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To answer some of the questions above. In my conversation with the BH yesterday he said that he had suspicions that she was up to something but he said that he just couldn't bring himself to know the truth. I did encourage him to seek out the forums and counseling. He said he was in denial bc he thought she wouldn't do something like that.

we talked about the signs that she was giving off and I can tell you from his and I conversation that all of the red flags were there. He was just in denial about it. So if you are seeing red flags its a good indication that it's happening. He said one of the things he noticed the most was her phone and how she guarded it with her life. she hid her notifications and would not let him see anything on her phone. He talked about their relationship and how it had changed and I said there was a reason it did.

One other reason he said he didn't look further into it was bc he had just started his practice and to uproot that and his children would be horrible. I think now he has the strength to move things forward.

T/J

As for why I cheated, that's a matter that is between me, my therapist and my H and not any of your business.

- you posted your story on SI without a stop sign and asked for help, which made it the business of 60k people - sorry that the advice given to you was not to your satisfaction.

End T/J

Luckgirl - I'm proud of you. I know it must have been very difficult and seeing his pain must have also been awful. Now he knows that the issues in the relationship were not his fault. You're a good friend.

Luckgirl,

As others has said "I'm also proud of you"!!!!

Bigheart

- you posted your story on SI without a stop sign and asked for help, which made it the business of 60k people - sorry that the advice given to you was not to your satisfaction.

End T/J

That would be because I didn't know enough *not* to do so and then the moderators of the forum would not allow me to delete and/or make it so that there WAS a stop sign.

Or trust, I wouldn't have posted period.

The advice given here is rather horrible across the board.

The advice given here is rather horrible across the board

No the advice is spot on. Some can take the truth and make changes to better themselves, and others...can't. But since you seem so dissatisfied, why stay?

Luck, brava for doing the hard right over the easy wrong.

The advice given here is rather horrible across the board.

Yet it works for so many. At least for those willing to face hard truths.

Turns out it worked. So, I guess the advice was spot on. The majority was right. From experience. Truth will set you free.

Way to go Luckgirl.

Turns out it worked. So, I guess the advice was spot on. The majority was right. From experience. Truth will set you free.

Drop that mic, Zug!

Luckgirl, how are you doing today? I know your feelings are all over the place ((((HUGS))))

As a random internet stranger... I'm extremely proud of you! Way to go Luckgirl23432!