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landclark (original poster member #70659) posted at 2:17 AM on Wednesday, April 29th, 2020
My WH used to get up in the middle of the night to chat with cam girls.
Then there’s me. I get up in the middle of the night to snag Disney puzzle deals on Amazon.
We are not the same person.....
Me: BW Him: WH (GuiltAndShame) Dday 05/19/19 TT through AugustOne child together, 3 stepchildrenTogether 13.5 years, married 12.5
First EA 4 months into marriage. Last ended 05/19/19. *ETA, contd an ea after dday for 2 yrs.
somanyyears ( member #26970) posted at 2:23 AM on Wednesday, April 29th, 2020
..I get up a couple of times in the middle of the night..to pee..
..and so does she! we must be the same person. 
smy 
trust no other human- love only your pets. Reconciled I think! Me 77 Her 74 Married 52 yrs. 18 yr LTA with bff/lawyer. Little fucker died at 57.Brain tumour!
landclark (original poster member #70659) posted at 2:31 AM on Wednesday, April 29th, 2020
I don’t know what SMY means or what the point of your response is. I was just trying to be silly.
Me: BW Him: WH (GuiltAndShame) Dday 05/19/19 TT through AugustOne child together, 3 stepchildrenTogether 13.5 years, married 12.5
First EA 4 months into marriage. Last ended 05/19/19. *ETA, contd an ea after dday for 2 yrs.
outofsorts ( member #70701) posted at 2:48 AM on Wednesday, April 29th, 2020
Then there’s me. I get up in the middle of the night to snag Disney puzzle deals on Amazon.
You definitely made the better choice
Me(BW): 40WH: 40 Married 7 years, together 20.
Dday 2/22/19 Reconciling
OwningItNow ( member #52288) posted at 5:03 AM on Wednesday, April 29th, 2020
Somanyyears signs his posts smy as initials for his screen name. I think he was just being silly back, saying he and his WW are both old.
I have moments where my H will do something (typically forget me and/or the kids, like literally fix himself food and leave us standing there, stuff like that) and even when he apologizes I think, "Who does that? Who ever really does that, and what do I make of the fact that he CAN do that?"
So I know what you mean. It makes me feel alone. Even if I am laughing at my H, that realization still makes me feel a little alone.
[This message edited by OwningItNow at 11:05 PM, April 28th (Tuesday)]
me: BS/WS h: WS/BS
Reject the rejector. Do not reject yourself.
somanyyears ( member #26970) posted at 2:03 PM on Wednesday, April 29th, 2020
..sorry if my response was confusing 
Yes, I was just trying to be 'silly' back at you.
I now wonder if most members here have been trying to figure out what smy means??
years ago, someone ended their post with"YMMV" and I didn't know it was "Your Mileage May Vary"
I thought it was.."You Make Me Vomit" and I was a wee bit offended..
So many abbreviations here! 
smy = so many years Now everybody knows!
trust no other human- love only your pets. Reconciled I think! Me 77 Her 74 Married 52 yrs. 18 yr LTA with bff/lawyer. Little fucker died at 57.Brain tumour!
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 7:41 PM on Wednesday, April 29th, 2020
I think he was just being silly back, saying he and his WW are both old.
THAT may be way out of line.
I'll accept 'aging', though.
But perhaps I'm projecting....
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
BraveSirRobin ( member #69242) posted at 7:46 PM on Wednesday, April 29th, 2020
The first few times I saw SMY, I thought it was a variation of SMDH. I got it eventually!
landclark (original poster member #70659) posted at 8:10 PM on Wednesday, April 29th, 2020
I honestly read it as SYM which is shut your mouth, and that you were mocking me. Thank you for explaining, and so sorry for my harsh reaction!
Me: BW Him: WH (GuiltAndShame) Dday 05/19/19 TT through AugustOne child together, 3 stepchildrenTogether 13.5 years, married 12.5
First EA 4 months into marriage. Last ended 05/19/19. *ETA, contd an ea after dday for 2 yrs.
Cooley2here ( member #62939) posted at 9:24 PM on Wednesday, April 29th, 2020
Look at all of us! We use the same ridiculous text language our grandkids do. R for reconciliation and D for divorce. There are so many I can’t keep up. I did actually know that was you somanyyears. I think in another 100 years English won’t sound, or read, the way it does now. BS for betrayed spouse and WS for wayward spouse. They both sound so benign and cheating is never benign.
Sorry. Ranting a little.
When things go wrong, don’t go with them. Elvis
somanyyears ( member #26970) posted at 10:31 PM on Wednesday, April 29th, 2020
..
Sorry your thread got bent into what and who smy means?? 
Glad I could clear that mystery up.. 
I hope other members have NOT been assuming that smy is Si code for "s**k my... 
for the LAST TEN YEARS!!!!!!!
That would have been WAY WAY WAY TOO triggery to use for my screen name. 
smy 
Now, back to landclark's thread..
trust no other human- love only your pets. Reconciled I think! Me 77 Her 74 Married 52 yrs. 18 yr LTA with bff/lawyer. Little fucker died at 57.Brain tumour!
LadyG ( member #74337) posted at 3:26 AM on Thursday, April 30th, 2020
STBX would get up in the middle of the night, raid the fridge and pantry. Eat the ice cream and any treats that I would save for our children. Leave empty wrappers and empty ice cream boxes back freezer..
ME... WTF
September 26 1987 I married a monster. Slowly healing from Complex PTSD. I Need Peace. Fiat Lux. Buddha’s Love Saves Me 🙏🏼
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