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20yrsagoBS ( member #55272) posted at 1:57 AM on Tuesday, October 27th, 2020
It’s appalling how many Betrayeds I have shared SI with.
Kinda makes you worry about the survival of our species at this rate
People coupled with other cheating, then uncoupling.
Over and over. Wash, rinse, repeat.
I have actually begged my kids to never marry
BW, 54 WH 53 When you lie down with dogs, you wake up with fleas
LadyG ( member #74337) posted at 2:29 AM on Tuesday, October 27th, 2020
When I see a married person flirt, I just assume now.
It was a real turn off being hit on by the opposite sex while married. Even when I would point blank shut it down with “I am married!” I sometimes got a “so what” response.
“So What” is STBXWH’s favourite answer to being caught and tagged. He only associates with other cheaters so it’s very common in his new circle of very much younger “Friends”
I too discouraged my children to marry. Prenup is a must.
September 26 1987 I married a monster. Slowly healing from Complex PTSD. I Need Peace. Fiat Lux. Buddha’s Love Saves Me 🙏🏼
Phantasmagoria ( member #49567) posted at 5:03 AM on Tuesday, October 27th, 2020
We live in an ever increasing entitlement culture/society. It’s only going to get worse!
DigitalSpyder ( member #61995) posted at 12:54 PM on Tuesday, October 27th, 2020
We live in an ever increasing entitlement culture/society. It’s only going to get worse!
I don't think it'll get worse, I think more of what was always under the surface will come to light.
As for interacting with people and assuming wondering if they are cheating, I don't know that I've ever done that unless their behavior warranted it.
Post Tenebras Spero Lucem
The longer we dwell on our misfortunes, the greater their power to harm us. Voltaire
Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional.
DigitalSpyder ( member #61995) posted at 12:54 PM on Tuesday, October 27th, 2020
We live in an ever increasing entitlement culture/society. It’s only going to get worse!
I don't think it'll get worse, I think more of what was always under the surface will come to light.
As for interacting with people and assuming wondering if they are cheating, I don't know that I've ever done that unless their behavior warranted it.
Post Tenebras Spero Lucem
The longer we dwell on our misfortunes, the greater their power to harm us. Voltaire
Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional.
WhatsRight ( member #35417) posted at 1:20 PM on Tuesday, October 27th, 2020
I am old and have limited time to worry, so I tend to only wonder about people I’m very close to ...but MOSTLY with my kids.
I’m almost 100% sure at least one of my sons has, but I can see him working hard to make things right.
"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt
I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 1:34 PM on Tuesday, October 27th, 2020
I have to agree it pretty much goes away as you get further away from it.
But there are times where is becomes blatant red flags for some people that are clueless. I will often offer up some gentle prodding. If I suspect someone's spouse, I don't want that person to be blindsided, or to wait as long as I did to finally get their proof.
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
Anna123 ( member #70908) posted at 2:09 PM on Tuesday, October 27th, 2020
I do still but I made the discovery that sometimes BOTH are cheaters or cheater types. The tidy little cheater BS thing isn't always the way it is, but it is more often than not.
Also, when one spouse goes out of town a lot, I always wonder.
landclark (original poster member #70659) posted at 6:57 PM on Tuesday, October 27th, 2020
Anna123, I work with sales folks who travel a lot, so I do think that's part of why I often ponder it. No offense to sales people, of course. My WH was not traveling for work, and still managed to find the means.
Me: BW Him: WH (GuiltAndShame) Dday 05/19/19 TT through AugustOne child together, 3 stepchildrenTogether 13.5 years, married 12.5
First EA 4 months into marriage. Last ended 05/19/19. *ETA, contd an ea after dday for 2 yrs.
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