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Mine would be a list from here to Timbaktu but the extremely 'worst' would be:

-Telling me he preferred getting married in a church for more significance, then went through the vows of 'forsaking all others' in front of me, God, parents, friends etc, knowing very well he couldn't wait to get back to screwing her. he F#$%%$g lied to me on our wedding day

-Letting her be at our wedding and other functions, letting us all take photos together. that we were all in the same places at the same time while the two carried on.

[This message edited by StabbedBride at 6:29 AM, September 11th (Friday)]

Getting an intauterine contraceptive device inserted so she can fuck the AP without rubber. She never told me about the device (nor POSAP).

Then when the device caused continuous bleeding she said she was very scared as she might have a tumour in her uterus.

The fucking bitch!

I am still sitting on the fence: R or D. I am friggen hopeless.

Apologies for the dirty wording.

[This message edited by shinmoe at 6:46 AM, September 11th (Friday)]

Hard to decide on just one.....one of his texts that I saw said "SHE will be leaving in a bit to pick up the granddaughter so I'll be able to call you then". I have a hard time with the SHE. Especially because his AP had friended me on FB, so it isn't like she didn't know my name.

I couldn't stay on the pill because of high blood pressure so I asked him to get a vasectomy (this was after our second child was born). He refused saying "what if things don't work out and I want to have children with someone else?"

16 years later, he got the OW pregnant, she miscarried, was advised not to get pregnant again and bam, he was in the doctor's waiting room.....

At least I was smart enough to ensure that I wouldn't have any more kids with the asshole. I got the tubal ligation. All she got was the asshole!

Aside from the lies?

That he gave COW so much power - at their workplace, in his life... Tellg her information she had no real use for other than to manipulate him into doing what she wanted him to do. To this day he cant/wont acknowledge this

Sharing my boudoir photos w an OW

[This message edited by Imissmyhusb at 8:20 AM, September 11th (Friday)]

Lying.

Apart from that; dick pics, sex, love texts and emails to her and them talking about me.

It's tough to pick just one but I guess it's damaged my belief that I am special to him.

-The gas lighting. He honestly was going to drive me to the hospital to have me committed because I was insane/crazy. He told me things that were in front of me weren't even there. And, I believed him, because how could somebody lie that blatantly?

1. That my health never entered his mind when he screwed around without using condoms.

2. That he gave OW2 a picture of our DD9 (6 at the time) so that she could imagine what their Brady Bunch family would look like.

That my life and my right to have respect and happiness never factored into any of his decisions to live a double life.

For me, the issue that hurts and still lingers with me is that she was able to lie and live a double life so easily. All while I was there, providing, raising our son - she was out getting laid, having this secret fantasy life. Tough to live with.

FWH and I have been together for 17 years married 15. I had my last "firsts". First date, first kiss, first time we made love, you get the point. With his A he got new "firsts" and that hurt the most.

That even a year past dday, he still won't take me away for a romantic weekend. He had no problem going away with his APs.

There are so many because it went on so long. I guess what hurt the most is being lied to over and over again. I was a great wife to him and he had no reason to have an A, much less keep lying to me. I now question if he ever loved me or if he has been lying since the beginning. The fact that he told her so much about me over the years is also hurtful. She knew everything about me, my finances, my job, my education, my home, and even my dog and I didn't even know she existed. It was all hurtful and hopefully that hurt will be gone someday.

That he told me how much he hated our life together, how trapped & bored he was, how we never did things HE wanted to do, that my interests annoyed him...

Yet OW posts everything they do on FB.

They do exactly the same things (she's taken on all my hobbies, those he felt were to expensive & time consuming), in the same 'boring' places, She cooks the EXACT same meals I used to, he takes her all the same places (even the same hotels) we went.

So really, he was just bored with ME.

[This message edited by WowItsReallyReal at 6:58 AM, August 8th (Monday)]

FWH and I have been together for 17 years married 15. I had my last "firsts". First date, first kiss, first time we made love, you get the point. With his A he got new "firsts" and that hurt the most.

Cuteturtle, exactly. I just told WH the other night "I'm no longer your last first kiss, and it will be that way forever."

Not sure I can pick one that hurt the most. I guess the effort he put into the affair, words, dates, time, phone calls, lies to me, had he put 1/10th of that into our marriage instead of into someone else.....but he had his mask on with her too and she bought the bullshit even though she KNEW he was a cheater, but she was special lol

He promised me he would never cheat 21 years ago. All he had to do was leave. Instead he slept in MY bed, lied and while I worked a 12 hour shift on Valentine's day, he spent the day with her.

For me it would be the fact that he took OW#3 to the movies where we had our first date. Yep that was their first date also. He took her there without a thought about it. It was a movie I really wanted to go see too.

WH took OW to the same place as he took me on our first date. I was also his employee at the time too. Grrr! Nice to see they haven't changed their MO over the years.

But the one thing for me would be the trickle truth. How he watched me fall apart in front of his eyes...begging him to admit what I already knew. I had collapsed onto the tile floor in the hallway, alternating between hyperventilating, wailing and sobbing so hard my whole body would shake and he looked me in the eyes and swore again that there was nothing going on between them. How could he watch me suffer like that? He saw what his lies were doing to me and still decided to protect himself at my expense. I will never get over this part. He watched me suffer and mentally unravel and yet continued to lie over and over. It's cruel and cold. I'll never open myself up to be hurt like that again.

1. He brought the OW in my house, had sex in my bed while my children was sleeping in the next rooms.

2. He brought her to Florida and spent almost $3,000 when he spent $6,000 on our wedding, he didn't want to spend more than that, so now I know how much I'm worth to him and when we were dating he wanted me to pay half or at least some it of any of the vacations we took.

3. The 2nd OW has hug and kissed my daughter during their lunch date.

[This message edited by Itstime at 12:22 PM, September 11th (Friday)]

Other than the red hot sex I never got, the protection he gave her after d days, and the inequity present in our sexual experience now, I am most hurt that ...

HE SHARED LIFE with her.

Lazy days, hot nights, morning showers, breakfast, lunch, dinner, Christmas trees, his dreams and plans, his new found freedoms, thier plans to live together, more kids, barf: