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JSS1227 ( member #70150) posted at 9:59 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2019
I never loved her
Of course I never brought her to our house!
She was a fling, you are my life
I was never going to leave you
I never stopped loving you
I don’t even remember what the sex was like
Me:BS Him: WS; early 40s;D-day Dec 2018
2 month EA/PA with MOW
BetrayedPR77 ( member #69207) posted at 10:07 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2019
There was no malice in my heart
I never wanted to hurt you
Me- BH (b. 1977)
She - WW (b. 1981)
Together since 2001, married in 2005
LTA - 7 years - Double Betrayal
DDay - 10/03/2018
DDay 2 - 01/05/2019 (learn the true length of the A)
"Not my circus, not my monkeys"
Status: Next stop: Divo
Justsomeguy (original poster member #65583) posted at 10:08 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2019
I'm an oulier in my positions.
Me:57 STBXWW:55 DD#1: false confession of EA Dec. 2016. False R for a year.DD#2: confessed to year long PA Dec. 2 2017 (was about to be outed)Called it off and filed. Denied having an affair in court papers.
Divorced
onthefence123 ( member #66156) posted at 10:09 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2019
I need some time to figure out what I want.
I'll never do it again.
[This message edited by onthefence123 at 4:20 PM, May 24th (Friday)]
ChamomileTea ( Moderator #53574) posted at 10:11 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2019
I'll spend the rest of my life making it up to you.
You'd like her if you met her.
But her husband is abusive!
BW: 2004(online EAs), 2014 (multiple PAs); Married 40 years; in R with fWH for 10
Odonna ( member #38401) posted at 10:19 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2019
DebraVation ( member #51156) posted at 10:24 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2019
I didn't think you'd mind.
I honestly thought you knew.
It was only sex.
You can't just throw away x amount of years over this!
Zamboni ( member #65496) posted at 10:35 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2019
“It was just sex.”
“She literally meant nothing to me.”
“I swear I haven’t seen her in months or spoken to her.”
“It’s not like I was going to leave you.”
“I like having sex with other women. That doesn’t make me a bad person.”
“I swear I never spent a dime on her.”
“It really wasn’t like that. You have imagined it to be something it wasn’t.”
“Yes, I took an Uber to the brothel in Sydney, but I changed my mind as soon as I got there.”
“When is the interrogation going to stop? Or are you just going to punish me forever?”
“If you made a spreadsheet there would still be more positives on my side.”
[This message edited by Zamboni at 4:36 PM, May 24th (Friday)]
Me: BW
Him: WH Serial Cheater / NPD
Multiple affairs
Almost Divorced
Starzen ( member #47943) posted at 10:55 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2019
"I don't know" x one million
"I was never going to leave you"
"I don't love her"
"I was in an accident and fractured my ribs and had an embolism" (his first excuse to her to break it off)
"I was in a head on collision" (one attempt to, idk, get me back?)
"I don't know what's wrong with me"
"I AM NOT GOING TO COUNSELING".
"I'm not reading any site. Those people don't know me"
"That's not what this even about". (A good answer for just about anything I'd ask trying to understand)
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 11:10 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2019
I suggest this picture for the middle Free Square. I got the "deer in headlights" look from my FWH pretty much every time I asked him a question about his LTA.
[This message edited by SisterMilkshake at 5:13 PM, May 24th (Friday)]
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
Starzen ( member #47943) posted at 11:25 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2019
lol. Perfect for middle square.
Odonna ( member #38401) posted at 11:26 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2019
Oh SMS! That is the perfect center square! The OP seriously could sell these bingo cards!
Quill ( new member #69841) posted at 11:33 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2019
Amazing how they all say the same things. Especially the I only live you remark. That one gets to me. Funny I figure not cheating as a sign of love.
gmc94 ( member #62810) posted at 11:35 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2019
Love the thread and the middle square.
Looks like most of the bases have been covered...
"that's not how I remember it" (WH just said it again last night)
"as far as I recall"
"I told you I was sorry"
"It wasn't like that"
"sleeping with a prostitute would be wrong"
M >25yrs/grown kids
DD1 1994 ONS prostitute
DD2 2018 exGF1 10+yrEA & 10yrPA... + exGF2 EA forever & "made out" 2017
9/18 WH hung himself- died but revived
It's rude to say "I love you" with a mouthful of lies
BetterTimesAhead ( member #70001) posted at 11:59 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2019
The last thing I wanted to do was hurt you
It was never my intention to hurt you
Why do you have to call her a skank?
She's a good person. You don't know her.
You don't know what you'd do if you were in the same situation.
It was the perfect storm.
Me: BS - 56 Him: WH - 57 DDAY: 2/22/2019 - Three year EA and PA Filed for D 9/2021 - signed the papers 8/2023 - time to rebuild***************An apology without the action to back it up is just manipulation.
onthefence123 ( member #66156) posted at 12:00 AM on Saturday, May 25th, 2019
SMS 
Marz ( member #60895) posted at 12:04 AM on Saturday, May 25th, 2019
I used 4 condoms at once honey 
Easter ( new member #65944) posted at 12:04 AM on Saturday, May 25th, 2019
When are we going to talk about all of the things YOU did
wrong?
It was just sex, not an affair!
I felt like I was just a wallet to you.
My therapist told me not to tell you any details.
ramius ( member #44750) posted at 12:31 AM on Saturday, May 25th, 2019
I have FOO issues.
The devil made me do it.
And the perennial favorite...he complimented me.
How many scars have you rationalized because you loved the person who was holding the knife?
Their actions reveal their intentions. Their words conceal them.
Adaira ( member #62905) posted at 2:34 AM on Saturday, May 25th, 2019
For real laughed out loud at the middle square suggestion.
Former BW. Happily divorced.
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