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thisissogross ( member #30294) posted at 2:53 AM on Thursday, October 22nd, 2020

Very sorry.

No dogs here, but I squeezed some kitty faces in memoriam-hope that will do.



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StillLivin ( member #40229) posted at 8:36 AM on Thursday, October 22nd, 2020

My cat passed unexpectedly several weeks ago. Since then I've been giving my other cat and dog extra love. I'm still heartbroken, so I know your grief, as many of us do. I'm so sorry. I wouldn't wish the pain of losing a beloved fur baby on anyone. Comfort yourself with knowing that he died in your loving arms. I couldn't imagine a better way to go.

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 carriemcsky (original poster member #48473) posted at 9:44 AM on Thursday, October 22nd, 2020

Thank you all for listening. It really means a lot to me.

Today is going to be tough. Everyone else is going to be gone, so the stillness of the house is going to be overwhelming. I've got some projects that I'll work on but the absence of my dog is going to be front and center.

Pets are a comfort and a tragedy.

Me: BW, 51 (on DDay)
Him: WH, 55 (on DDay)
DDay: June 2015
DDay2: July 7,2015 Found out he was still in contact with OW.

Status: Trying to R

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tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 2:55 PM on Thursday, October 22nd, 2020

When they pass that emptiness that fallows is so hard. It is so strange going into an empty home, and not having them greet you or demanding to play or go outside.

Take time today to go outside if the weather is nice. Breathe the air, and embrace his memory.

Collies are such cool, good dogs. Again, I'm so sorry for your loss.

Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.

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survivingslowly ( member #14214) posted at 4:19 PM on Thursday, October 22nd, 2020

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Your post brought me to tears as we just went through that exactly 2 weeks ago. An almost 14 year old Golden Retriever.

I totally understand the quietness in the house. I still find myself saying "guard the house buddy, I just gotta go to the store and will be back soon"

I put a collage on our back fence with some pictures so that our neighbors and fellow dog walkers would know since he was very well known in our neighborhood. I didn't want people constantly asking "where's "dog""

My oldest DD put a picture and his collar at our dog park....it's beautiful.

Every morning I would give him a belly rub and I still miss it every time I get up. I miss him so much.

I do take comfort in knowing that we did the right thing in the most compassionate way. Our experience was exactly as you described.

There's an emptiness. I totally get it. And I hear you. Still crying here.

Big hugs to you. You are not alone.

BS-me
FWH-him

dday#1-March/07

Fully reconciled. Life is really good!!

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 carriemcsky (original poster member #48473) posted at 7:40 PM on Thursday, October 22nd, 2020

I didn't have as much quiet time as I thought I would. DS called me with a problem and I've been on and off the phone for hours.

But this morning, when I left to run an errand, I said out loud, "I'll be right back" like I always do to the dog. I walked right out the door and when I shut the door, I realized what I had done. I guess it just really hasn't sunk in yet.

And when I came back home, the minute I opened the door, my heart sunk when I realized I was alone.

I miss that darn dog so freaking much. And the tears just keep coming.

Me: BW, 51 (on DDay)
Him: WH, 55 (on DDay)
DDay: June 2015
DDay2: July 7,2015 Found out he was still in contact with OW.

Status: Trying to R

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somanyyears ( member #26970) posted at 9:49 PM on Thursday, October 22nd, 2020

..your post set off a flood of tears as I knew exactly the pain you endured holding and hugging him long past his last breath and heartbeat.

We have only had cats throughout our marriage but the same scene played out a few times with our beloved felines. Having 2 or 3 at home helps us get through the loss..

I highly recommend 2 of anything in the pet department solely for the companionship aspect.

The carrying on and play we watch our cats display keeps us laughing day and night.

After your grieving subsides a little, do consider your next 'pair' of pooches, as so many wonderful dogs need loving homes like yours and are caged off, just waiting for you.

Sending you a sincere..'bark, bark, whoof' of support.

smy

trust no other human- love only your pets. Reconciled I think! Me 77 Her 74 Married 52 yrs. 18 yr LTA with bff/lawyer. Little fucker died at 57.Brain tumour!

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LadyG ( member #74337) posted at 10:20 PM on Thursday, October 22nd, 2020

Thank you for sharing your experience. Hugs to you.

My fur baby is old, unwell and blind but I love her with all my heart.

I will soon have to make a decision about how much longer we have together. Until then I can only hug her to give her comfort.

September 26 1987 I married a monster. Slowly healing from Complex PTSD. I Need Peace. Fiat Lux. Buddha’s Love Saves Me 🙏🏼

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DevastatedDee ( member #59873) posted at 10:27 PM on Thursday, October 22nd, 2020

I am so so sorry. I can still cry about having to put my dog down at 17 and that was 13 years ago. I hugged all 6 of my dogs in memory of yours today. I know I have 6 incredibly painful moments ahead of me, and that is the price we pay for experiencing a love that is like no other from our dogs. It's worth it, but oh it does hurt.

DDay: 06/07/2017
MH - RA on DDay.
Divorced a serial cheater (prostitutes and lord only knows who and what else).

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thebighurt ( member #34722) posted at 11:07 PM on Thursday, October 22nd, 2020

I wish I had a dog to hug. When the kids were growing up, there was always at least one dog around our house. It was always traumatic when one left us. After the kids left home, xpos wanted to travel whenever the notion struck, so that made it hard to have any pets. Since I have been alone, I was traveling quite a bit so felt it wouldn't be fair to the animal. This year I sure would love to have a canine companion!

I'm sorry you have to deal with this big hole in your life now. ((((HUGS))))

Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

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 carriemcsky (original poster member #48473) posted at 11:28 AM on Friday, October 23rd, 2020

After your grieving subsides a little, do consider your next 'pair' of pooches, as so many wonderful dogs need loving homes like yours and are caged off, just waiting for you.

When he got sick, and we knew our time with him was short, I said that I would never have another pet. It just hurts so bad when you know you have to say goodbye.

But this house has always had pets. Always. Save for a 6 month period before we got this one, we've always had at least one dog in this house. And during that 6 months, we had 2 cats, so it wasn't really ever pet-less.

As I was vacuuming yesterday, I realized that I can't complain about the dog hair anymore.

I want to complain about the dog hair.

Me: BW, 51 (on DDay)
Him: WH, 55 (on DDay)
DDay: June 2015
DDay2: July 7,2015 Found out he was still in contact with OW.

Status: Trying to R

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Bigger ( Attaché #8354) posted at 1:18 PM on Friday, October 23rd, 2020

I know it’s early days…

Sometime maybe some months from now you might consider fostering.

As I write this, I’m in my home-office due to preventive Covid restrictions. My black Lab is curled up by my feet, enjoying a foot-massage. He’s the perfect dog and when his time comes, I doubt I will get another.

But… I also think that I have the space, time and the knowledge… Maybe at that time I will foster and possibly adopt an older dog. Fostering an older dog, giving him maybe a couple of years to realize he’s loved and cared for and part of a family… Every dog deserves the end-of-life attention and love you showed yours.

"If, therefore, any be unhappy, let him remember that he is unhappy by reason of himself alone." Epictetus

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IrishGirlVA ( member #39694) posted at 1:36 PM on Friday, October 23rd, 2020

My heart absolutely aches for you. I had dogs when I was growing up but got my first, very own dog a couple years ago. I can't imagine life without her but I know it is inevitable. That's why your words resonated with me so much when you said "pets are a comfort and a tragedy".

I have always had pets (cats) and a few years ago when my last of 3 (Monty) went over the rainbow bridge, that feeling of loneliness, the kind that leaves you breathless, is a feeling I'll never forget.

All my cats were adopted from the humane society and I knew that Monty would want me to have a companion... so the next day I brought Bolo home. It was as if Monty said it was time to 'make room' for Bolo. I understand, however, that people need time after a loss before they can commit emotionally to a new pet.

Hugs to you.

[This message edited by IrishGirlVA at 7:42 AM, October 23rd (Friday)]

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 carriemcsky (original poster member #48473) posted at 3:48 PM on Friday, October 23rd, 2020

that feeling of loneliness, the kind that leaves you breathless, is a feeling I'll never forget

This. Exactly. The emptiness.

This morning I built him a little cairn out back.

Today I am going to one of my favorite places. I'm just going to look out at the water and grieve for my best friend.

Me: BW, 51 (on DDay)
Him: WH, 55 (on DDay)
DDay: June 2015
DDay2: July 7,2015 Found out he was still in contact with OW.

Status: Trying to R

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PricklePatch ( member #34041) posted at 4:23 AM on Sunday, October 25th, 2020

Carrie, hugged my daughter dog today. I understand your loss. I got a call my new service dog is ready for me. I feel like I am betraying Malibu, she saved my life. Hugs to you.

BS Fwh

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