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Lalagirl ( member #14576) posted at 12:26 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2019
Oh thank God! ((((Scooby))))
So glad you have those awesome boys of yours!
On another note, it may behoove you to think about getting a RO. You have written proof of some pretty serious threats, sweetie.
2025: Me-59 FWH-61 Married 41 years grown daughters- 41 & 37. 1 GS,11yo GD & 9yo GD (DD40); Five grands ages 15 to 8. D-day #1-1/06; D-day #2-3/07 Reconciled! Construction Complete. Astra inclinant, sed non obligant
Carissima ( member #66330) posted at 1:00 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2019
Stay safe, you will know how much of his threats are real and how much are posturing to those people he feels are taking toy away from him.
Either way you are now removed from the abuse and I hope you stay there. Don't let him manipulate him you back, you deserve so much more!
Scoobydoo (original poster member #70007) posted at 1:25 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2019
Yeah, I got home from work last night, had dinner then while in the shower everything disappeared (bag, phone, laptop from my room) so I locked my door & waited till he got in the shower today.
He took the laptop but didn’t take my other belongings into the bathroom, if he had I wouldn’t of known what was going on on here!! I called his IC who he has AA & anger management groups with & got him some extra support today while I pack some stuff up.
My boys won't leave my side till I get the train tomorrow, so were all staying somewhere else tonight so he won't know where we are.
I don't want to stay at their houses as they all have children.
I won't say I'm not concerned for my safety & that of my kids because he really has lost all sense of reality.
I am hopeful his IC & the group members can help him out of this mindset that "if he cant have me no-one can"
I think we've all been through enough!!!!
Toooo many Dday's over 27 yrs,
Separated from Scooby 'Dum' 19/08/2019
Before you diagnose yourself with depression, or low self esteem,
First make sure you are not surrounded by an Asshole/s.
nekonamida ( member #42956) posted at 1:33 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2019
Good for you, Scooby. Keep us updated to know that you made it safely.
strugglebus ( member #55656) posted at 1:34 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2019
Scooby! I am so glad you are safe and away with your boys. You are a strong lady and you have been absolutely amazing in these past few months. Stay safe. Get an RO ASAP. You are doing everything right here. Take no chances.
BS -DDay: 9/26/16- Double Betrayal
Happily reconciling.
Be True to your Word. Don't take things Personally. Don't Make Assumptions. Do Your Best.
Chaos ( member #61031) posted at 1:35 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2019
Hang in there Scooby! You have a lot of support here.
I'm glad you alerted his IC.
Hugs and strength to you.
BS-me/WH-4.5yrLTA Married 2+ decades-2 adult children. Multiple DDays w/same LAP until I told OBS 2018- Cease & Desist sent spring 2021 "Hello–My name is Chaos–You f***ed my husband-Prepare to Die!"
MamaDragon ( member #63791) posted at 1:56 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2019
hang in there Scooby!
Can you get an RO? He has made some pretty bad statements that indicate he can do some serious harm to someone.
Have an escape plan no matter where you go.
Keep in touch, we worry about you.
BS - 40 something at A time, over 50 now
WS - him, younger than me
Reconciled
Stevesn ( member #58312) posted at 2:11 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2019
As always all our thoughts are with you. Staying safe is the most important thing.
fBBF. Just before proposing, broke it off after her 2nd confirmed PA in 2 yrs. 9 mo later I met the wonderful woman I have spent the next 30 years with.
Tallgirl ( member #64088) posted at 2:13 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2019
SaddestDad ( member #69800) posted at 2:36 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2019
He took the laptop
Your laptop, his or a shared laptop?
Life is a wheel. Sooner or later everything you'd left behind comes around again. For good or ill, it comes around again.
For what profit is to a man if he gains the world but loses his own soul?
BH 32
WW 34 Change4thebetter
Working hard
Lalagirl ( member #14576) posted at 2:47 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2019
Was he drinking and/or on drugs when this crap went down?
2025: Me-59 FWH-61 Married 41 years grown daughters- 41 & 37. 1 GS,11yo GD & 9yo GD (DD40); Five grands ages 15 to 8. D-day #1-1/06; D-day #2-3/07 Reconciled! Construction Complete. Astra inclinant, sed non obligant
Scoobydoo (original poster member #70007) posted at 2:57 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2019
Thank you guys,
I’m changing phones this weekend as it’s been pointed out to me about tracking me through my phone,
My apple laptop
All passwords changed bank accounts frozen, solicitor is handling things now!
Phone call from his IC, so We’re going now, I’ll be in touch when it’s safe,
Police are on their way as 2 of my sons are at my daughters getting her stuff, she lives alone so I’m not leaving her behind!
Ffs I can’t believe this shit!!!
I’m posting mostly so he can see that plans are in place for our safety
If you read this thread boxer, please stop now, don’t do anything you can’t come back from I’m begging you!!
Toooo many Dday's over 27 yrs,
Separated from Scooby 'Dum' 19/08/2019
Before you diagnose yourself with depression, or low self esteem,
First make sure you are not surrounded by an Asshole/s.
Lalagirl ( member #14576) posted at 3:07 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2019
Hang in there, scoobs...you have so much support - here and IRL.
You're doing everything right.
I would hope with all of this evidence he could be committed for a psych eval and treatment. That could give you a breather as well as you get those ducks in a row.
Glad the solicitor is on this as well.
Hugs honey - stay safe and be well.
Lala
2025: Me-59 FWH-61 Married 41 years grown daughters- 41 & 37. 1 GS,11yo GD & 9yo GD (DD40); Five grands ages 15 to 8. D-day #1-1/06; D-day #2-3/07 Reconciled! Construction Complete. Astra inclinant, sed non obligant
tikismom ( member #60546) posted at 3:56 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2019
Please stay safe & update when you can. Thinking about you as you navigate this difficult journey.
Me: 39
Him: 43 (NPD)
DDay #1: Sept 2017; Lots of TT & DDays since. EA & PA with an EX. Last known contact with OW: end of December 2017.
Married 10 years, together 15 at time of dday. 2 very young children.
Status: Working daily toward R.
GoldenR ( member #54778) posted at 4:15 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2019
Edit....
Nm...I see that you've checked in.
[This message edited by GoldenR at 10:27 AM, August 23rd (Friday)]
Shockedmom ( member #44708) posted at 5:16 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2019
Stay safe! Go dark until you are sure he is no longer a threat. I am so sorry you and your children are going through this. I hope he gets the help he needs immediately.
Odonna ( member #38401) posted at 5:47 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2019
Holy Cow!
I know you know to document everything and keep your cool. Keep on keepin’ on!
Boxerdog ( new member #71374) posted at 6:01 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2019
BS ONLY
[This message edited by SI Staff at 12:19 PM, August 23rd (Friday)]
I guess Im scoobydum to her scoobydoo
DoinBettr ( member #71209) posted at 6:19 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2019
We need an admin in here!
Scooby, stay safe!
66charger ( member #69471) posted at 6:20 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2019
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