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So the stupid things waywards say

My future ex husband asked me when we were gonna come to a financial settlement so we both can go on with our lives.

I was like which one of your lives? Because he has been living his secret second life for awhile just fine without me.

🤣😳 Right? Mine says he loves me and his affair partner about the same.. 🤣🤣🤣 I asked him not to bring the affair partner around the kids. He said okay, but after they are 18 it’ll be their decision. Hmmm does he know who raised them? One is already 18 and never even wants to see him again. Even my stepson( his adult kid from HIS previous marriage) doesn’t want to talk to him ever again. I’ve been begging them both to try to have a relationship w/ him let alone the home wrecker.

These waywords are in another world. Topsy turvy world where all logic from the real world is thrown out the window.

Mine has also started calling me sweetie.. 🤪 He didn’t even call me sweetie when we were together. What’s up w/ that?

[This message edited by lilflower1000 at 5:37 PM, June 2nd (Tuesday)]

Shehawk". I love the "which life?" comment :-).

Liliflower: Mine started calling me "Babe". He never called me that before.

Okay, I have a few:

My WW and I we sitting in the waiting room about to go into our MC appointment, when she looked across at me and said, "Have you ever thought of getting botox?" Yup body shamed just before we were about to work on our relationship.

Oh, she said that blowjobs dont count as adultery...Yup, that was a good one.

Oh, and so for having unprotected sex, she said that she weighed the risks and made a call.

Yup, a real keeper that one.

Justsomeguy Yup, mine said she said the OW hadn’t been w/ anyone but her husband in the last 10 years. He also said OW’s husband repeatedly cheated on her. ( insert Curb Your Enthusiasm music)

Here are a few gems I heard:

My CH: you would like her (the OW) and we should all be friends. My response: I try to keep “friends” who are trying to destroy my marriage to a minimum.

My CH: she’s (the OW) a good person. Hmmmm - a good person doesn’t go around and cause people to get a D (at least my definition of a good person has that as one if the criteria)

My CH: (after the A ended). I don’t like people covered in tattoos. I literally just looked at him b/c I was speechless! The OW was covered - arms, neck, chest and boobs, back, legs etc. Seriously - did he not remember that?

I could write a book on this topic about stupid things cheaters say.

WH promised NC with FAP until at least out of the house (less than a month after DDay). She had broken up with him supposedly three weeks before Dday. Two weeks found out he had been talking to her on the phone about our pending separation and confiding in her. Asked him if he thought that was appropriate or right under the circumstances - his response: "I have no one else to talk to about this"

WH promised NC with FAP until at least out of the house (less than a month after DDay). She had broken up with him supposedly three weeks before Dday. Two weeks later found out he had been talking to her on the phone about our pending separation and confiding in her. Asked him if he thought that was appropriate or right under the circumstances - his response: "I have no one else to talk to about this"

12 months ago today, STBXWH booked a Hotel Room for a night, Stating he and his good mate were going gutter crawling for prostitutes together.

I was going to a Buddhist retreat weekend, alone.

Turns out WH took ugly AP instead.

When asked about the Excessive hotel bill, WH states, “I should have taken a prostitute, would have been better and cheaper”. AP hit the overpriced mini bar snacks and booze a little hard.

WH, ‘I was embarrassed to take her to a bar for a cheap meal and cheaper booze’

AHA...

Less than a week after he had sex with one of my (now ex-) friends:

I know this is crazy and coming out of left field, but did you want to try one last time?

When I asked WH if his A was a PA, he said "the answer is no, but I have to say yes". WTH does that even mean???

He did this for me, so I could remain in my home enjoying my lifestyle. No thanks - I don't want this gift.

He never even would have thought of cheating if I had been the wife I was supposed to be. Yep, apparently staying true to your wedding vows is conditional upon your happiness.

AP is a better woman than I will ever be. Somehow I think I win since I am not a lying, cheating, selfish, immoral skank.

It goes on and on. I have stopped trying to make sense of anything WH says because none of it is rational.

It amazes me how the men cheaters (from what I read here) try to cram the “OW is a good person” down the BS’ throat.

Or are the cheaters just trying to rationalize the cheating by using that tactic?

I forgot one. When I complained about putting health and life at risk from unprotected sex, she said that nobody dies of aids anymore...

nobody dies of aids anymore...

I am loving this topic... it could go on for ever...

My STBXWH on taking AP for testing for a Virus. “It’s not sexually transmitted”

So why I ask did AP GET TESTED...

WH ‘I thought I caught something from it’

Just 1 kiss, was all it took to cure that Virus

The1stWife

It amazes me how the men cheaters (from what I read here) try to cram the “OW is a good person” down the BS’ throat.

Or are the cheaters just trying to rationalize the cheating by using that tactic?

My WW does the same thing. Its just a cheater trying to rationalize it, and make it more human.

"You know, OM is actually on YOUR side a lot. He talks me down when I have too little compassion for you."

"They are both (OM and OW, she cheated with a married couple) really good people. Better than you."

"I never actually cheated on you. I ended our relationship as far as I am concerned before I did anything. I was a single woman doing what I wanted with my body. I was under no obligation to tell you (her husband of 17 years)."

Kitt. Thanks for the response. So it’s a typical cheater behavior that both men and women do - try to cram the AP down the throat of the BS as being “a good person”.

I guess that is his screwed up the cheater becomes during the affair. SMH 🤦‍♀️

"You and AP are actually a lot alike. You'd probably like him"

"He reminds me of you when we first started dating"

"He's a really good guy"

"I wish you could feel what I'm feeling"

"I thought I couldn't feel this way anymore"

What's the female equivalent of emasculated?

XWH said “In the D, I want the house and the kids and since you won’t have anywhere to live, I want the boat, too!”

He also asked my neighbor if he would rent out his rent house across the street to the OW.

Dude seriously thought I would leave my children with him and an OW who was involved in a murder!!

(I got kids, house,equity, boat, golf cart, riding lawnmower, all furniture, part 401K, etc. ) he asked for the carport- I got that, too! He got good chunk of 401K money, and an OW who blew thru his $$$ and cheats on him.

[This message edited by homewrecked2011 at 1:53 PM, June 7th (Sunday)]

After the D XWH said: I need to grow up and be friends with he and OW for the sake of the kids. I told him to call me the next time OBS was in town to pick up her son, and we could all go out to dinner, that I have a lot of things to show OBS.( -OBS didn’t believe his wife was cheating with my WH while he was working out of town. )

XWH never brought it up again.

[This message edited by homewrecked2011 at 9:09 PM, June 7th (Sunday)]