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No, sorry I wasn't sure about the sarcasm. I bet it does seem ridiculous. Yet, there it is. I don't know one man that doesn't like some type of car. Geek or not and a woman showing skin and the two just go together in visual appealing. I remember being embarrassed when I was a young teen at the carnivals with those type of posters you could win if you busted a balloon and your mom is standing next to you. I always had to pick the white tiger over the supermodel and hot car.

rarely wears anything on the bottom other than pants that are so tight she would have to take them off to fart

My thoughts are one day she is gonna poot and it'll be a stuck bubble.

ZZ...Oh that’s funny!

You know.... when I go buy underwear, I rarely lay across a bed all contorted and stretchy pushing my “bits” out before I pay for the items.

In fact, I’d bet 50$ that no one really would like to see that anyway! Lol...

Sorry, i don't gamble with women's unmentionables.

OMG

Seriously Sewardak & Coco

I’m not stupid just like the guys here! I can tell the ones that did work out cuz they looked like me sweaty, wet hair in a ponytail. And if you are exercising you’d be sweaty and most women in the grocery have makeup and perfect hair.

They are looking for attention in tight clothes.

You think that yoga pants don’t show anything...

Remember the Lilly yoga pants that were almost transparent on the butt.

These women walking around everywhere with them bending over and you see their asses?

First of all I don’t want to see your nasty ass or your cameltoes!!!!

Yes they are comfortable and if I wear leggings or yoga pants I have a long shirt to cover my bum!

Oh And I was the one with the yoga 🧘‍♀️ emoji

[This message edited by Hurtbeyondtime at 3:27 PM, April 6th (Saturday)]

You think that yoga pants don’t show anything...

You reminded me of the first time I brought a GF home to meet the parents wearing yoga pants. My poor Dad. He knew what they were, of course, but he'd never been in the same room with someone wearing them for a long period of time. He was visibly uncomfortable the entire night. Every time she got up, he would turn his head the opposite direction and talk to someone else (or just stare at the wallpaper, who knows). I was used to it, lots of girls wore them, but, my dear father was not and it was quite a shock for him. He never said anything to me about it, but I could read the look on his face "Could someone tell this girl to put on some pants please!".

I pretty much live in yoga pants during my downtime. I don’t wear them to work or church. I wear shirts long enough to cover my sensational booty when out in public, unless I am in an exercise class.

Hm...ok, seems like some people are angry and very judgy.

Anyway, I didn't say it would be totally unexpected to get attention. I really don't care about that. I said my intention is not to get attention. I also didn't say yoga pants aren't revealing. I just don't care. My goal is to do some yoga and get my errands done while I'm out so I don't have to go out again later. BTW, I rarely get sweaty enough doing yoga for it to show by the time I leave.

Can't say why another person wears something. Don't care. I'm just out doing my own business. I do my best not to judge others. I don't know their stories.

No, it would not be ok to walk up to a stranger and asks what she was thinking when she got dressed. Nunya.

Coco

The discussion is about the attention you get!

Leggings are just as bad. I’m in the grocery store or shopping mall and some women are walking around in leggings or yoga pants with their asses jiggling and cellulite!!

Please just stop 🛑

I’m a woman and I don’t want to see that but guess what.. all the guys are looking at y’all. Just like when y’all wear daisy dukes..

I wish a guy would just walk up and slap 👋 y’alls ass because maybe then y’all learn some decorum!

So y’all can’t say it’s not to get attention when that’s all it does!

Ladies, I'm going to get real here. When you wear something that looks like it was sprayed on I'm going to look, long and hard! After all when it is sprayed on I don't even have to use my vivid imagination.

That being said I am also one who actually does step into things to keep them from escalating. I also have PTSD and use these situations as a way to be as mean and evil as I want and still be considered "the good guy"! I also know damn good and well that EVERYTIME I do this I am taking my (and their - whoever the opponent is) life in my hands. When somebody my size and age gets into a fight the chance of SOMEBODY dying is very high.

If I knock somebody out I have put them in a near death situation and sometimes luck is all that prevents that from happening. I will let you in on a little secret, I eat that shit up!!! It is just about the ONLY way that I can recreate the level of excitement I used to get from the war long ago. Not necessarily the nicest part of my personality but still there even almost 50 years after the war.

I also have a severe KISA problem.

(edit to fix spelling)

JMO YMMV

[This message edited by Candyman66 at 4:57 PM, April 6th (Saturday)]

Hurt - I can look like I’ve not worked out after working out. I wear yoga pants to yoga where it isn’t a sweaty workout- hence the word “ yoga” pants.

I don’t know what Lilly pants are (and I know my brands) but the high end brands make it so the camel toe doesn’t show. But I don’t really care if it does. If you don’t want to see it that’s your problem.

How about lettting ppl wear what they want and not caring? Works great.

And your comment about a guy slapping my ass like I deserved it? I’d call the police. No one else gets to decide how I dress.

[This message edited by sewardak at 5:23 PM, April 6th (Saturday)]

I don’t know what Lilly pants are (and I know my brands) but the high end brands make it so the camel toe doesn’t show. But I don’t really care if it does. If you don’t want to see it that’s your problem.

Fair enough. But if people are staring at you is that also my problem? Or if people approach you because they assume those pants are a way to sexually excite (which, if nothing else, this thread should tell you, THEY DO) men and that's why you wore them? Also my problem? Someone else's problem? Guys need to learn to not be excited by women in skin tight pants, right? As long as you're OK with guys looking and the occasional guy (well, except for the poor woman here who can't even grocery shop without guys hitting on/catcalling her) approaching you and trying to strike up a conversations, I don't see the problem.

How about lettting ppl wear what they want and not caring? Works great.

I don't recall anyone saying "don't wear this". I recall a lot of "if you wear this, people are going to react". Right/wrong, they will. They will pass judgement on you no matter what you wear, and if the thing you are wearing is what many would consider sexy, well, some guys are going to think "that's sexy" and approach you. I've never said, "this is how it should be", all I've said consistently is "this is how it IS". Just like I'm likely to get a very different response walking into the bank in my dirty clothes after working in the yard all day vs a suit coming out of work, people will size you up, make judgments and react differently to me.

Deleted because my wife pointed out it was too personal about a family member.

[This message edited by Zugzwang at 6:35 PM, April 7th (Sunday)]

I don't consider it sexy. I consider inappropriate. I consider it dumb ass. I will not apologize for being judgy and not wanting to see my niece showing skin that a decent person would cover. Everyone else is wearing shorts and seem absolutely comfortable. No one else is melting away or fainting and they are wearing more. I don't give a rats ass what her intentions are. I don't want to be exposed to it and I don't want to see. I don't want my children to be exposed to it. So, yes. I care what some people wear.

sewardak

So the brand is Lululemon but my autocorrect changes it.

You remember the debacle of their transparent pants.

They had to ban them at schools why??? Because they were causing too much attention.

I tell my DD all the time to dress appropriate for the function and I’m glad she understands in fact she’s mentioned that she gets comments from guys so she’s realized that she has to be aware of what she’s wearing.

That’s our world..

But I don’t really care if it does. If you don’t want to see it that’s your problem.

Actually it really seems like it is your problem because you do care. You care if people pass judgement.

Sew...

And your comment about a guy slapping my ass like I deserved it? I’d call the police. No one else gets to decide how I dress

Actually if you get sexual harassed or worse raped ... I bet you would reconsider what you wear...

and a slap is basically what men are doing with their eyes 👀... so you should be aware.

I tell my DD .. that Ultimately it’s our responsibility to be Aware of your surroundings and people that could hurt you. Im always looking around when I’m walking to my car or walking at the park because there’s crazy people out there.

Why would you risk dressing provocatively and possibly getting hurt ? Is it really worth it?

Again Ladies... learn from the honest men here!!!

They are being honest by telling you that what you wear affects them. You look and dress like a tramp expect looks and from some men more.

I know that it’s not right to get harassed or raped Period but because we need to be smart about it too .. if you dress like a hobo the odds are much less

Ah, the teenager wardrobe struggle.

In my teens and 20s I was slim with DD boobs. Do you know how hard it is to NOT look like you're dressing for attention when you're built like that? No matter what kind of shirt I had on, I still had DD boobs on a small frame. Prom dress shopping..the struggle was real. Most of the dresses I tried on made me look like I worked in a whorehouse in the old west or something. Shorts were trending short in that time and shirts were varied, but I either looked like I was wearing a tent or like a hot piece of ass no matter what my intentions were. Young women are beautiful and it's okay for them to want to feel beautiful too. I knew when I looked good and it made me happy. The happy part would go away as soon as some guy would grab me or say something seriously inappropriate to me. It is terrifying when you're a young teen for a grown man to leer at your boobs. I wasn't raped when I was dressed up to look good. I was raped when I was dressed in the most boring t-shirt and shorts that I owned. Chilling out with someone I trusted and did not want to hook up with in any sense. My parents were conservative Christians, so I did not get to dress "innappropriately". Did I look good that night? Sure. I was a pretty 16-year-old girl with a nice body. And that was the last time that I worried about looking "too good" around men or boys. Of all the horrible things that came out of that for me, one was an understanding that it didn't matter how I acted or dressed when it came to my physical safety. I had no control over the actions of other people. Anyone I knew could rape me no matter what I did, said, or wore.

Our girls are going to dress in ways that make them look sexy even when they're appropriately covered. You aren't going to make young women look unattractive in any kind of wardrobe. I understand if a teenage guy thinks my daughter is attractive. I will not have them thinking that they own her body because they like how it looks.

Look, judge, whatever. Just recognize that her body is her body and no one but her has a right to it.

Hurt - I stopped reading after the word rsped. You’re saying I should consider what I was wearing if I was raped. Really? Really??? So I am to blame for being raped?

I was raped.

Any Mods reading, please look at this comment by this poster.

RIO - hurt said don’t wear this., it’s inappropriate.,