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Used Again ( member #16567) posted at 2:43 PM on Sunday, February 2nd, 2014
My wife had several affairs and I stayed to care for my children; didn't know about SI until last couple of affairs. She USED me to take care of everything else while she was screwing her boyfriends. Hence, usedagain was chosen since I had been her back-up plan for her affairs.
My wife has friends in low places.
hurtingfool ( member #42196) posted at 2:58 PM on Sunday, February 2nd, 2014
I'm just a fool in pain. Came pretty easy.
Me: BS 34
Her: WS 32
13 years of marriage
15 years together
3 kids
DDay:January 16, 2014
Chefj9 ( member #38604) posted at 2:59 PM on Sunday, February 2nd, 2014
I am a Chef and it's my nickname combined.
ME - BS 50, Him - WS 46 trying to "R"
4 DD's - blended 26,16, 15 and 13
Multi DDays the grand finale 5/13/2013
From here on out, I am only interested in what is real. Real people, real feelings, that's it, that's all I'm intere
LostSamurai ( member #41347) posted at 3:15 PM on Sunday, February 2nd, 2014
Lost - because wasn't sure which way was up when everything came out.
Samurai - I study martial arts and always wanted to live by a code of honor.
I am the wandering samurai, and I found my freedom...
sideblinded ( member #41475) posted at 3:27 PM on Sunday, February 2nd, 2014
Blindsided: "to take somebody unawares suddenly, with detrimental results to that person."
I think blindsided may have already been taken, hence the transposition of the word. At any rate, it fits so I wear it.
Me: BS, 56
Him: WH, 51, possible SA.
3 kids, 19, 17, 15
M 21 yrs.
OnAnIsland ( member #34319) posted at 3:41 PM on Sunday, February 2nd, 2014
on an island
is how i felt when i found out about the affair- alone- alone- alone- stranded
we had moved away from family and friends about a year before the affair began- so the isolation again felt apt
D-day: Christmas 2011
D-day 2: 3/28/2013
Married for over 15 years
2 beautiful sons
You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. Maya Angelou
solus sto ( member #30989) posted at 5:25 PM on Sunday, February 2nd, 2014
Mine is Latin for "I stand alone."
It works.
BS-me, 62; X-irrelevant; we’re D & NC. "So much for the past and present. The future is called 'perhaps,' which is the only possible thing to call the future. And the important thing is not to let that scare you." Tennessee Williams
WarpSpeed ( member #32051) posted at 5:34 PM on Sunday, February 2nd, 2014
2010
Jan 29 came home from a business trip to an empty closet and a note on the bed. ILYBNILWY
Mar 3 she filed
May 4 divorce final
July 13 she tells me about A and we decide to R
Aug 15 we remarry
It all just seemed an unbelivably fast trip in six and a half months
Me: BS (58) Her: fWW (57)Married 28 years
2 awesome sons graduated college in 2015
She left Jan 2010, She filed Mar 2010, Div final May 2010, She shared it was an A July 2010, Remarried Aug 2010
gahurts ( member #33699) posted at 7:21 PM on Sunday, February 2nd, 2014
Just getting caught up on these. I love the creativity at a time when our worlds are coming to an end.
Purplejacket4 - I always thought your username was because you wore purple scrubs. I always pictured you making rounds in a purple lab coat. 
"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie
MissMouseMo ( member #38562) posted at 2:51 AM on Monday, February 3rd, 2014
Because I feel shy and scared (mousy) and from the Midwest.
"I edit, therefore I am." -BionicGal
Patsfan09 ( member #25965) posted at 3:22 AM on Monday, February 3rd, 2014
Patriots fan, former season tix holder
1st DDay was in 2009
WH-43
BW-44
T-18y M-15y
2 children (dd-13, ds-12)
1 EA/PA 5/2009-10/2012 (with multiple ddays)
Final dday 4/10/14
*went from EA to PA while we were in MC for over a year.
Divorcing his broken @ss
jackie89 ( member #38271) posted at 3:30 AM on Monday, February 3rd, 2014
Mine is so dumb compared to all the creative names here.
I think I read one single post, and was soo happy I found a forum that I could relate to, that I signed up right away without looking at the usernames. So I always liked the name jackie, 89- year I got married!! 
Lionne ( member #25560) posted at 3:45 AM on Monday, February 3rd, 2014
Meet a friend. I was a children's librarian.
I just like cats better. And K seemed to fit. Yes, I'm aware there isn't usually an "e" after the r.
[This message edited by scaredyKat at 9:47 PM, February 2nd (Sunday)]
Me-BS-71 in May HIM-SAFWH-74 I just wanted a normal life.Normal trauma would have been appreciated.
deena ( member #27275) posted at 6:54 AM on Monday, February 3rd, 2014
Deena spelled backwards is "a need" with out the space 
I had many needs when I joined SI.
[This message edited by deena at 12:55 AM, February 3rd (Monday)]
Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it's
better to leave them broken than to hurt
yourself putting it back together.
FracturedSoul ( member #41792) posted at 3:33 PM on Monday, February 3rd, 2014
It describes how I feel...fractured...but fractures do heal if given enough time and attention...regular wound cleaning etc
BS-34
FWH-34
Dating since 1997. Married since 2004.
DDay: 12 Sept 2012
4 OW from 2006-2012. Discovered all @ once.
Dday 2: 08 Nov 2014. There was more. Much more.
NoGoodUsername ( member #40181) posted at 4:38 PM on Monday, February 3rd, 2014
I promised my BW that I would get on SI. At the time, I was a complete mess and couldn't come up with a good username. I refused to delay getting on until I could come up with one, thus, NoGoodUsername. She got that account and password too.
Is anyone else finding this thread triggery/therapeutic?
Me: WH
Her: BW
Dday 7/11/13
"May you be protected from hearts that are not humble, tongues that are not wise and eyes that have forgotten how to cry."
forkinthehead ( member #42267) posted at 4:45 PM on Monday, February 3rd, 2014
Due to his stupidity...made me want to stick a fork in my head. Seriously, why be in a relationship and cheat? Now I would settle to stick the fork in his head.
Just when you think it's safe to go into the water. Life steps in and takes a big bite. Let me rephrase that to a HUGE bite out of ones ass.
lordhasaplan? ( member #30079) posted at 4:47 PM on Monday, February 3rd, 2014
I was recently baptized when I learned of my W affair. All I could think of was, Lord has a plan? Not so sure.....
BS- Me (45)D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10). Currently in R.Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.
nothing2save ( member #35483) posted at 5:09 PM on Monday, February 3rd, 2014
When I joined I really felt like there was nothing to save, meaning the marriage. Turns out I was right.
BS (me) 46
WS (her) 46
Married 17 yrs, Together 24 yrs
2 kids (S 15, D 11)
DDay 1/29/12 (OM #1)
DDay #2 11/19/12 (OM #2)
Divorced 04/14
Two EA/PA confirmed. MANY others suspected. Much like her, the actual total doesn't matter.
outtanowhere ( member #39001) posted at 5:24 PM on Monday, February 3rd, 2014
Suckerpunched was already taken. There were no words I could think of that would describe my pain and complete bewilderment.
Me-clueless BS Dday - 2/19/13 "This isn’t flying. It’s falling with style".Buzz Lightyear - Toy Story
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