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Dan ...again, i strongly suggest you send/email her the thoughts in Stevesn's post on page 32.

It gives her (and you) something concrete to discuss as opposed to her wanderings. And it gives you more control.

Can you summarize the time line?

Why sending her email while she didn't do a single thing proactively to prove she wants to be a different person? She even could not honestly craft her timeline and take responsibility for her actions.

Here’s a suggested response to the “are you ok” text: “call me”. If a woman calls, give her your WW’s new number. If it’s Spring Roll, I’ll leave that to you. Good luck.

are you ok

Call the number from a pay or anonymous phone

What if you hadn't come here for advice?

So she's found you here already?

None of the texts were about the party. Last night I pulled all of the texts between them and put then in a timeline.

There are a few that are sexting but most are just stupid shit. I know that 414 texts sounded like a lot, but when I put them all together they didn't have a lot of substance. They sent 32 texts in a 15 minute period just talking about favorite foods.

I think that the sexting never really got too heavy because most of it was done at work. I think that whats in the 4 1/2 hours of talk time is what really matters.

Thanks for the text update.

What's the time line for lunches/kisses,petting or any contact outside of work?

How long were the lunches?

[This message edited by Robert22205https at 4:52 PM, December 17th (Monday)]

One text indicates that he had a hard time getting away for lunch. I think they would have gone everyday if possible.

And there should be no "what if's" in a timeline.

She's minimizing and playing the victim with the girl's. They already feel sorry for her. Which was what she wanted,so they will try to get you to let her come home and forget the affair.

And,a lot of those what if's in her timeline reek of blameshifting. This is,in no way, remorseful.

So they had lunch twice?

Kissed once?

Any touching?

HellFire, I suppose he asked these questions himself rather than sending it to her.

Was he feeding her compliments or sympathy?

What was his angle?

Dan,

If it's any consolation, it's highly likely that he groomed her.

Not an excuse, but he was a visiting colleague from France(?) and the French see this "out of town" affair as not as big a deal.

They actually target married women because they often are craving the affection, whereas single women are more discerning.

He probably doesnt even like Thai...

[This message edited by Boop at 4:58 PM, December 17th (Monday)]

What was her text in reply to his cock pic?

The "what ifs" are mine not hers.

Her timeline shows that they only saw each other briefly on the days with no lunch. But she was constantly thinking about him. They would talk on the phone while driving to and from work.

Ah, I misunderstood.

She has only fessed up to one make-out/petting session.

Does she reveal what they talked about on the phone?

What date/day was the kiss and petting?

In his car?

In the hospital parking lot?

How long was the kiss?

[This message edited by Robert22205https at 5:01 PM, December 17th (Monday)]