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The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 10:30 AM on Sunday, May 26th, 2019
Kicked
It’s funny how the cheaters all tell the same lies and expect the BS to believe them.
That’s why we laughingly refer to the “Cheater’s Manual” so often. The behavior pattern is so typical 
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 12 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
AbandonedGuy ( member #66456) posted at 1:18 AM on Monday, May 27th, 2019
It doesn't matter [who he/she is].
It's nobody. Somebody from work.
You don't know him/her.
EmancipatedFella, formerly AbandonedGuy
Bobbi_sue ( member #10347) posted at 1:37 AM on Monday, May 27th, 2019
I scanned through all these and I'm sure I must have missed this one a few times....
But...
We are just friends!
mchercheur ( member #37735) posted at 1:59 AM on Monday, May 27th, 2019
"I wasn't able to finish"
Me: BW; Him: WH --Had 10 mo. EA/ PA with COW; Dday 5/2011 Married 35 years/Together 36 years/4 kids together, and 1 grandbaby; OW 20 years younger than us/divorced no kids Trying to R; don't know what the final outcome will be
marchmadness ( member #6475) posted at 11:30 AM on Monday, May 27th, 2019
It was never my intention to ....
She is a good Christian woman
Her husband treated her horribly
I wanted to end it but was afraid she would not cope well.
DDay 4/6/04 - 9 month A with COW
Me - BS
Him -WS - SA who finally got caught
Divorced 10/22/18
RubixCubed ( member #51615) posted at 1:20 AM on Tuesday, May 28th, 2019
"He's Gay."
"He's like a brother."
"We're just friends."
"It's not like that."
"I can't talk to him/her at work?"
"But I'm trying, Ringo. I'm trying real hard to be the shepherd."
WhoTheBleep ( member #49504) posted at 1:45 AM on Tuesday, May 28th, 2019
[They were all] in an abusive marriage.
I am a good man.
(On Craigslist pre-op trans nsa meetup)That was a joke.
I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural
devastedone ( member #46585) posted at 4:16 AM on Tuesday, May 28th, 2019
She's a good mother
I never meant to hurt you
I didn't plan to have an affair
I thought our M was strong enough to survive this
BS (me)
WS (him)
Married 24 years at DDday
DDay 10/1/14
EA/PA 5 months
DD, DS (16 and 14 on DDay)
Each new day brings the gift of deciding who you are, who you want to be, and who you want to be with you.
In R for now.
whatisloveanyway ( member #66450) posted at 2:50 PM on Tuesday, May 28th, 2019
It was long ago, it's long over.
Water under the bridge.
I've apologized a thousand times.
There is nothing more to know.
She meant nothing to me.
There are no more secrets.
I've told you everything.
The sex wasn't that good.
We never spent the night together.
We never went out in public.
You were never supposed to know.
I thought this was a win win.
If you would have stopped looking everything would have been fine.
It was supposed to end eventually.
Let it go.
It doesn't matter what I say now, you won't believe me anyway.
You should just think happy thoughts.
I don't know what to say so I say nothing.
Nothing I say to you helps.
Silence would be my center square. So many of my questions were met with silence.
BW: 65 WH: 65 Both 57 on Dday, M 38 years, 2 grown kids. WH had 9 year A with MOW, 7 month false R, multiple DDays from 2017 - 2022, with five years of trickle truth and lies. I got rid of her with one email. Reconciling, or trying to.
WhoTheBleep ( member #49504) posted at 4:52 PM on Tuesday, May 28th, 2019
If you would have stopped looking everything would have been fine.
This wins the internet, today. I think it sums up what every single cheater (who is caught) REALLY thinks.
Whatisloveanyway, your list is spectacular. I want to hang it on my fridge, for daily laughter.
I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural
Chaos ( member #61031) posted at 5:22 PM on Tuesday, May 28th, 2019
I also got...
If it weren't for those meddling kids
Rut Fucking Roh
BS-me/WH-4.5yrLTA Married 2+ decades-2 adult children. Multiple DDays w/same LAP until I told OBS 2018- Cease & Desist sent spring 2021 "Hello–My name is Chaos–You f***ed my husband-Prepare to Die!"
whatisloveanyway ( member #66450) posted at 6:12 PM on Tuesday, May 28th, 2019
How could I have forgotten some of my other favorites?
It was easier to keep seeing her than it was to stop.
I never think of her unless you bring her up.
And the ever popular I don't know.
BW: 65 WH: 65 Both 57 on Dday, M 38 years, 2 grown kids. WH had 9 year A with MOW, 7 month false R, multiple DDays from 2017 - 2022, with five years of trickle truth and lies. I got rid of her with one email. Reconciling, or trying to.
Chaos ( member #61031) posted at 8:16 PM on Tuesday, May 28th, 2019
I never think of her unless you bring her up.
Yeah - that one.
We could almost do this Hollywood Squares style - and pick the Wayward Celebrity to be in each square
BS-me/WH-4.5yrLTA Married 2+ decades-2 adult children. Multiple DDays w/same LAP until I told OBS 2018- Cease & Desist sent spring 2021 "Hello–My name is Chaos–You f***ed my husband-Prepare to Die!"
WornDown ( member #37977) posted at 8:22 PM on Tuesday, May 28th, 2019
Why are you so angry?
(Alternative: You have anger issues - you need help.)
Me: BH (50); exW (49): Way too many guys to count. Three kids (D, D, S, all >20)Together 25 years, married 18; Divorced (July 2015)
I divorced a narc. Separate everything. NC as much as humanly possible and absolutely no phone calls. - Ch
Brokendespair ( new member #60785) posted at 12:32 AM on Wednesday, May 29th, 2019
I'll always love you because you're the mother of my child
I didn't want to be the one who broke your heart
We only kissed that's it
I've built up so much resentment toward you
I haven't been happy in years don't I deserve to be happy
I think ILYBINILWY should be the middle spot. It's a given....we all got that one
Me - BW 52
Him - - WH 47
Married 23 yrs., together 26
Daughter - 18
Divorced 12/13/18
Wool94 ( member #53300) posted at 1:23 AM on Wednesday, May 29th, 2019
You are so controlling!
How dare you snoop on me!
I thought you said you weren't going to be snooping anymore!
(I think I'm the only one that ever heard that one.)
D-Day #1: April 7, 2016
D-Day #2: May 21, 2016
D-Day #3: June 7, 2016
Me: 1975
Her:WW (amn8r) 1981
Son 2006
Daughter 2009
"God not only loves you, but He actually likes you. "-Stephen Hooks
"My faith is mine now."
Tallgirl ( member #64088) posted at 2:52 AM on Wednesday, May 29th, 2019
She is A good person. She has a good heart.
I didn’t think you loved me.
I went to a prostitute because I didn’t want an affair. (Spent 5 yrs with the whore)
She was my best friend.
I was in love. It felt great.
I tried to end the affair for the last three years.
I made bad decisions.
allusions ( member #25376) posted at 4:25 AM on Wednesday, May 29th, 2019
"I just ended it with them yesterday because I knew it was wrong"
"I'm glad you found out so now I can tell you the truth"
"I had to keep screwing him/her because they were going to expose the affair and I had to keep them quiet"
"I kept it going for so long because I was trying to let them down easy"
"She told me she couldn't get pregnant, so I never used a condom"
You can apologize over and over, but if your actions don't change, your words become meaningless.
Behind every crazy bitch is a sweet girl who just got tired of being lied to.
I've found the key to happiness: Stay away from assholes.
RocketRaccoon ( member #54620) posted at 6:35 AM on Wednesday, May 29th, 2019
"We used a condom, always!"
"I thought you didn't love me anymore"
"I was sad, and she/he was there to help me"
"I didn't think"
"I'm so sorry"
"I regret what I did"
"I will do anything to fix this"
newparadigm ( member #58464) posted at 3:09 PM on Wednesday, May 29th, 2019
I got:
Well, he is gay.
I did not have an affair.
I was never going to leave you.
The sex was just plain vanilla.
I don't remember.
Me: BH
Her: fWW
Married: 31 years, 3 adult children
DDay: December, 2015 Gaslighting
and TT until...
Finally Admitted To A: February 27, 2016
Current status: In R
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