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EAPTSD posted 10/31/2019 11:54 AM

That seems so lame. That's what he jeopardized 15 years for?
Have you seen the sexts between your WS and AP?

My WW broke no contact to just say that she missed her AP and how weird it was not to be talking to him. Nothing sexual, but it was worth blowing up two marriages to her. She also said he was often distant and condescending. Just because she understood that he was an asshole didn’t seem to change the fact that she desperately craved his attention.

“They always cheat down” is a cliche for a reason, it only makes sense inside the fantasy. Of course it sounds stupid and juvenile now. If your WH doesn’t own his reality inside the affair fog, he is minimizing. Even if her responses were lame, he can admit that he was disappointed in her and was excited about sending the pics.

SumofOne posted 10/31/2019 12:08 PM

Lord I know what this and other replies are going to send your mind to but my wife and her AP's said things such as:

You make me so hard
You make me so wet
I want to taste you
I want you to cum in my mouth and I will swallow every drop
I'd love to hit that from behind
I wish I could ride that big d right now

Details of how hard they came masturbating etc etc.

Think of every raunchy thing and it was probably said.

I just don't know how many times you can say I am hard for you or you make me so wet that it starts to lose meaning but it would take me all of 1 day to tire of such conversations.

layla1234 posted 10/31/2019 12:23 PM

Sumofone,

Gross. If I believe everything he says (I'm constantly back and forth). The pic sending had just started so I don't think they got to cum tasting. I do know my WH said he would "finish inside her" in one role playing convo. He said she said she would take his dick and put it in her mouth. Sounds hot right?

SumofOne posted 10/31/2019 12:44 PM

Sounds hot right?

Layla if you don't mind could you use a sexier font from now on. Nothing is hotter than Arial Bold.

I get how it can be erotic to talk/text like that but seriously, at some point wouldn't it just be words on a page?

layla1234 posted 10/31/2019 12:52 PM

I'm guessing that's the point where it usually crosses over into physical. The texting becomes not enough. I just hope one day I feel confident that it never went there.

layla1234 posted 10/31/2019 13:56 PM

I can't find the post, but someone mentioned finding a hidden folder on a phone with pictures. Anyone know how that works? I have an android.

ThisIsSoLonely posted 10/31/2019 14:04 PM

I have not read them (could - I have them all on a zip drive) but my WH said that "I would be disgusted and likely throw up." He also said something similar to this:

I get how it can be erotic to talk/text like that but seriously, at some point wouldn't it just be words on a page?

I think his words were, it got boring and he was "less and less into it over time" but it was raunchy, porn-style texting and masturbating a lot in the car apparently mostly to her talking but sometimes via text (how do you hold the phone and type is beyond me while masturbating).

Zamboni posted 10/31/2019 14:34 PM

Welll, my STBXWH must have started to run out of clever dick comments, because I did see him use the eggplant emoji as well.

Nothing says love, commitment, and respect like “🍆💦”

sickoftears posted 10/31/2019 15:37 PM

Yes I saw them and it still makes me embarrassed for him. They were really juvenile and raunchy. Like 2 nearly 40 year olds reverted back to age 13 and had just learned naughty words. Laughable really. "I'm going to stick my dick so far up your ass it's going to come out of your mouth". Lol. I lost even more respect for him after I read some of those and it really hit home what a child I had been making a life with for the last 20 years.

It did help me learn about the nature of their relationship. There was never any lovey dovey stuff. He used her for sex. He was actually rude to her at times. He treated her like the desperate for attention whore she was.

I wish to add that after this, there are certain things that I will NEVER do with him and sexting is one. Car sex is another.

[This message edited by sickoftears at 4:24 PM, October 31st (Thursday)]

hcsv posted 10/31/2019 16:07 PM

I saw much more than the one the ex knows about. As mentioned previously, I was embarrassed for him. It was juvenile with so many emojis.

crazyblindsided posted 10/31/2019 16:19 PM

My WH says she wasn't good at sexting.

Mine told me she texted him what he wanted to hear I never texted him like that again.

I saw most of the texts/sexts. I recovered a lot through the iPhone backup files burried in the code.

Questioningall posted 10/31/2019 16:27 PM

I saw some, not all, and they were hard to read. The worst was when he described sex with me and how I felt and substituted her for me in the scene. Though 5 years later, I think about it and wonder how she’d have reacted if he had said, “This is how my wife likes it and I think you’ll like it, too.”

SumofOne posted 11/1/2019 09:49 AM

Sickoftears, you should end every text you send to him with this line.

"I'm going to stick my dick so far up your ass it's going to come out of your mouth"

I love that. I might send it to my WW just for fun. The fact that she is not into anal would make it even more fun.

A bit off topic but one thing that burns me up and I do think men have to deal with this more is that my WW doesn't think these guys share her pics with their buddies. "I don't think he would do that". Some wouldn't but most do. They have no respect for her. She's a married woman sending them nudes. She also was blessed with an amazing figure...of course they are going to show or send to their friends.

sickoftears posted 11/1/2019 10:19 AM

Sumofone, that is exactly the way my mind works and I would love to do just that. The amount of smart ass comments that I keep to myself is unreal.

And I believe that you are correct about the lack of respect and discretion a man has for a woman that is a side chick and/or is a cheater. When I told my husband how shocked I was to read how he spoke to her because I had never heard him say things like that before, he looked at me like I had just grew another head and said "I wouldn't talk to you like that".

But I won't exactly argue that he treated me with respect either🙄, just not disrespectful in the same ways.

Happenedtome2 posted 11/1/2019 10:36 AM

I saw the sexts. I was pretty lit up when I did too and couldn't believe my eyes. They would make a porn star blush.
I blew up before getting the chance to forward them, but did forward an email to myself that was a conversation about him pissing himself. She replied that she wasn't into it which made me laugh because of some of the other things that they were saying.

SadieMae posted 11/1/2019 10:58 AM

I've seen the sexts. It wasn't easy to read and I lost a lot of respect for him in reading the juvenile and disgusting things he wrote.

What hurt the most was reading him telling her that he imagined I was her when we were intimate.

He claimed later that he never did it, only told her he did. Whatever, right?

[This message edited by SadieMae at 10:59 AM, November 1st, 2019 (Friday)]

20yrsagoBS posted 11/1/2019 11:06 AM

No,

Per conversation with his AP, he used the same corny (lame) sayings with them that he used on me

My eyes just rolled so hard!

Obviously they didn’t need to put forth much effort to make it worthwhile.

Ick

[This message edited by 20yrsagoBS at 11:08 AM, November 1st (Friday)]

20yrsagoBS posted 11/1/2019 11:10 AM

Meant to be together, never felt love like this, your my everything, I want to run away with you..

Eew how romantic coming from a cheater to a hole.

Skatz1973 posted 11/1/2019 15:33 PM

I found the burner phone and saw "send me sexy pics" (right after we had sex that morning) I was going to throw a load of laundry in, it was in his pants pocket, we ended up wrestling over it, very physical, I bit him so hard he bled. He broke it right then. Wish I could find them. The OW said she deleted all of hers. All I got to see was his initial "are extramarital affairs off limits for you LOL"she replied "well, I've haven't been with a married guy and find you attractive" he replied "well I think you're pretty as well :) is it the day time thing or the married guy thing that makes you would be awkward for the first time ever lol". He tried to tell me that he was the one that pursued her. Didn't look like it was that hard. She answered right away.

[This message edited by Skatz1973 at 3:34 PM, November 1st (Friday)]

crazyblindsided posted 11/1/2019 16:20 PM

Dumbest sext I saw on STBX's phone:

'Do you still have any swimmers left' in reference to his sperm like were they planning on having a baby

Omfg sounds damn sexy to me