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He's going to lie. He's probably already contacted your wife,asking what she said,so their stories are straight.

Please,call the wives of these OM. I know your ww has contacted a few of them...But she also warned the OM first...so their wives still don't know.

I emailed him asking him telling him who I am and whether he wants to chat over email or he wants me to come to his office tomorow?

He wants to chat over email.

Ive asked him how many times they met. What happened etc. Waiting a reply any sec.

Meanwhile WW is in next room writing up timeline. Here's hoping it matches up. She's met this one 4 times now (3 times this morning). Wanna bet it's more than 4?

Clock is ticking.....

I hope wife does not have her phone there in the other room, comparing notes does not make for an honest timeline.

If she is on the phone at any point, forget the timeline.

Do not let your wife know you contacted the OM.

He hasnt given the details yet, still waiting.

Meanwhile WS has come up with a timeline for this one guy. So many more meetings and blowjobs than she admitted to just this morning and swore there were no more lies. This morning.

So sick of the whole thing.

No I have her phone. She is sitting next to me.

She keeps asking for her phone tho

Just a question, does your wife work out of the house or is she a stay at home mom!

I noticed that her version of this latest revelation did not include the part where you had to threaten to call the babysitter to get her to tell the truth.

stay at home

ha!

wel it seems she doesnt often stay at home

The timeline she provided says she met him twice after we were trying to make a go of things.

I went to the work night out - she went for "legal advice"

I went to the cinema (3 days before christmas). She met him in a car park and gave him a blowjob.

Think about that. This was 8 days after DDay and we were trying to work through the problems.

8 days after D-Day. another blowjob in a dark car park.

Extremely likely one of the guys she is "in love" with.

If you wrote this as a piece of fiction and asked people to criticize your writing, my criticism would be "it's not realistic - no cheater would be so over-the-top wacked out.

Ha. you made us both laugh there. (through tears)

Surprised I havent been banned for making up stories. But christ no, every word is true.

We are that fucked up.

Thanks for answering, D&L. Sometimes SAHMs have too much time on their hands. Anyway, another question. In your very first post, under Revelation # 1, you stated that your wife was at work, and asked you to forward her a work file from her home computer, as she often sends herself work files. Can you help me understand this discrepancy?

So - tell me everyone. What do I do?

I dont have any money to move out. We're up to our necks in debt.

She is still lying to me. She wont even admit she was hoping I wouldnt find out about these 2 nights.

I think if I moved out she would just run rampant anyway. Free passes to all in the carparks!

I love my wife. My wife is dead. I cant even look at this monster next to me.

What do I do? No saying about her getting councilling and in time etc etc.

What do I do right now?

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[This message edited by DazedandLost at 4:01 AM, March 21st (Tuesday)]

What about in-house separation until you can figure something out?

Have you checked with a lawyer to see where you stand?

Forgot to mention (not a new revelation just another from tonight). They were planning on booking a hotel room soon. (not the original hotel guy but this most recent one).

What about in-house separation until you can figure something out?

Thats a possibility. We have no money but a big house. there's a "granny flat" attached.

I suggested this about 30 mins ago but she wasnt keen.

^ would she rather divorce?

I'll tell you, I've been reading her side of the story. She seems to be saying that she really told you everything, and that you're somehow making a mountain out of a mole hill.

you want to know what I'd do? I'd ask her, how can she continue to lie when everything is on the line. Ask her, why did she do this when she knew you would leave with even one more lie? Ask her why she keeps trying to minimize and say it wasn't really a lie?

Ask her what the fuck she would do?

that's just a start.

Then, honestly, I'd sleep on it and not make a decision.

there's no point in making anymore ultimatums though.

Ask her if she really didn't have intercourse? Then schedule the polygraph.

percolate... wait.... try to get a little more mentally healthy. Then make the decision that is best for you. You've got plenty of justification for getting rid of her. Even she can't argue that.

think about things friend. take some time. at least a couple of days.stay away from the booze.

good luck.

I mentioned in my earlier post that she reinstalled the app to get rid of evidence. She probably contacted these OM to get their stories synced up.

It's amazing the lies that a wayward spouse expect you to believe. These low life douches that are on an infidelity "dating" site to bang other men's wives are going to waste time talking to a woman about legal and financial issues? If those things were discussed between gulps of you know what.

Speaking of oral sex, more than likely everything on the menu sex but even if only oral, is that no big deal? She's given countless BJs to so many bottom dwellers. These are not the 10 minutes of oral that a wife gives to her husband on his birthday. She's in a car so that means BJTC. With all these dudes.

It seems like there's a rush to R but have you given thought to what you're about to rug sweep? I mean she met 2 other men AFTER seeing the devastation on Dday. That's REALLY cruel.

You're the father of her kids and I'm sure you two have been through life's battles and I'm sure you thought she had your back but she's just emotionally abused you to the point that you actually thought this was your fault. From what you've reveal and from her threads, I'm seeing a woman that's just scrambling to re-secure her provider and also because she doesn't want to be a divorced single mom.

I'm all for the exposure but right now you need to work on stabilizing yourself. You've been dealt such a nasty blow. You've understandably been shaken to the core but unfortunately you don't get down time. You need to be a rock for your kids.

Your wife has probably been giving ALL her emotionally energy chasing kibbles from these douches and has been neglectful of meeting your kids needs. They won't say it but I'm sure they've noticed things change. Mommy's distant. She prefers paying for a babysitter so she can service a guy than spending time with family.

I strongly advise that you make an effort to eat healthy foods, stay away from the booze, and go hit the gym HARD. Give yourself time to heal

It doesn't matter if she doesn't like the idea of in house separation. If you want it then you insist on it.

This may be a naive question - her claim that it is only been her giving a blow jobs doesn't make much sense to me. What did she get out of it? It seems more plausible that she had actual sex with them.