tell him she is all yours and tell him to buy her a plane ticket then tell him good luck he'll need it.

Ideally, in the current remorseless state of mind that she is in you may try to go ahead (AFTER YOU MEET YOUR ATTORNEY AND FILE) and calmly discuss with her the division of assets and have them written down on paper. Yes, it will be a very tough process, especially for you, but getting this done on paper and you both signing it will help set the tone to segue the divorce to a mediation instead of a costly contested one.

...sometimes, that process of discussing division of assets throws a reality punch to their heads.

Regardless, start the process now so that you don't look back something like 6 months from now cursing yourself for not getting it started. Remember, FILE FIRST before she does. You get to set the pace of the process. If you let her do it, she WILL drag the D out and torture you with it.