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prissy4lyfe (original poster member #46938) posted at 4:00 PM on Saturday, June 29th, 2019
I have heard this from a WS I work with. He didn't like my response...
That he needed to get the fuck over himself. Maybe his wife wasn't into sex....because he wasn't good at. The time he thought he was "hiding" his affair his wife knew on a visceral level what was going on.
He looked so shocked I almost shot lemonade out of my nose.
Yeah buddy....you think sex is crappy with your wife...and she is probably laying there wondering if your ever gonna get get it right.
Your wondering if you will ever be attracted to her again....and she can barely stomach the site of you
AP was "better"...LOL. I told him of course she was....you dont know how long your wife faked it do you? Your wife probably has been taking lackluster sex with you for years because she loved you.
This guy was REALLY floored That his wife could possibly have not been satisfied with their sex life. LOL. This asshat was focused on how HE was going to get the attraction "back" to his wife and never considered that HE was the problem. Never crosses his mind that he got bad sex with his wife because HE GAVE BAD SEX.
It was like I told him Santa wasn't real.
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 4:02 PM on Saturday, June 29th, 2019
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
Adlham ( member #53358) posted at 5:05 PM on Saturday, June 29th, 2019
Wait, what?
Santa isn't real?!?
Seriously, though, A+ marks for you, Prissy! 
There is NO need to have that “one last conversation” with a toxic individual in your life.” The closure will come when you look deeper inside yourself. It’s not your job to fix someone when they are unwilling to fix themselves.
Justsomeguy ( member #65583) posted at 5:09 PM on Saturday, June 29th, 2019
I'm an oulier in my positions.
Me:57 STBXWW:55 DD#1: false confession of EA Dec. 2016. False R for a year.DD#2: confessed to year long PA Dec. 2 2017 (was about to be outed)Called it off and filed. Denied having an affair in court papers.
Divorced
HeHadADoubleLife ( member #68944) posted at 5:56 PM on Saturday, June 29th, 2019
This is why we need a like button!!
BW
DDay Nov 2018
Many previous DDays due to his sex addiction
Hurt me with the truth, but don't comfort me with a lie.
Love is never wasted, for its value does not rest upon reciprocity.
Jorge ( member #61424) posted at 6:03 PM on Saturday, June 29th, 2019
fareast ( Moderator #61555) posted at 6:12 PM on Saturday, June 29th, 2019
Wonderful👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏ㇿ 5;👏🏻.
I would suggest that perhaps upon reflection into your insightful comments, this asshat might have second thoughts about his behavior.
Nah! It’s really hard to reflect on things with your head stuck so far into the hindmost orifice of the posterior! 🙄
Never bother with things in your rearview mirror. Your best days are on the road in front of you.
prissy4lyfe (original poster member #46938) posted at 6:23 PM on Saturday, June 29th, 2019
I mean....some of the shit that goes with this shitstorm I can wrap my mind around....
But this level of thinking... I couldn't contain myself.
I wasn't going to sit there and listen to him bitch about his lackluster sex life while his poor wife is reeling from the bullshit he put her thru.
I mean really..."I'm tired of lackluster sex" Buddy....I'm sure she has been tired for YEARS. GTFOH with that nonsense
[This message edited by prissy4lyfe at 12:24 PM, June 29th (Saturday)]
ChamomileTea ( Moderator #53574) posted at 6:27 PM on Saturday, June 29th, 2019
Damn, I wish there was an applause emoji!
BW: 2004(online EAs), 2014 (multiple PAs); Married 40 years; in R with fWH for 10
BetterTimesAhead ( member #70001) posted at 7:44 PM on Saturday, June 29th, 2019
This is awesome!!!!! Wanna talk to my WH? lol
Me: BS - 56 Him: WH - 57 DDAY: 2/22/2019 - Three year EA and PA Filed for D 9/2021 - signed the papers 8/2023 - time to rebuild***************An apology without the action to back it up is just manipulation.
cocoplus5nuts ( member #45796) posted at 10:23 PM on Saturday, June 29th, 2019
Me(BW): 1970
WH(caveman): 1970
Married June, 2000
DDay#1 June 8, 2014 EA
DDay#2 12/05/14 confessed to sex before polygraph
Status: just living my life
cptprkchp ( member #11719) posted at 11:16 PM on Saturday, June 29th, 2019
I’m a fWW and all I have to say is GOOD FOR YOU!! He sounds like a special kind of asshat - he’s an assberet. It never ceases to amaze me how wayward wayward’s thinking can get. Hopefully you planted a seed because what you said was very powerful.
That must have been very triggering for you and you handled it with dignity and grace!
Odonna ( member #38401) posted at 11:48 PM on Saturday, June 29th, 2019
And why is this WS talking to you, a woman, about his sex life? That right there is crossing huge boundaries.
But I just love your response.....!!!!
imagoodwitch ( member #23375) posted at 11:58 PM on Saturday, June 29th, 2019
Amen sister!
The further I get from the shit show that was my marriage, the more I see that my EXH didn’t know what he was doing in the bedroom. He truly was awful.
eta: and clueless 😄
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Ordinary average everyday sane psycho super goddess
survrus ( member #67698) posted at 12:20 AM on Sunday, June 30th, 2019
P4L,
Love it.
It's amusing to see cheaters squirm when their audience doesn't agree with their excuses.
Remind him that his OW is someones Mother call her little Tommys Mother.
Remind him that his OW is someones Wife call her Bobs Wife.
Don't allow him to pretend he was helping the OW's family by some twisted logic.
They like to employ that excuse like they are philanthropists or something.
Remind him that even if the other family was having problems he made them worse like a predator who preys on injured animals.
Ask him why he didn't recommend marriage counseling for the OW.
Tallgirl ( member #64088) posted at 12:53 AM on Sunday, June 30th, 2019
Prissy you totally rock!!!
prissy4lyfe (original poster member #46938) posted at 1:33 AM on Sunday, June 30th, 2019
He is over sharer. I usually excuse myself or shut or shut it down. But I was a mood...and decided to call him on his bullshit.
deephurt ( member #48243) posted at 2:01 AM on Sunday, June 30th, 2019
Good job prissy. I knew there was a reason I’ve always liked you.
me-BW
him-WH
so far successfully in R
Thislife ( member #56792) posted at 1:36 PM on Sunday, June 30th, 2019
Bravo, Prissy... Bravo!
The look on a Waywards face when they realize ... shit - this might all have been me!
And boy, did my AP fake it and did my BS just stop faking iti.... Ego down- at least for a sec! So many things with so few words.
I hope that what you said plays over and over in his mind like a broken record .... maybe he’ll start to “get it” or at least look at it from his BS’s perspective!
Good for you! You’re a rockstar!
Me - BW 42 Him - WH 38 (on DDAY) M- 10 yrs ... together- 15yrs (on DDAY)DDAY - September 25th, 20164 children (A - discovered by one of them)2 mos. EA turned 1 mos. PA when COW got dumped by BF after 3.5 years...Attempting R
Emotionalhell ( member #39902) posted at 1:51 PM on Sunday, June 30th, 2019
Me BS x2. 50ish Divorced WH #1. IHS with wayward #2 Dday #1 Oct. 2014Dday # 2 August 2018. Dday #3 December 17th.
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