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thyme2go ( member #12908) posted at 10:18 PM on Thursday, February 21st, 2008
Take to heart and soul what the original poster says in this thread. A very wise post.
-t2g
BH - no longer 50
3 DD's - (32, 28 and 21)
Divorced on 8/6/09
FreedomRoad ( member #13961) posted at 6:55 AM on Friday, February 22nd, 2008
bumping because this needs to be on page 1 
Conduct your blooming in the noise and the whip of the whirlwind - Gwendolyn Brooks
brohl5 ( member #13440) posted at 4:40 PM on Friday, February 22nd, 2008
I'm not going to let this define me anymore. He's gone and I couldn't be happier.
You couldn't have told me in July and December of 2006, but there really is a life after this mess.
Breathe, just breathe.
brohl5 ( member #13440) posted at 2:32 AM on Sunday, February 24th, 2008
bump, bump
I'm not going to let this define me anymore. He's gone and I couldn't be happier.
You couldn't have told me in July and December of 2006, but there really is a life after this mess.
Breathe, just breathe.
Momuv4 ( member #17798) posted at 3:21 AM on Sunday, February 24th, 2008
Thank you. I needed this today after yet another false R.
Me: 44,H: 35,Married 1 year
Divorced 07, pregnant right after.
Thought we were in R, wrong!
H still involved with OW 2/08
H said he was committed
3/08 Little Girl Born!
7/08 DUI and found contact with OW
Kicked him out!
Trying to rebuild
yougogirl ( member #11332) posted at 10:55 PM on Monday, February 25th, 2008
Yes, don't reveal sources and/or evidence, I wish I hadn't started asking WH questions in late 2005/early 2006!!! I think it just made him go underground.
Now I can't beat myself up enough when thinking of the opportunities I missed to confirm my suspicions. 
Me = doormat BS, early 50s
Him = Narcissistic XWH, same age
Married 25 years, known 28 years, HAPPILY divorced
One DD (18) and 2 pets
Separated 12/15/14, divorced 11/2016
katherine41 (original poster member #5792) posted at 3:54 AM on Tuesday, March 4th, 2008
peridot ( member #18334) posted at 5:05 AM on Tuesday, March 4th, 2008
I wish that I had found this board years ago. Would have saved me years of heartache.
I think...therefore, I'm single.
It is what it is.
katherine41 (original poster member #5792) posted at 11:47 PM on Tuesday, March 4th, 2008
Re-bumping for the new guys today. I think it applies to WWs just as much as WHs.
naiveandhurting ( new member #18420) posted at 1:47 AM on Wednesday, March 5th, 2008
Thank you katherine. I am a Newbie here - only been a little over one week since D Day - Feb 22. THank you for your strong and supportive words - I am of course not at that stage but it is comforting to know that there is hope.
brohl5 ( member #13440) posted at 5:37 PM on Friday, March 7th, 2008
I'm not going to let this define me anymore. He's gone and I couldn't be happier.
You couldn't have told me in July and December of 2006, but there really is a life after this mess.
Breathe, just breathe.
no_one ( member #18041) posted at 10:10 PM on Friday, March 7th, 2008
awesome post, im gonna really try this
katherine41 (original poster member #5792) posted at 3:35 AM on Tuesday, March 11th, 2008
mom of 2 ( member #11214) posted at 1:52 PM on Saturday, March 15th, 2008
bump
Me: BW
Divorced after 23 years of M thanks to XH's truth trickle.
Status: Recovering and healing. It's going to be a long hard road.
Update November 2013: It only took seven years but I finally turned a corner. :)
WhiteWolfWinning ( member #12475) posted at 2:23 PM on Saturday, March 15th, 2008
K,
I sure wish I'd seen this 18 months ago.
Newbies, read K's post and take it to heart.
I put myself through a boatload of pain, agony, humiliation and financial distress ....
for nothing.
Wolf
Live simply. Love generously. Care deeply, Speak kindly. Leave the rest to God
Thank you, Lord, for the lightness of my burdens
Boadicea ( member #18032) posted at 2:27 PM on Saturday, March 15th, 2008
I too wish I had seen this in the early days...
“One man’s folly is often another man’s wife.” Helen Rowland
FreedomRoad ( member #13961) posted at 4:24 AM on Tuesday, March 18th, 2008
bump for newbies
Conduct your blooming in the noise and the whip of the whirlwind - Gwendolyn Brooks
katherine41 (original poster member #5792) posted at 4:57 AM on Friday, March 21st, 2008
OnlyLonely ( member #14326) posted at 3:26 PM on Friday, March 21st, 2008
I am so glad that you've bumped this. I have looked for it in the past, I think it should be stickied at the top of the forum it's so good.
I read this originally right after dday during what was false R (had no idea at the time) and your post is what lit a fire under me and I honestly think that if I wouldn't have read it, I would have gone months and months in pain with a foggy WS instead of just one week.
This should be page one of the BS handbook.
Me: BS
Him: FWH
Married: 18 years
Status: In R
64fleet ( member #18710) posted at 9:17 PM on Friday, March 21st, 2008
I wish I hadn't brought kids into this marriage, but I truly thought this M was "the one", I really expected to grow old w/her, what a fool I have been
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