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So five weeks before D-Day a little stray cat came on to our property. She adopted us and after DDay I said she was staying with me. Then the fires came through and the only things I got out of the house were me, my mom’s jewelry and my cat. She’s been my best buddy through all of this, the only remnant of my old life. And now suddenly she won’t eat.I get back from burying my dad (he died a year ago, but just had his inurnment) and she’s not well. They aren’t sure what it is. She’s only five years old. My job has me traveling the next two weeks (mandatory, if I don’t go I WILL lose my job, and it took me a year to find this job).

I am crushed and terrified and scared. The tears won’t stop. The vet was not very helpful and I will try another vet tomorrow. I really don’t know how I can get through it if she dies. It’s been 3 days without food (some water, and the vet gave her fluids). Anyway,, didn’t know where else to speak my fears. Most people think sure you love your pets, but she’s tied to my old life and the dreams and my old house and my new beginnings. Yeah, I’ll get through. But I really really want her to be okay. And how am I supposed to leave her now? I will be a mess traveling.

Trauma brings up older trauma, right? I’ve had enough for a lifetime, all compacted in to the last three years. Please don’t take my little cat away from me.

Hopefully the second vet can figure out whats wrong. Prayers that she makes a full recovery. Did they put her on IV? Or just oral fluids?

My heart aches for you. My Smudge exhibited the same signs for too many months; I couldn't let go. He was my rock and anchor and prayer companion for so many years post DDay.

Do you have someone to take care of her 24/7 while you travel? Or is it a catsitting situation where a few visits a day are made to feed and (hopefully) cuddle/socialize? Are vaccinations up to date? Is she indoor/outdoor? Is money an issue for vet care?

There are a lot of considerations, but we can't ignore our feelings as well as what is best for our cat.

I hope that a second vet's opinion/diagnosis will help.

Please let us know.

Sending ((((hugs)))).

~ lf

I am praying for you and your struggling little cat.

The heart and focus of my prayer is "deliver us from evil."

Do you have a counselor or therapist or someone close that you can talk to IRL or share with via phone or otherwise while you and your little cat are fighting for it's life?

Isn't there a bereavement clause or policy with your place of business to allow you some time to grieve over the loss of your dad with the revisited grief and only-recent closure of the inurnement? Maybe a counselor or therapist or clergy could vouch for or explain the reality of delayed grieving/bereavement to your manager(s).

Grief and trauma and loss are REAL health issues. Maybe a professional can help your employer see what a legal or good-faith risk they are taking or what they are unreasonably expecting of you right after finally having closure your dad along with so many other losses and present threat of losing even more.

I wonder if a mod or guide on here would know more about this kind of thing? I would recommend a PM to one and see if they are better equipped with resources or counsel about any of this.

[This message edited by Cephastion at 7:36 AM, November 9th (Saturday)]

Have you tried canned tuna or canned cat food?

See if the vet will give you one of those really large syringes — fill it with water and occasionally put it in your cat’s mouth so he at least stays hydrated.

My older cat had gotten really sick, and after I did this he started to perk up.

I'm so sorry your kitty isn't feeling well. It's tough when they can't tell us what's wrong.

Sounds like she needs to be hospitalized with IV fluids and worked up with bloodwork and radiographs/ultrasound. Is she in the habit of eating things she shouldn't (toys, paper, etc.)? Cats don't usually but some will.

Hoping the vet you see today will be more helpful!

Thank you all for the support. I took her to the emergency vet at 2:00am . Bloodwork is fine and ultrasound scheduled for later today. She is not one to eat a lot random stuff, but she was boarded so who knows. I was able to entice her to eat just a small amount of kibbles- like 25 or so- and some pureed treats. She won’t eat tuna or chicken or soft food when she feels fine, so that doesn’t work with her. They have her on an IV now.

They can keep her when I travel but it’s crazy expensive. We’re already in for $2k...

She’s not gotten any better and i have to go on a business trip. My heart is breaking. I haven’t stopped crying. I don’t know how to get through this. It’s breaking me.

I'm so sorry she's still not getting better. Hopefully she just needs a little more time on IVF, sometimes kitties take a bit of time to turn the corner. Perhaps the ultrasound will provide some answers. Sorry I don't have much else to help!

((BearlyBreathing))

Hoping for your kitty to pull through

Fingers crossed that the second vet can help!

I feel ya, I lost two of my furbabies while dealing with A/S/D shit. All in all, I'd rather go through another DDay at this point than lose another one.

She went in to cardiac arrest and I had to let her go.

My heart is broken.

((((BB))))

Just so many hugs honey. I am so sorry.

Hugs to you BB, I'm so sorry.

Oh, I am so very, very sorry.

(((hugs)))

(((((((((((((((((BearlyBreathing)))))))))))))))

So Very sorry

I'm so so sorry. My heart aches for you.

Oh BB, I am so sorry!! Know she was loved, and loved in return.

Please know I am thinking of you and your kitty.

Oh......I know.

I have had many fragile kitties. They are delicate creatures. We go to a cat specialist hospital and all the cat vets there say that kitties are delicate animals. They often don't show signs unless until they are very sick.

You did all that you could do. Sometimes, even the best, most trained feline doctor can't do anything. I had a kitty with a weakened heart. He needed fluids but that was too much for his heart. Without the fluids, he wouldn't have had a chance.

Kitties are the most amazing beings. Your kitty chose you. Remember that. You gave your sweet kitty a wonderful life.