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She has made her choice and so have I.

She is getting served today.

I have been reading other threads to try and prepare myself for what is about to hit me.

I think Walloped's 2 threads in Just Finding Out should be mandatory reading for every betrayed husband.

But one thing that I haven't found is information about the attacks you have when triggered. I'm scared of these. Are they panic attacks? Are they something like PTSD attacks?

While we are at it, what I FOO?

"She has made her choice and so have I.

She is getting served today. "

Why the cryptic posts?

Made what choice?

Did you man up and confront her that you know

about her affair before she left so she was forced

to decide you or the OM?

Past few weeks have been hell on earth. Can't imagine how the worst is still to come.

FOO Family of Origin

FOO = family of origin

You could very well have PTSD and or panic attacks. If its bad enough your doctor can prescribe meds.

FOO. Family Of Origin.

The family you grew up In.

Did u confront her? Or did she just get the flowers and then leave for the trip?

Thank you.

Didn't mean to be cryptic. Thought it was obvious

Thank you for letting me know about FOO

Is there a page where I can find out about other abbreviations? I'm looking them up on google or urban dicationary.

Just one more way I'm an idiot

you are doing well, 2018. I am glad you are decisive enough to make up your mind.

How far is this hotel from where you live ?

What is your gameplan for when she gets home ?

I am one of the few who don't feel that you should confront before she leaves. Damage is already done. Your mind is already made up.

You get to blow up her trip which is good. If you would expose beforehand, she would not go and then you would still have her served in your presence or in her locale and could be subject to a world of hurt. You get to watch her squirm here and that is good. Spaceghost had his ex-W served while he was on a plane and she melted down. By serving her there, you will see by her reaction what is really on her mind.

Again, just be careful of legalities in exposing.

Does she have a history of anger ? If so, go out to Walmart and get a VAR and wear it on yourself when the shitshow happens later tonight.

Have a go bag and important documents ready in case things get unbearable or she files a false RO

Kudos for your decisive action

@Iwantmyglasses

She absolutely had a choice. She had a choice to turn away from her boy toy.

Perhaps I should be more clear. Yes the A has been a series of bad choices but the OP positioned the sending of flowers as a decision point for her to go to the conference or not. MY point was that this was not a clear choice. If the card in he flowers said "I know what you are doing. Choose the marriage or him?" Then it would have been a choice.

"Perhaps I should be more clear. Yes the A has been a series of bad choices but the OP positioned the sending of flowers as a decision point for her to go to the conference or not. MY point was that this was not a clear choice. If the card in he flowers said "I know what you are doing. Choose the marriage or him?" Then it would have been a choice."

Exactly this.

Yet the OP still will not answer clearly to

us.

"Didn't mean to be cryptic. Thought it was obvious"

Is such a non answer. It did nothing to clear up

that he confronted his WW or he did not

confront her before she left.

In the end it is the OP's choice to make how

things go down between him and his WW. Though

you would think that after being exposed to all

of his WW's lying he would take the time to be

honest with us. After all in the end we want the

best for him.

Read how SpaceGhost0007 handled his situation. http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=552588&AP=1&HL=

The healing library on the upper left has the abreviations.

[This message edited by Marriagesucks at 11:38 AM, March 23rd (Friday)]

The flowers that were sent to his WW was more like an ironic Bon Voyage than anything else. She will learn everything she needs to know at the hotel rendezvous. Believe me... she will think back to those flowers many times over the next couple of weeks. The real trick will be to keep his phone from blowing up after she is served.

Why aren't you responding to members' valid questions?

They are trying to be helpful.

Get yourself into IC asap. Exercise. Meet up with friends; a class, a hobby, volunteer, anything to get you away from this mess.

not sure if I posted this.

Lawyer is going to have someone in the parking lot to let us know when sheriff's dept shows up to serve her.

Meeting with POS's wife at 430

She thinks I'm going to be talking about her friends that might be interested in a job

about an hour ago, my son sent her a text letting her know what time we can expect him to be home today.

She said she won't be able to see him until Sunday evening, and hopes he can stick around until she returns from her conference because she misses him. (She hasn't seen him in almost a month! what type of person picks getting laid by a pos over seeing their child??()

2 more posts to go, man! Then back to radio silence?