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yellowledbetter posted 11/14/2019 15:34 PM

Seriously, is my husband the dumbest man on the earth or is there a special club for these guys that I didn't know about?

Last night we were out with friends and somehow we got on the topic of kids and cell phones...sending and receiving nudes and how at our kids ages it's child pornography. How anything you send on a cell phone is out there forever to come back and bite you in the ass down the road. I sat there thinking, my 52 year old fch did the exact same stupid shit sending and receiving nudes from his 30 year old skank. And we wonder why 15 year olds are acting stupid?! Somebody then said most adults send nudes and sexts at some point to their spouses, blah blah blah. I sat there dying inside thinking how my husband didn't just send those things to his spouse...I was tempted to stand up and say as much as none of these friends know that he's a cheating asshole....but I kept my mouth shut to preserve what's left of my dignity.

Then the topic changed to safe sex and condom use amongst kids...one guy said he made a lot of bad choices as a teenager regarding unprotected sex because he was scared to even go into a store to buy condoms. Again, I sat there and thought, my grown ass husband had full access to all the condoms he wanted while screwing the neighbour down the street for 2 years, but chose not to...no concerns about pregnancy there, or spreading life threatening sti's to his friggen wife!!!!

OMG by the time we left I was spitting nails mad. You stupid, stupid, stupid sonofabitch.

How can an otherwise intelligent human be so f#cking dumb? I honestly cannot even wrap my brain around any of it. It just doesn't make sense at all!!

Needless to say, fch slept on the couch last night. He might be there for a while after that nice big trigger thanks to him being a POS.

*deep breaths* it felt great to get that off my chest

Evertrying posted 11/14/2019 15:44 PM

I know how you feel. My H completely turned into a man that was unrecognizable when he was cheating. He now looks back and calls himself "A selfish, stupid-ass dickhead".

A man that KNOWS how damaging the internet can be (his work is specialized in "secret shit") yet he sent a dick pic to his AP,,,,,
What a fucking moron,,,,

ANNNNNND,,,,,,bought condoms for the first time he fucked her only to be told (by her) that she had an IUD and didn't need to use the condoms. Oh, OK, yeah, no worries about sticking your dick in some God knows where it's been vagina, that's ok because she has an IUD.

Ya just can't fix stupid,,,,,

yellowledbetter posted 11/14/2019 16:49 PM

Evertrying, Ugh. Oh yes, an IUD is the answer My H said he knew he was safe having only been with me, and she claimed the same about herself. So yes, let's believe the town slut who you knew for 5 minutes before you fucked her. Makes sense to me. They didn't even HAVE a conversation about preventing pregnancy!!! Maybe she assumed he was too old

The only way I can make any sense out of it all is to assume he was seriously fucked in the head while making these pathetic choices. Hopefully my kids have seen how that behaviour worked out for their dad and never follow in his footsteps.

And really, in our 50's do we forget everything we ever learned about safe sex? Grow up already, you dumbass!!

Honestly, when it comes to cheaters, you just can't make this shit up.

20yrsagoBS posted 11/14/2019 16:54 PM

I often wonder how they remember to breathe. My Cheater is the dumbest guy with a MBA I have ever known, but he thinks he isn’t stupid.

Yeah, you have to be stupid to cheat

allusions posted 11/14/2019 17:08 PM

Yeah, I really don't get how there's more thought to preventing pregnancy and not to the potential for STDs. She's on the pill or has an IUD and the use of condoms seems unnecessary. The excuses are so ridiculous---"She doesn't have sex with anyone else" or "I thought she was clean" or other dumb statements.

PSTI posted 11/14/2019 17:15 PM

I never really "got" this. Safer sex is such a priority in the consensual nonmonogamy communities that it's one of the first things discussed. I don't know why it seems that it's so uncommon among cheaters.

I don't know why, especially since the consequences of having unsafe sex can be so serious. There must be a reason why it trends this way but it doesn't make logical sense. Not that affairs are logical :P

Evertrying posted 11/14/2019 17:19 PM

ANNNNNNND Part 2,,,,,

My H was so stupid he didn't know what an IUD was and had to Google it!
So the first fuck was with a condom and then after that all bets were off, (as well as the condom,,,)

His AP gave him some bullshit sob story of how she cut her H off sexually 15 YEARS AGO because he forced himself on her and she was afraid she might get pregnant again. (yeah right,,,,) Now, mind you, this woman has been married for 28 yrs and has two grown kids! She told my H she got the IUD 15 yrs ago.

OK, First, EWWWW. If she's had it in there for 15 yrs - OMG she would have a serious case of rotten crotch, but if not and she had it changed out, why? She claims she hasn't fucked her husband in 15 yrs, and she's 50! Why replace it?

My H bought her story. What an idiot.

Men are idiots and I married their King,,,,,

TornInShock posted 11/14/2019 18:50 PM

This is so funny! My WH is normally paranoid and will research the crap out of people he meets, especially ones that will enter our home.

But when he met his AP online on a game, he never bothered to research her. Trusted her implicitly. Sent her all kinds of graphic pictures and videos and they are on her phone, computer and probably some online account on the cloud. He shared all kinds of juicy information about us and our kids.

All for the excitement and sexting and getting his juices squeezed. What a Grade A++++ MORON.

I laugh and laugh because it is truly his problem. I wouldn't care less if he got exposed on the internet! Imagine what his colleagues and family will say! Stupid.

And he knew that nothing digital is safe, and I mean nothing!

EllieKMAS posted 11/14/2019 19:12 PM

OK none of this is funny.....

but I am cracking the fuck up over here

Yeah they are pretty spectacularly stupid aren't they?

My personal favorites?

My xshitbag telling me that he "wouldn't lay hands" on his 18 yo slut AP "until I gave him permission to do so".

And...

When he told her that he would date her and she could fuck me if she wanted to so that I would be ok with him dating and fucking her.

In the words of Bronn from Game of Thrones: "There's no cure for being a c***."

ibonnie posted 11/14/2019 19:45 PM

I never really "got" this. Safer sex is such a priority in the consensual nonmonogamy communities that it's one of the first things discussed. I don't know why it seems that it's so uncommon among cheaters.

The key word there is consensual. Everyone is aware that they're sleeping with multiple partners. Cheaters do some ass backwards mental gymnastics that they're somehow like... doubly monogamous which cancels out STDs AND pregnancy, therefore all infidelity-related sexual acts are safe.

DashboardMadonna posted 11/14/2019 20:04 PM

Yellow,

This is part of why I drink. Social ques and bullshit...I'm divorcing and yet anytime I go out there always some dumbass that says something to trigger me.

On Halloween, a guy I knew from high school, outwardly admitted he was a narcissist out of the blue. Either God has made joke out of my situation or he gave me the gift foresight of the bullet I was about to dodge....I am still reeling on this one.

[This message edited by DashboardMadonna at 8:07 PM, November 14th (Thursday)]

crazyblindsided posted 11/14/2019 20:12 PM

there always some dumbass that says something to trigger me.

Yeah this is me too. I have no more patience. Now everyone just thinks I'm a bitch and I don't give any fucks so it works out

leafields posted 11/14/2019 20:39 PM

It must be some kind of club, but may not be just for men. I asked my WH if he used a condom, which they didn't. I asked him what he would do if she got pregnant. She was 54 at the time, so it was possible but not probable. Found out from a sister that AP did have a pregnancy scare and even went to have an ultrasound.

DashboardMadonna posted 11/14/2019 21:35 PM

Crazy-

Right!? Like wtf?

Not too long ago, a friend of mine made a joke about a guy we went to high school with. He came out of the closet...caught with another man.

I'm like "bitch that isnt fucking funny"... they dont fucking get it.

toonces posted 11/14/2019 21:45 PM

My WW could be a member of this club.

They made a sex tape video and took photos. Not my problem if it's on the internet somewhere. Not my monkey, not my circus.

And the unprotected sex. Hopefully the OM caught her herpes (the one that causes cold sores). WW was on the pill but that isn't 100% effective (only 99% per Planned Parenthood). So there was a 1% chance.....BTW, I haven't caught her cold sore herpes.

The A was going on while she worked full time and was a night student for her master's degree.

You can be educated but that doesn't make you smart.

Chicklette posted 11/15/2019 01:55 AM

I do agree! My WH is an intelligent man who headed upHR departments for years. But he would have sent d**k pics if she hadn’t told him she ‘didn’t do photos’. Presumably because she’s such a fat ugly skank, but thank God for that. And they’d made plans to meet for sex which, again thank God, didn’t happen because I found out. But one day I asked if he’d thought about protection and he was surprised and said no. “But I might have thought about it when it came to it”. Yeah right. What is wrong with these men? I think they are only thinking with their dicks. I told him he could’ve brought STIs home to me and he seemed shocked.

The thing is that once he emerged from the fog he became not just contrite, but appalled and embarrassed by his behaviour. He really isn’t like that normally and it’s given him a huge kick up the arse, and he’s a better husband to me now than he had been for years, but where was his brain for those months??

Chicklette posted 11/15/2019 01:55 AM

I do agree! My WH is an intelligent man who headed upHR departments for years. But he would have sent d**k pics if she hadn’t told him she ‘didn’t do photos’. Presumably because she’s such a fat ugly skank, but thank God for that. And they’d made plans to meet for sex which, again thank God, didn’t happen because I found out. But one day I asked if he’d thought about protection and he was surprised and said no. “But I might have thought about it when it came to it”. Yeah right. What is wrong with these men? I think they are only thinking with their dicks. I told him he could’ve brought STIs home to me and he seemed shocked.

The thing is that once he emerged from the fog he became not just contrite, but appalled and embarrassed by his behaviour. He really isn’t like that normally and it’s given him a huge kick up the arse, and he’s a better husband to me now than he had been for years, but where was his brain for those months??

Evertrying posted 11/15/2019 11:30 AM

but where was his brain for those months??

In his ass. Just exactly where my husband's was. His was so far up there I am surprised he could breathe.

cancuncrushed posted 11/15/2019 20:31 PM

I watched dr Phil yesterday. About cheating. The cheater said he felt like Tarzan. Having his wife and a girlfriend. He was still beaming. You could see the stupidity. He was still bragging. He was glowing like an addict.

I don’t get it. Maybe it’s the fog. I have never or could ever be this dumb. There is good sex. I don’t have to be stupid to enjoy it.

The fantasy is in control. It’s so hokey.

Give me a real man. With honesty and morals. Any day. No need for fantasy and hokey. The real will come naturally. Does he know how he looks to outside world?

[This message edited by cancuncrushed at 8:35 PM, November 15th (Friday)]

cocoplus5nuts posted 11/16/2019 07:43 AM

Cheaters do some ass backwards mental gymnastics that they're somehow like... doubly monogamous which cancels out STDs AND pregnancy, therefore all infidelity-related sexual acts are safe.

Double monogamy...Ha!