I just got concrete proof that my husband has been cheating with escorts. Ive had a gut feeling for a while, but my husband is a master liar and manipulator and had me doubting my instincts.
Back story - my husband and i have been together for 11.5 years, about 3 years ago I found out my husband had relapsed and was using drugs again. We met each other in recovery, so being familiar with addiction, I tried everything in my power to help. Well, I gave birth to our daughter 19 months ago. Things got worse from there. About 2 months after giving birth I found a lot of texts with random numbers about hooking up and escort lingo (had to look things up). I confronted him and he denied everything and said it was my post partum depression making me crazy. I continued to find pictures sent to him of naked women, talking about rates, and availability. I brought it up to him numerous times and each time it was a serious of lies or making me feel like it was all in my head. At the same time he was still using and lying about that and not coming home, or leaving in the evening and not coming back until the next day. Anyhow, all of this has been going on for over 19 months now. I recently saw texts from a woman asking when he was coming back to see her. I contacted her and she told me that hes been paying her for sexual acts. She told me about another woman who told me the same and that they were using together as well. So, now every instance where my gut said "this is sketchy, he's cheating" I'm pretty sure was correct.
I was furious after he didnt come home one night this week, to go see this woman. I told him to get out and I knew about what he'd been doing. Had a huge fight, said he wasnt leaving and I was crazy. I can't be with this man anymore. But for mine and my daughters sake I can't leave yet. Ive been a stay at home mom since my daughter was born and he has complete financial control, we dont have a joint account or anything, ive had to use all of my savings to provide for my daughter and myself. He pays the mortgage, electric, insurance, phone, etc. But I pay for quite a few bills too, even with no income. He has never bought diapers, formula, clothes, etc for our girl. I am hurt, angry, confused, and feel so stupid that I didn't trust my gut when I should have.
Im not sure what to do. Im not leaving yet bc I dont have the financial means to. I guess any advice, words of wisdom, or encouragement would be helpful.
[This message edited by SunshineSeeker at 3:25 AM, Saturday, April 18th]
