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tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 8:03 PM on Tuesday, April 8th, 2014
(((SAF))))
Now what. You know that NO matter what you decide, stay or go, we will support you, but we will give you tough love to demand the respect and love you deserve.
(((and strength))))
Life is short, demand the love you deserve.
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 8:10 PM on Tuesday, April 8th, 2014
((((Saf))))) I'm so very sorry.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
still2suspicious ( member #31722) posted at 9:17 PM on Tuesday, April 8th, 2014
(((SAF)))
My heart just broke for you. I am so, so sorry.
Take a deep breathe. And then take all the time you need to proceed.
Did you think of any plans in case this became the truth?
Again, I am so sorry. 
sending strength.
Me: BSHim: WHDDay: LTEA Every storm runs out of rain - Gary Allen
D final 2/23
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 9:52 PM on Tuesday, April 8th, 2014
I know that you were expecting this result, but it had to have been a knockout punch to the gut. I am so very, very sorry. Please remember to keep breathing and to take care of yourself. (((hugs)))
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
nutmegkitty ( member #33882) posted at 9:55 PM on Tuesday, April 8th, 2014
Me - happy!
2 DDs
Very happily divorced from an NPD since 2013.
CheaterMagnet ( member #33581) posted at 9:59 PM on Tuesday, April 8th, 2014
(((SAF))) I am so f-ing sorry.
If Happy Ever After did exist, I would still be holding you like this.
All those fairly tales are full of shit.
One more fucking love song I'll be sick. ~ Maroon 5
5454real ( member #37455) posted at 10:08 PM on Tuesday, April 8th, 2014
I am sorry the results came out the way they did.
sending strength
BH 58, WW 49
DS 31(Mine),SD 29,SS 28(Hers),DS 16 Ours, DGS 11, DGD 8, DGS 3
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 13yrs
"I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone."
― Sophocle
gonnabe2016 ( member #34823) posted at 11:56 PM on Tuesday, April 8th, 2014
Even when we *know* the answer, it still hurts to really know it.
I'm so sorry.
"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.
annb ( member #22386) posted at 12:12 AM on Wednesday, April 9th, 2014
(((((SAF & children))))) I am so sorry. I cannot fathom the pain you are in.
I also cannot fathom an adult married woman purposefully getting pregnant by her AP.
I am both angry and sad for you and your family.. 
No matter what you decide, please do what's best for you and your children. Truthfully, your wife should be out of the equation at this point IMO. I don't think she understands the impact of her choice as nothing has really changed in her life.
Swaying ( new member #41447) posted at 12:34 AM on Wednesday, April 9th, 2014
Me: BS-34
Him: WS-43
Together 4 yrs, married 2
2 kids: DS-3, DD-18 months
First STD: 38wks preg w DS.
Second STD: July/August 2013
DDAY 1: Nov 5, 2013 admitted to ONS
DDAY 2: Nov 23, 2013. LTA is preg. W twins. Due June 2014.
jb3199 ( member #27673) posted at 2:09 AM on Wednesday, April 9th, 2014
BH-50s
WW-50s
2 boys
Married over 30yrs.
All work and no play has just cost me my wife--Gary PuckettD-Day(s): EnoughAccepting that I can/may end this marriage 7/2/14
outtanowhere ( member #39001) posted at 2:24 AM on Wednesday, April 9th, 2014
I was really hoping against hope that this would turn out differently. I know you were too and I am so very sorry for the pain you are in right now.
Please know that even tho we all don't know each other IRL, we are all definitely connected to one another. We are all here for you when you are ready.
Take care friend
[This message edited by outtanowhere at 9:05 PM, April 8th (Tuesday)]
Me-clueless BS Dday - 2/19/13 "This isn’t flying. It’s falling with style".Buzz Lightyear - Toy Story
confused615 ( member #30826) posted at 4:30 PM on Wednesday, April 9th, 2014
How are you doing today, SAF?
BS(me)44
FWH 48
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
swizzlestick03 ( member #30102) posted at 4:38 PM on Wednesday, April 9th, 2014
SAF, I am so very sorry.
How are you holding up today?
Remember-you don't have to make a decision on anything today. Allow yourself time to get through the shock of this piece of the puzzle.
We are all here for you and will support you.
Me: BW-36
Him: WS-35
D-Day #1: 16 August 2010
D-Day #2: 16 January 2011
One smallish kiddo.
still2suspicious ( member #31722) posted at 9:11 PM on Wednesday, April 9th, 2014
SAF
Praying you are doing as good as you can.
Sending more strength to you.
Me: BSHim: WHDDay: LTEA Every storm runs out of rain - Gary Allen
D final 2/23
strangeasfiction (original poster member #42160) posted at 9:39 PM on Wednesday, April 9th, 2014
Thanks, everyone. I'm doing as well as might be expected. The actual result doesn't bother me as much as her reaction to it. We're headed for separation right now, I think.
Me - BS 39
Her - WW 34
Kids - 3 & 1
Married - 9 years
Status - FUBAR
cdnmommy ( member #30182) posted at 9:43 PM on Wednesday, April 9th, 2014
I am so incredibly sorry. (((SAF)))
Me: BW
DDay: Oct 2010 + 6 weeks false R
2.5 (+?) year A with married coworker/my "friend"
2 great kids
Reconciling and healing
Catwoman ( member #1330) posted at 9:43 PM on Wednesday, April 9th, 2014
A separation will allow you to heal and her to get a goodly dose of reality.
I am so sorry it has come to that, though.
Cat
FBS: Married 20 years, 2 daughters 27 and 24. Divorced by the grace of GOD.
D-Days: 2/23/93; 10/11/97; 3/5/03
Ex & OW Broke up 12-10
"An erection does not count as personal growth."
betrayedfriend ( member #19785) posted at 10:14 PM on Wednesday, April 9th, 2014
I'm so sorry that you're hurting. I don't have anything to add other than to make sure you're taking care of yourself. You still have your children who need you and you're going to have the fight of a lifetime on your hands. Make sure you're eating healthy, drinking lots of water and getting sleep.
I originally joined SI as a way to help my best friends find ways of coping with infidelity, but now infidelity has touched my family much closer to home.
k94ever ( member #11176) posted at 11:48 PM on Wednesday, April 9th, 2014
What was her reaction?
k9
BS:61
WS: 53
Betrayed: 24 years
Affairs: 15 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.
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