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hansvoleman ( member #55284) posted at 3:41 PM on Tuesday, April 30th, 2019
WW1: Fell in love with our boss because he "just understood her so well"
WW3: Fell for a guy who bought some of MY stuff on Ebay! He lived at the other end of the country. He was just a friend and was so "kind".
Do I win a prize for 2 types of tacky cliche?
When you cheat the first person you betray is yourself.
Rustylife ( member #65917) posted at 3:56 PM on Tuesday, April 30th, 2019
Coworker from similar background who just gets her and won't ever challenge her worldview.
Me:BH,28 on Dday
Her:XWW,27 on Dday
Dday: Dec 2016, Separated in Nov'16
Together 8 years, Married for 3
8 month EA/PA with COW at Dday
No remorse, Unapologetic. Divorced her.
tikismom ( member #60546) posted at 4:04 PM on Tuesday, April 30th, 2019
ExGF. She made him feel young & alive again.
Me: 39
Him: 43 (NPD)
DDay #1: Sept 2017; Lots of TT & DDays since. EA & PA with an EX. Last known contact with OW: end of December 2017.
Married 10 years, together 15 at time of dday. 2 very young children.
Status: Working daily toward R.
Chili ( member #35503) posted at 4:27 PM on Tuesday, April 30th, 2019
Medical diagnosis freaky deaky.
"Better use this thing as much as possible before it falls off + I want to act like I'm 20 again + I have zero coping skills."
2012 pretty much sucked.
Things no longer suck.
Took off flying solo with the co-pilot chili dog.
"Life teaches you how to live it if you live long enough" - Tony Bennett
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 5:07 PM on Tuesday, April 30th, 2019
Typical mid life crisis Affair.
She was 20 years younger. Covered in tattoos (which goes so well with his corporate image). She was single and no kids but lots of drama drama drama.
Funny how when I told him he was free to go and be with her he was begging for another chance. I guess she ain’t all that!
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 11 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
BetrayedPR77 ( member #69207) posted at 5:08 PM on Tuesday, April 30th, 2019
Mutual friend (now POSOM) who made her feel "special".
Me- BH (b. 1977)
She - WW (b. 1981)
Together since 2001, married in 2005
LTA - 7 years - Double Betrayal
DDay - 10/03/2018
DDay 2 - 01/05/2019 (learn the true length of the A)
"Not my circus, not my monkeys"
Status: Next stop: Divo
Hold2win ( member #69796) posted at 5:52 PM on Tuesday, April 30th, 2019
My wife went back to her abusive ex-bf.. not sure which cliche that is but the action alone just makes her plain dumb
Me, 31
WS, 27
Married 5 yrs, together 8 yrs
DDay: 01/29/2019
Status - Moving on
Want2BHappyAgain ( member #45088) posted at 6:06 PM on Tuesday, April 30th, 2019
she was such a nice person and just wanted him to be happy
^^^THIS was what my H said to me about the adultery co-conspirator on DDay. When she sent a reply to his NC message to her...she was everything BUT a nice person who only wanted him to be happy 
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I had heard a long time ago that if a married man KNEW he could fuck another woman and his wife would never find out...he would do it. My H argued with me at the time that this was NOT true...then proved himself wrong 
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Oddly...since I have been on this site...thanks to some pretty AMAZING BH's...I don't believe this saying is true 
. I want to THANK you guys who ARE honorable for giving me HOPE that not all men are like this 
!!!
A "perfect marriage" is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.
With God ALL things are possible (Matthew 19:26)
I AM happy again...It CAN happen!!!
From respect comes great love...sassylee
hikingout ( member #59504) posted at 6:14 PM on Tuesday, April 30th, 2019
Midlife crisis/empty nest.
8 years of hard work - WS and BS - Reconciled
ibonnie ( member #62673) posted at 6:22 PM on Tuesday, April 30th, 2019
she was such a nice person and just wanted him to be happy
^^^THIS was what my H said to me about the adultery co-conspirator on DDay. When she sent a reply to his NC message to her...she was everything BUT a nice person who only wanted him to be happy.
Same! Cheaters are so stupid lol. When my WS ended his affair (in person), his AP physically assaulted him. Punched him in the face and scratched him. So much for just wanting him to be happy, right? 
"I will survive, hey, hey!"
nervousnelly ( member #58359) posted at 6:27 PM on Tuesday, April 30th, 2019
Midlife crisis/empty nest.
...with a lot of "we just grew apart; you didn't pay me attention" thrown in there. Street ran both ways but I didn't go out looking for validation/ego boost. But with a Hot Young 'Thang making him feel studly, how could I compete? All the while I assume she was looking for a meal ticket.
1. Expect nothing and you won't be disappointed.
2. Learn to love yourself.
3. Listen to your gut.
crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 6:29 PM on Tuesday, April 30th, 2019
Cliche #1: We didn't have enough sex and were roommates
Cliche #2: He wanted to see if I was REALLY "The One"
fBS/fWS(me):52 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:55 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(22) DS(19)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Divorced 8/2024
Ripped62 ( member #60667) posted at 6:39 PM on Tuesday, April 30th, 2019
Cliche #1: Nasty ass MIlF (my wayward wife)
Cliche #2: This one is broken and I need to upgrade to a another model.
Cliche #3: You two have been married for so long. He will forgive you if he makes it.
My wife was substantially older than her paramour MILF. She engaged in her adultery while I was recovering from a severe injury that required surgery and an extensive recovery.
Lemondrop10 ( member #68910) posted at 6:58 PM on Tuesday, April 30th, 2019
Depending on which OW...
She didn't mean anything to me.
We were just talking, I talked about you most of the time.
It was just sex.
You didn't pay enough attention to me, she did.
I was in a bad place. I didn't want to do it but I did.
Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 8:53 PM on Tuesday, April 30th, 2019
"Don't worry OW, my wife is one of those that looks the other way while I play on the side. It's all good!"
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
Hawke ( member #47517) posted at 8:58 PM on Tuesday, April 30th, 2019
He discovered he is actually polyamorous. And he met his soul-mate. I'm not sure those two are mutually compatible, but I won't worry about those mental gymnastics.
Me: BS (b. '75)
Him: exWS (b. '76)
D-Day: April 2015
Together 10 years
2 kids: 2011 and 2014
Separated (no divorce required for common law couple in my jurisdiction)
JpnHeartBreak ( member #54689) posted at 9:17 PM on Tuesday, April 30th, 2019
“It was just sex, she didn’t mean anything to me.”
😑 that’s great, it feels good knowing you were willing to ruin our marriage for nothing 🙄.
idissent ( member #63635) posted at 9:28 PM on Tuesday, April 30th, 2019
Smart, attractive grad student and dumb, needy undergrad...which led him to become dumb and needy 
[This message edited by idissent at 7:52 AM, May 1st (Wednesday)]
iamweasel ( member #65930) posted at 9:49 PM on Tuesday, April 30th, 2019
I'm rather glad that I can't actually answer that particular question.
I never asked her one damned question and she knew better than to try to discuss shit with me. She knew as well as anyone that people get one chance and there's no amount of crying, discussing, BS being tossed around et al that would change my mind once I pointed her to the door.
I'm sure it was cliched, but even now I don't give a rats ass.
Never treat truth as the enemy, even if you don't like what it's telling you.
Hickoryapple ( member #55208) posted at 9:59 PM on Tuesday, April 30th, 2019
First (probable ONS): I think I was scared of commitment.
Second (long EA then PA): friend he'd lusted after from the 'friend zone' became single.
Loser.
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