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truthsetmefree (original poster member #7168) posted at 5:22 AM on Tuesday, February 19th, 2019
It was totally unexpected. I can’t process this...just totally numb and completely lost.
My dad died February 22 last year. My dog died in June. My divorce was final last September.
This is the first time that I’m really not sure I will be ok. 
Hope has two beautiful daughters; their names are Anger and Courage. Anger at the way things are, and Courage to see that they do not remain as they are. ~ Augustine of Hippo
Funny thing, I quit being broken when I quit letting people break me.
Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 5:29 AM on Tuesday, February 19th, 2019
I'm so sorry for your loss. My deepest condolences to you and your family.
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 6:08 AM on Tuesday, February 19th, 2019
(((TSMF))). I just lost my father in October followed by my uncle 2 weeks later and a close cousin a couple weeks ago. It feels overwhelming. But you will be okay. Let grief be grief, seek help if you need it. Grief counselors are wonderful and talented. Seek out a group.
And post as much as you need. I am so sorry.
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
Shockedmom ( member #44708) posted at 8:25 AM on Tuesday, February 19th, 2019
I am so sorry. What a terrible shock. (((TSMF)))
onlytime ( member #45817) posted at 8:33 AM on Tuesday, February 19th, 2019
(((truthsetmefree)))
I am so very sorry for your loss.
R'd w/ BetterFuture13
T 20+ yrs w/ adult kids 😇 + grands
"The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall" ~Nelson Mandela
bookworm19 ( member #54871) posted at 10:04 AM on Tuesday, February 19th, 2019
I'm so sorry for your loss. When our mothers close their eyes for the last time something dies in us. Let yourself grieve, there sadly is no way around this. Sending you lots of hugs and a shoulder to cry on
English is not my language, sorry for mistakes and funny words...
marchmadness ( member #6475) posted at 12:03 PM on Tuesday, February 19th, 2019
I am so sorry . Sending prayers, strength, and love.
DDay 4/6/04 - 9 month A with COW
Me - BS
Him -WS - SA who finally got caught
Divorced 10/22/18
zebra25 ( member #29431) posted at 12:14 PM on Tuesday, February 19th, 2019
I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending you strength and hugs.
"Don't let anyone who hasn't been in your shoes tell you how to tie your laces."
D-day April 2010
hopefull77 ( member #43221) posted at 1:06 PM on Tuesday, February 19th, 2019
I am so sorry to read this TSMF...I wish I had words of wisdom to ease the pain...your words have helped me along the way...
I lost my mom 17 years ago...I miss her...but she is with me always
Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers...
me-BS him-WS
" I will not define myself by what went wrong yesterday when I can draw upon Life and Love right now."
hexed ( member #19258) posted at 1:09 PM on Tuesday, February 19th, 2019
(((truth))) I am so sorry for all of your losses during the past year.
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
Minnesota ( member #50615) posted at 1:16 PM on Tuesday, February 19th, 2019
You don’t have to be “ok.” This is really hard. We are with you and hold your virtual hand and we cry with you as you grieve and wail and weep. You are not alone.
Me: BS Upper 40's
Her: XWW younger 30's
Married Sept. 2010
DDay Thanksgiving 2015
Dday2- Jan28ish, 2016 -new affair
One child (Big Mister) born in 2012
Divorced Sept. 2, 2016
lieshurt ( member #14003) posted at 1:52 PM on Tuesday, February 19th, 2019
I am so very sorry for your loss. (((hugs)))
No one changes unless they want to. Not if you beg them. Not if you shame them. Not if you use reason, emotion, or tough love. There is only one thing that makes someone change: their own realization that they need to.
DragnHeart ( member #32122) posted at 2:15 PM on Tuesday, February 19th, 2019
I'm so very sorry. I agree with Minnesota. It's ok to be not ok.
(((((((truthsetmefree)))))))
Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.
truthsetmefree (original poster member #7168) posted at 2:42 PM on Tuesday, February 19th, 2019
It’s hitting me this morning. I’m completely and utterly heartbroken. I’m an only child and I feel so lost and alone. She had become such a rock to me throughout this past year and we had become so close. We talked every single day - on Saturday night we had talked for over two hours - just about nothing...and everything.
I don’t know how I’m going to do the days ahead of me. The months and years terrify me even more.
I’m just so tired of grief and loss. Just so very very tired.
Hope has two beautiful daughters; their names are Anger and Courage. Anger at the way things are, and Courage to see that they do not remain as they are. ~ Augustine of Hippo
Funny thing, I quit being broken when I quit letting people break me.
TrustGone ( member #36654) posted at 3:00 PM on Tuesday, February 19th, 2019
Losing your parents is so hard. I lost both of mine within a year and then divorced XWH#1 the same year. The fact that I had to make the decision to cut both of their life supports off made it that much hardier to endure. All these years later I still miss talking to my Mom everyday but it does get better with time. I am so sorry for you loss.
XWH#2-No longer my monkey Divorced 8/15, Now married to a wonderful man.
"A person is either an asset or a lesson"
"Changing who you are with does not change who you are"
wildbananas ( member #10552) posted at 3:26 PM on Tuesday, February 19th, 2019
I lost my mother 18 months ago - it's hard stuff. I agree with Minnesota - you don't have to be okay right now.
We're here.
(((tsmf)))
Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan
ChewedMeUp ( member #8008) posted at 3:39 PM on Tuesday, February 19th, 2019
I lost my dad when I was 18. Before I figured out that he was a cheater, which has left me conflicted about my memories of him. On the positive side, those realizations have brought me and my mom closer. I dread the day that I have to face this also.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
BS - over 40
DivorcED, finally.
2 Kids
sewardak ( member #50617) posted at 3:44 PM on Tuesday, February 19th, 2019
sewardak ( member #50617) posted at 3:44 PM on Tuesday, February 19th, 2019
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 4:07 PM on Tuesday, February 19th, 2019
((((TSMF)))))
I am so sorry for your loss.
May happy memories give you peace and comfort.
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
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