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Odonna posted 11/2/2019 11:53 AM

OhFor is married! Plans changed, but it all worked out brilliantly!

I am elated! Ecstatic!

Look up at the sky and you will see me dancing all the girls and women in my life across the sky and around all the celestial bodies.

I am walking on air.

I am soaring.

I am a husband again!

MMS'S husband.

She organised the wedding for last night in the hospital. Everything that I described to you took place. Just, it was in the corridor of the ward and not on our patio.

All the friends were there. They all came. And all my doctors and their partners. And of course all the other patients in the ward and their visitors were included as well. And all the ward staff.

J and Mom made the place look beautiful with flowers. There was not a single patient in the entire wing that did not have flowers next to their bed. The nurses station looked like the Chelsea flower show.

They sat me on a chair at the end of the ward passage and all the rest was just as planned, except the string ensemble had a prior booking for Friday night, but that was no problem at all.

The music was provided by the hospital staff choir. If you have ever heard an African Choir you will be getting goosebumps right now. Literally sounds like angels singing, and the harmony just comes naturally. They sang MMS down the isle and at every chance they got. Some just for me, telling me I am the bravest of warriors.

No wedding has ever been this wonderful. And the feast was enjoyed by most of the hospital. Little raiding parties were sent out by the other hospital wings. There was enough for all.

And then the choir decided to sing some more, simply because they were so filled with joy.

When everyone finally left, MMS climbed into the skinny hospital bed and we just hugged and cried and laughed.

That is how we spent the night. She is not leaving my side. I had to sneak into the toilet to write this. Not that I am complaining about being with my wife.

Wife.

Doesn't that just sound wonderful.

k8la posted 11/2/2019 12:01 PM

tears of joy! So happy for you, Ohforanewme!

Chili posted 11/2/2019 12:03 PM

Yes yes and more yes.

It sounds wonderful. Beautiful. Perfect.

Your joy and the sounds of the choir and the smell of the flowers and all the beauty associated with your day has stretched across the miles and touched me so this morning. Thank you.

20yrsagoBS posted 11/2/2019 12:06 PM

Congratulations dear Oh! So happy for you and your new bride!!!

Adlham posted 11/2/2019 21:19 PM

Ah, I teared up just reading this.

How. Beautiful.

Congratulations and much love to you both!

Cooley2here posted 11/2/2019 21:57 PM

Love. It really is streaming towards you from all over the world!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

BearlyBreathing posted 11/2/2019 23:23 PM

I am crying with joy, my friend afar. So happy you have married MMS. Thank you for including us! ❤️

Odonna posted 11/3/2019 01:45 AM

I have been tearing up all day. Isn’t this pure wonderful!

nightowl1975 posted 11/3/2019 02:09 AM

Oh, OhFor. ❤️ My heart is so full reading your happiness just pour off the page.

You brought a ray of sunshine into my home and my daughter’s life with each card you sent from your adventures all over the world, and I will never forget that. You are an incredible human being, and I am so very pleased that you’ve been blessed with love and light, so well-deserved.

I have your cards in my nightstand. They remind me that no matter how alone I often feel in this world, there are people out there like you... that bring joy to others in such a selfless way.

Love and prayers for you and yours. You’ve been such a blessing to me and my daughter.

LittleRussian posted 11/3/2019 08:56 AM

Just wonderful

Lowlow posted 11/3/2019 09:43 AM

Congratulations Mr MMS! Sounds like an unforgettable day.

dotterofTheKing posted 11/3/2019 10:33 AM

Congratulations! This is such wonderful news to hear.

Odonna posted 11/4/2019 05:06 AM

He is still in the hospital. I am very glad MMS moved up the wedding.

I believe he is still reading here....

WhoTheBleep posted 11/4/2019 06:08 AM

OhFor, I am not in denial about what you are facing. None of us are. Yet as long as there is air in your lungs, there is always hope. If joy and love could conquer illness, you would be running an ultra-marathon in no time. You have so much of that in your life. And you've given so much to so many friends around this world.

Your kindness and beautiful words have changed countless lives for the better. I'm certain it cannot even be measured. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you, friend. You are a treasure. ❤️

I'm hoping you are discharged from hospital and home recovering very soon.

Newlease posted 11/4/2019 12:59 PM

This makes my heart happy! Congratulations!

NL

LoveTKO posted 11/5/2019 07:31 AM

Happy tears reading this...

Congratulations!!!!

You are an inspiration. Your capacity for love and hope are boundless.

Much love to you and your wife!!

I will keep you in my heart and prayers...

Always...

ManishsDad posted 11/5/2019 21:08 PM

I do not check the forum as frequently as when i first signed up here. But I am glad I did today. Ohforanewme I can’t write the way that you do. It’s not my gift. But my brother please know how much my wife and i are rejoicing for you and your new family of 5. The love that exists between you, your wife, Sunshine and your older two children cannot be severed by even death itself. It will continue to flourish and will provide sustenance to those who have been blessed to know you both in person and online.

Sir, you encouraged my wife at some of the lowest points of her life. So in part I have you to thank for where our marriage and family is today. For our healing and happiness.

You were gracious enough to overlook the actions she so deeply loathed and regretted and instead you saw her true soul. I am grateful to God each day that she was able to find support here to fix her brokenness and become the woman she now is whom is an even more spectacular wife and mothet than she had been in the past.

I think you’ll be pleased to learn that she is more than halfway through her first semester back in college after more than a decade of being away and despite caring for our two young children she is earning high grades and will almost certainly make the Dean’s List at the end of this term. There is still a long way to go but I believe in her and even more importantly she believes in herself. She plans to study social work so she can resume the work she formerly did during her years in ministry. Helping people is her calling.

Years ago I lost a child. The pain was so great that I could not even grieve for her. I was too numb to even cry. It took me a long time to understand how wrong I was. We should never stop feeling. Never stop remembering and never stop loving.

However long or short your remaining days are on this earth I know that your family will forever treasure the memories you have had together and that you are making with them now. And my wife and I will remember you, our brother across the ocean, with fondness and appreciation for the man that you are and the hearts that you touched.

With prayers and love,

ManishsDad and ASoCalledLife

Suchasadsack posted 11/6/2019 19:10 PM

Ohfor, congratulations! What a most beautiful wedding! Reading about it made my day. Thinking about you and your family often, my friend. Thank you for your words.

Odonna posted 11/7/2019 17:18 PM

Dear Friends of Ohforanewme:

I heard a bit more from our friend on Saturday and Sunday, but no word since Sunday evening now. My latest messages to him have not been opened.

I promise I will post if I hear anything further from him or his family (they have my email), but for now I am thinking that our dear friend has set out on another New Beginning.

Chili posted 11/7/2019 17:22 PM

Please do Odonna. There are many of us thinking about him. And thank you for keeping us posted - it means very much.