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iamanidiot (original poster member #47257) posted at 9:39 AM on Monday, August 2nd, 2021
Yesterday was our 40th wedding anniversary.
Take away all the negatives associated with the A's and we have had a very blessed/lucky life together.
I am grateful that my spouse unstuck her head 34 years ago, and GOT ON WITH HER LIFE with me. Turning herself around and became the best wife/lover/partner to me & mother to our children. I have no regrets there.
'It should have been different, it could have been so much better' .... those were her words to me yesterday.
I haven't brought up the A's for such a long time now. I am not bothered to. I have a life to get on with.
But it still, and probably always will, bother her.
Here's to the next 40......
Me BS,57 Her WS,552 LTA & 2 ONS 30+years agoD-day 27/12/14At least I still have my sense of humor.I need it.Coming to grips with it all3 Adult childrenStill married
Humbled123 ( member #62947) posted at 2:04 PM on Monday, August 2nd, 2021
Fantastic to hear a positive reconciliation story. So happy for you guys!
Want2BHappyAgain ( member #45088) posted at 2:10 PM on Monday, August 2nd, 2021
It is so GOOD to "see" you again 
!!! What an awesome post...thank you for sharing !!! You have really done a lot of healing since your first posts...and I am so HAPPY to see this one 
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Happy Anniversary too! Forty years...what a milestone !!
A "perfect marriage" is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.
With God ALL things are possible (Matthew 19:26)
I AM happy again...It CAN happen!!!
From respect comes great love...sassylee
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 3:35 PM on Monday, August 2nd, 2021
So ... like ... are you going to change your moniker to 'Iwasneveranidiot'?
Congratulations.
May your next years be even better.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
HardKnocks ( member #70957) posted at 4:22 PM on Monday, August 2nd, 2021
Tanner ( Guide #72235) posted at 5:19 PM on Monday, August 2nd, 2021
Congratulations, thanks for sharing
Dday Sept 7 2019 doing well in R BH M 33 years
Oldwounds ( member #54486) posted at 5:37 PM on Monday, August 2nd, 2021
Nice work Iam- great to ‘hear’ your update.
Thanks again for your help years ago, to get me headed in the right direction.
Married 36+ years, together 41+ years
Two awesome adult sons.
Dday 6/16 4-year LTA Survived.
M Restored
"It is better to conquer our grief than to deceive it." — Seneca
fareast ( Moderator #61555) posted at 6:42 PM on Monday, August 2nd, 2021
Congratulations. That’s great!
Never bother with things in your rearview mirror. Your best days are on the road in front of you.
Chaos ( member #61031) posted at 7:32 PM on Monday, August 2nd, 2021
BS-me/WH-4.5yrLTA Married 2+ decades-2 adult children. Multiple DDays w/same LAP until I told OBS 2018- Cease & Desist sent spring 2021 "Hello–My name is Chaos–You f***ed my husband-Prepare to Die!"
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