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Glad you are following everyone's advice.

She will be trying to bait you into contact for a while. Keep strong. She's a doozie!

well said 1985

Truly, I want you let y'all know, I love you all. Thank God for SI. And for all of you.

This site has by far been the biggest source of help for me. My friends and family are all good, but they can't identify with the problem. They've never walked through it. Y'all have.

I am forever grateful for the support and advice received here.

You are doing good UAB.

When the time comes, pay it forward.

k9

Yes! Regardless of what happens to me and the path I am on, I will be here to give advice and support for life.

It's the best worst club on the internet and I'm always going to be here for others, as you all have been here for me.

We were all in your shoes, roughly speaking, at one point, UAB. We're here for you and hopefully, you can return the favor someday to someone else who is lost and hurting.

You've had trial by fire UAB -- you are now a veteran.

Hang tough!

Don't know that I'm a vet yet. But I'm certainly active duty!

Semper Fi ?

Please keep coming here to help you through this and keep coming back afterwards to help the others in the future who get bombed the way you did. There will be so many more and it's so tragic

[This message edited by Western at 5:33 PM, May 18th (Monday)]

It truly is tragic. Most of us never expected to find ourselves standing in the aftermath of these bombs.

Friend sent me this just now... truth.

Read FREEME's post

She is very careful on what she is texting you...

Prepare for the victim and blame shifting when this goes full swing.

Whatever proof you have use, and go for "At-Fault" divorce on grounds of Adultery.

She is with him, and still with him, you helped her raise her kid, she got what she needed from you.

Bail now, FILE, but on your way out kick up some dust for her.

It's not always the lying. It's also the 'in your face cheating' as well.

You are finally making the right moves, you are young, got used and now will move on to greener pastures and more the wiser.

Oh, I poured over FREEME's post. I agree, it seems like a setup.

I'm not concerned, I have more than enough evidence to provide to prove infidelity.

I'm not engaging. Complete, deafening silence. Chirp, chirp, chirp...

She took care of Facebook blocking. Last week, she unlisted me as her husband on FB and then unfriended me. My immediate response was to "raise the shields" and put up strict privacy settings. She can't see anything I post from now on. And, she did the same to me. I can only IMAGINE the brutal lashing that's going on on her wall today. Ask me if I care...

And now, I'm writing my email to my son. I'll pass it along for editing in a bit!

Hey UAB. Did you see my post about your son back on page 22? If you express yourself better in writing, as I often do, send the email. I would try calling first. He may want to hear your voice. He needs reassurance and he may, or may not, get that from the sound of your voice.

yop

She took care of Facebook blocking. Last week, she unlisted me as her husband on FB and then unfriended me. My immediate response was to "raise the shields" and put up strict privacy settings. She can't see anything I post from now on. And, she did the same to me. I can only IMAGINE the brutal lashing that's going on on her wall today.

If you do want to see it, it is trivial to fix that by creating another FB account. Been there, done that...

I did read it! I'm actually basing my email to my son on it. I'll pass it along soon.

Keep in mind that anything you send to your son will be shared with your WW

DS,

I am sorry that you are hurt and angry. It hurt me too when your Mom decided to spend the night with her boyfriend again.

I need to apologize to you, I should have explained to you that I told your Mom that there would be consequences if she went back to her boyfriend. As you know, she did.

I know that you do not realize this right now, but it was for the best for all three of us that I not be there when your Mom got home. I am sorry that you think this is the cowardly way out. I'm sorry you had to deal with your mom upon her arrival, but it is ultimately your mom that is choosing to put us both through this. I'm not trying to ask you to pick a side. Your mom needs you right now. Be there for her. But as I told you the night we told you what was going on, I respect you enough as a grown man to tell you the truth and not sugar coat it: Your mom is the one forcing my hand.

I'm trying to say, sometimes, adults have to make hard and messy choices. They make a stand and expect to be treated with respect. I am not a coward, but a man that has to stick to his word and now there are consequences to the disrespect and pain your mom is putting us through.

Maybe one day, you will understand why I handled things this way. I love you and have no intention of ignoring you. I had to not answer your calls last night because I knew your mom would try to communicate through you. We are not ready for communication again.

I am devastated by what my wife has done to me, to our marriage and to our family. I am so sorry that she has torn up both of our lives with this. I promise, DS. I love you. I am for you. I'm not abandoning you and I'm not running away.

What I am doing, though, is standing up for myself and taking back the respect that we both deserve.

If you want to distance yourself from me right now, I understand. But I'll always be here, as long as it's you communicating, not your mom. My door is always open to you. You're a good man. You're smart, you're funny, you're a man after God's own heart. You have so much integrity and honor. I could not be any more proud of you. My life has been enriched by you.

I love you son. Stay strong.

Dad