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Dust Bunny ( member #2066) posted at 6:54 PM on Monday, May 8th, 2006
FBW married 30 years to RFWH
(ps... F=former :P)
"Whoever fights monsters should see to it that in the progress he(or she) does not become a monster."
Friedrich Nietzsche
unicornsearcher ( member #912) posted at 6:39 PM on Sunday, May 14th, 2006
We're still under the same roof & will be for a bit longer. Facing foreclosure from one side & forced sale on the other is most likely going to change that & when it does I want to be detached enough to be able to go completely NC with WS. I also will not be moving elsewhere with him.
Whether or not a divorce will be filed by then I can't answer yet. I've got way too much to deal with right now to add any more without literally risking my sanity at this point.
So anyway, here I am... 
[This message edited by unicornsearcher at 11:35 PM, May 14th (Sunday)]
11/02 Busted WH 4+ cheating yrs, 11/06 Busted [Month Long Lustfest]. 2/1/08 admits false version of betrayals, so no full disclosure / "whole truth" yet. '09 Together, great work in progress. '12 Still gladly united.
brokenwings ( member #10333) posted at 9:01 AM on Monday, May 22nd, 2006
baby steps in all this, the only way.
Peace and healing is what I look for and what I wish for you.
sandee ( member #10786) posted at 8:09 PM on Thursday, May 25th, 2006
Thank you for posting this for us, it is great advice!
dolphin05 ( member #7036) posted at 8:44 PM on Thursday, June 1st, 2006
bumping for all the newbies! 
ME-BW 33,HIM-WH 33
Together 10 years,Married 9
2 children:Daughter 7,Son 4
D-Day Feb 2005-Cheated while I was pregnant with my daughter-eventually reconciled.
June 2012-says he is leavig me again (4th time). Now Divorcing.
Dust Bunny ( member #2066) posted at 6:33 PM on Saturday, June 10th, 2006
bumping 
FBW married 30 years to RFWH
(ps... F=former :P)
"Whoever fights monsters should see to it that in the progress he(or she) does not become a monster."
Friedrich Nietzsche
Dust Bunny ( member #2066) posted at 3:52 AM on Sunday, July 16th, 2006
bump
FBW married 30 years to RFWH
(ps... F=former :P)
"Whoever fights monsters should see to it that in the progress he(or she) does not become a monster."
Friedrich Nietzsche
bowag ( member #11435) posted at 8:21 PM on Tuesday, August 1st, 2006
Add me to the list. I don't know how it will work becasue my ws is already doing almost all of these things.... I just don't know how to deal with it.
But then again, I will do this for me and not an attempt to change her.
Bump for those that are just arriving.
Craig
I am weak. I am raw.
Me BS=34 Her WS=38 M=15
seperated Jan 06 (she left)
dday late may 06 (don't remember the day)
no R. she won't come back to the relationship --STILL
seashells ( member #8141) posted at 2:24 PM on Tuesday, August 15th, 2006
Great Thread ...
I've done a lot of these things and - thankfully - they - "seem" - to be working ...
I've also worked with my - WH - on addressing the "real issues" that led to his - As - in the first place ...
And, I feel like this has helped, but I've been careful to keep my "counseling talks" to him at a minimum and I've been careful to maintain my own life, as well, just in case ...
Wonderful thread ...
First - D day - 9-15-05 ...
Second - D day - End of - October of 2005 ...
Not a good time of the year for me :(
www.ultimatebetrayal.com
Srachelle4 ( member #10948) posted at 5:00 PM on Tuesday, August 15th, 2006
I have been practicing 180 for 2 1/2 weeks now. It seems as if my WS is doing it back to me also. Like he has the list but I know he doesn't just alot of selfish pride.
But I do see a change he wants to joke around w/ me more he wants to talk to me more. He smiles more when we are exchanging the kids. Just little things but the little things count.
whathappensnow? ( member #8211) posted at 9:16 PM on Friday, August 18th, 2006
It feels like I've tried everything else. I thought about doing this before but chickened out. It's time to really give it a try. I suppose I hope it works.
" You give me sight, a fighting prayer, You're a saving grace I swear.
An inner peace, unselfish mind,
An honest heart is hard to find." ~Drivn
Dust Bunny ( member #2066) posted at 8:23 PM on Friday, August 25th, 2006
FBW married 30 years to RFWH
(ps... F=former :P)
"Whoever fights monsters should see to it that in the progress he(or she) does not become a monster."
Friedrich Nietzsche
Daph ( new member #11829) posted at 10:52 PM on Friday, August 25th, 2006
I needed to read this...thanks!!!!
lra90 ( member #9281) posted at 3:18 AM on Tuesday, September 12th, 2006
bumping
Viking ( member #11146) posted at 9:06 PM on Friday, September 15th, 2006
Joining the 180 group today. God I hope this works. This is my last chance.
If you want to destroy my sweater, pull this thread as I walk away.
Andrew ( member #10807) posted at 3:17 PM on Saturday, September 16th, 2006
Me BS 48, WW 47 Three sons
NeverWillForget ( member #7735) posted at 2:30 PM on Friday, September 22nd, 2006
Srachelle4 ( member #10948) posted at 2:50 PM on Friday, September 22nd, 2006
This list is awesome. I have also read Micheles books divorce busting and divorce remedy.
I definatly see a change in my WS. I see a change in our relationship ( whats left of it) and I see a change in myself.
There are no guarantees in life that this will wake our spouses up but it will empower you to have more strenght and you will feel better about yourself.
I wish hugs and good luck to all of us who are going through this. It is not easy and I sometime backslide (old habits are hard to break) But if you do it and backslide. Don't beat yourself up just start doing it again. By the way expect to have to have alot of patience something I struggle with.
dghen ( member #11327) posted at 9:59 PM on Saturday, September 23rd, 2006
The minute you settle for less than you deserve you get even less than you settled for.
In the end people turn out to be, who they promised they wouldn't. Maureen Dowd
Its time for ME to be what I always wanted ME to be.
lra90 ( member #9281) posted at 5:01 PM on Wednesday, October 4th, 2006
bumping
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