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Your original post is awesome!!! Wtg!!

I made an appointment to see my therapist again.

Good for you, sweetie.

I am glad you said no to M right now. IMHO, it is too soon. Keep taking care of you, the rest will fall into place in its own good time.

hugs...

Christmas is around the corner and will be taking two weeks off from my job starting next Monday. What a difference from last year, feeling good and content.

I've remained single, and realized I was not ready for a serious relationship. I got a dog, last month, a mixed breed from a local animal shelter. She's 60 years old in dog years and is so gentle. I think she's a mix of lab and poodle and a pretty shade of caramel. We are taking care of each other. She already had a name and I love it, "STELLA".

Not seeing anyone, but that's ok, I feel I've got to get closer to me before getting closer to a man.....if that makes sense?

I may have rushed too soon into a new relationship after leaving my ex-butt plug husband. I think I just wanted to feel like a woman and feel loved but it was too soon too fast.

My sister is getting married in the New Year and she'll be a pregnant bride...hahaha. Our dad is none too pleased...he's old school, but a softy. I will be the godmother and I'm shopping around for a magic wand to bless this little miracle when it arrives.

I still have hard days, but fewer and farther between. It does get better, every road is a hard road to travel on, but don't let that stop you from getting to where you're heading.

Keep strong and keep moving. Seasons greetings to you all.

[This message edited by Karmita at 10:00 PM, December 14th (Sunday)]

Thanks for the update. I think that many of us wished we could have handled things the way you did with your ex. Keep going, enjoy Stella, and your soon to be godbaby. It sounds like you have peace.

Wishing you a year ahead filled with peace and happiness.

TGT

Thanks for the update! You rock!

You are such a strong women! I know it's been rough or you, but your strength is an inspiration to us all!

Thank you...thank you...for the warm wishes and sending you warm wishes too.

This place is so heartbreaking but also a place of gorgeous hearts that are hurting.

I know how it feels, I know that you're all so lovely.

Love yourself, be fierce and be true to yourselves.

It sucks to be treated as if you're nothing, but remember a cheater has no right to put a price on you. Our value is our soul, and be proud to a have a soul. My pastor gave me the green light to use my potty mouth... except at church...hahaha. He's a good pastor and is more disgusted by liars than he is by my salty language.

So feck..off to the cheaters and bless you all.

you are awesome! i loved your story!

Hello Karmita. So good to hear from you. I have followed your story from the beginning and every update is inspiring and full of encouragement for everyone on this site. As I have said before, you are my hero. You rock!!! Don't forget us Have a Merry Christmas.

Tonight, as I sit here in my house, my fixer upper house, with the soft light from my Christmas tree, I can say I feel at peace.

I feel as though the old me was someone else who went through heartbreak. I've kept the best parts of the old me and added it to the best parts of the new me. I feel whole and grateful, grateful for the old me to not give up on the new me.

Since I divorced my husband, food tastes better, the sun feels brighter. Cheaters steal your senses, steal from your esteem. The further away, with the gift of time, I've realized I was always holding breath around him and never really breathing in and out, it was as if my lungs knew all along that he was no good for me.

I know, I will be ok...more than ok. Life is too beautiful, too short, too special to waste it on those who do not value you.

I wish for all you here, to find peace, to breathe again and to know you'll be ok...more than just ok.

Hugs

Right there with you Sweetie!! I moved 1400 miles from isolation in cold snowy Michigan to the FL gulf coast, own my home, working at an amazing job (although they're trying to kill me...lol 23 hrs in 2 days!) But life is beautiful, isn't it!!! :)

xoxo

Pinky

Pinkyxo, I applaud that you're living a beautiful life.

Hello Karmita,

I am going through the same thing right now, I can't wait to confront the bastard and his whore!!!!

I love your story, very inspirational.

I am wishing you all the best, have a peaceful merry Christmas.

Hi Karmita,

I just wanted you to know that I love your sense of humor. So many of us need to laugh at times to know that we will also come through this OK. I am glad you waited and did not say yes to your BF. I unfortunately started seeing my STBXWH#2 3 months after filing for D from XWH#1. I wished I had your resolve and had not dated and married again so soon. I really thought he was my prince charming, but he turned out to be just another immature frog with warts. Now I doubt that I will ever marry again after living through this for so many years. I will be filling for D next week. He moved in with his OW, but I don't see that lasting very long.

Mainly I just wanted to Thank You for giving some of us the inspiration to not just lay back and cry, but to put on our Bitch Boots and show them who they messed with!!! I hope you have a wonderful Christmas and a Very Happy New Year!!!!

Hello everyone

My sister got married and I have to say I was a great Maid of Honer, even though I blubbered during my speech at the reception. She's my best friend, sister, I love her so much. Our dad, even though he old school, and his daughter was visibly prego at her wedding , he was crying happy tears.

My sister is married to an amazing man, he was there for me for my surprise birthday for Butt Plug. He golfed with him and took him drinking as I moved my stuff into an van and left him with a sweet FU.

Anyway, Butt Plug is still living in his Mom's basement. His ow thang...the red headed slut old news. Funny, I bumped into her again. Paid a teenager 10 bucks to ask her if she's a tranny at our local mall. It was priceless

Great update!

Anyway, Butt Plug is still living in his Mom's basement. His ow thang...the red headed slut old news. Funny, I bumped into her again. Paid a teenager 10 bucks to ask her if she's a tranny at our local mall. It was priceless

I may steal this if given the opportunity. That is AWESOME!

It's too good not to bump this

It's been awhile since I last posted.

Just want to say that things are really good. Time and caring for myself has been a blessing. Things do get better when you kick crazy out of your life.

I'm happy in my own skin, and I'm thankful for so much, My family, my friends old and new.

Jeez, what a roller coaster ride this cheating shit does to a person and how hard it can be to get back on your feet. I'm never taking off my bitch boots with crap people and I appreciate good people all the more.

Big hug to all you here, and never give up on your future without crazy.

Just read through the thread - glad things continue to progress - you deserve happiness!

I have never seen such a concise, take-no-bull approach to this horrible situation. You really are an inspiration!

I know life isn't a fairy tale or a hollywood movie but your story demonstrates a person can create happiness in themselves if they don't allow themself to be 'devalued' as you put it.

Infidelity is indeed the crappy gift that keeps on giving but you kick ass!

Best of luck in the future!

Thanks jobin for your kind response.

I'm not good at giving advice, I just hope that my experience helps others realize they are stronger than they think and to never accept that a cheater determines your value.