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7 year itch

'It just happened'

Groupies and chick singers! Made him feel like a rock star. Ego kibbles to the max.

He is very talented and is learning to get healthy validation.

After 45 years of marriage, wife reconnected with old boyfriend at their 50th high school reunion. Feelings for each other were rekindled, leading to mutual romance and excitement and her increasing distance and detachment from husband.

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My wife faced a stressful time, “lost herself,” and her toxic ex-girlfriend was “the only friend left” that she had to talk to.

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Fucking an older client.

Before he even started his fuckfest, he was going through a mid-life crisis and I could feel it and see it. Nothing was making him happy, he worked as a means to buy more shit, which in turn, didn't really make him happy because he wouldn't actually enjoy what he had, instead, it was on to the next thing that he wanted to buy. He worked out for awhile, shaved all of his chest hair and arm hair, all PRE-A.

I think that he stopped the exercising when he wasn't getting the results he wanted and a few friends made comments about this hairless bod and so he ended that. He walked around angry all of the time and no matter what I did, it wasn't that it wasn't good enough, it just didn't make him happy. So, partly mid-life crisis.

I also have since realized just how selfish he had been our ENTIRE marriage and how many lies he actually told me throughout our 20 year marriage. In our first year of marriage, we were not that well off financially and he wanted to buy a new truck. We agreed to a certain truck payment. A few months later, he said that he owed his dad money on a down payment for the truck and then acted like he already shared that with me (what we now call gaslighting, but what did I know in the 90's!). He didn't. He justified the loan for the down payment because that's how he got the monthly payment to the amount we agreed on.

These sorts of things happened often enough, but as we were further along in our marriage, money became more of a non-issue and I would just roll my eyes at him like I didn't understand why he was lying about money. Hindsight is 20/20 though, isn't it? He was so controlling that he argued with me about nearly every penny I spent and he assumed I would argue with him.

And, his words exactly, "I wanted to be a rebel."

A selfish, entitled cake-eating ass-hole meets midlife crisis.

Met her at the bus stop... said she kept smiling at him but she seemed sad. He made a comment in passing and they rode the bus together.

He said he didn’t think anything about it because she was so fugly and not his type. But found her interesting and she was just 24 out of college.... he said she was fascinated by everything I said.

Then I asked him if she was so fugly why did you Fuck her...

He said... she was so willing. 😳

Fugly girls = easy

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The magic that comes from the connection of working with a married woman who reports to you. Because they had to have sex, she got him, she listened. A real connection.

Non cliche was she was older than I am and uneducated and unattractive.

She blew sunshine up his ass and thought his penis was connected to an atm. Serendipity, really.

Affair number 1- a job thing took him to Thailand, where he discovered he could pay for sex!

Affair number 2, the last- mid life crisis, remembered he could pay for sex.

Basically, he has zero willpower if prostitution is readily available. It’s ok though, he “doesn’t care about them”.

Vomit.

We are through, and I’m taking everything I can get. Gonna be hard to pay for those prostitution now, eh?

I thought he was faithful like me ... what an idiot i was, I could have had fun also since he is pretty boring in bed.

XWFiancee's ex-BF, who 'comforted' her after an argument we had. He was 'nice' to her.

“I thought you didn’t love me anymore.”

Sure. Now I don’t.

I read something a little while ago about the most common ages that men and women start cheating. Bulls-eye for WW. Nailed it. Just a common, run of the mill cheater.

He was physically attractive and "nice" to her. So nice she had to take her panties off.

What are the common ages? I'm seeing a lot of restless people, exwife included, in the mid 30s range. Everyone's having a midlife crisis of sorts. One decided to buy a new house with the wife he resents instead of going through with the cheating he was thinking about. Trade one shitty life choice for another...

No real reason.

It started with an unattractive customer who decided to show him her new boob job in our warehouse. (he's a "butt" guy, so this baffles me to this day)

Which lead to a make out session in a local park later that day.

Which lead to another make our session in our guest bedroom a few days later while I was out of town.

Which lead to sex at his brother house a few days after that.

He admitted he was on his way to affair #2 when I found out about #1. Also a customer. Started with flirty text messages.

Unbeknownst to me...

Cliche #1: We didn't have enough sex and were roommates

Even though she was the gatekeeper in that department.

Cliche #2 she tried to make this guy into my best friend.

I hope I offend no one by saying these are all hilarious.

It's particularly funny that our WSs think they're adventure is so unique, so ordained by the whimsies of fate, when in reality they're all just corny assed, no-impulse control, hackneyed cliches of rutting mammals choosing excuses from an embarrassingly short list.

He chose work over family so he took a work wife. The work wife was married to another one of his employees (she broke up his marriage too).

It's particularly funny that our WSs think they're adventure is so unique, so ordained by the whimsies of fate, when in reality they're all just corny assed, no-impulse control, hackneyed cliches of rutting mammals choosing excuses from an embarrassingly short list.

No offense, it's true.