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badlyhurting ( member #18915) posted at 4:01 AM on Monday, March 16th, 2009
bump.
Anyone new? READ THIS AND FOLLOW!
Me - 37 BW
Him - 50 WX/Sperm Donor
5 beautiful children
Dday 10/29/07 - day after my birthday, 23 days before birth of #5
Too Many False Rs; D final Feb. 09.
brohl5 ( member #13440) posted at 7:55 PM on Thursday, March 19th, 2009
bumping for newbies 
I'm not going to let this define me anymore. He's gone and I couldn't be happier.
You couldn't have told me in July and December of 2006, but there really is a life after this mess.
Breathe, just breathe.
badlyhurting ( member #18915) posted at 12:19 AM on Saturday, March 21st, 2009
Me - 37 BW
Him - 50 WX/Sperm Donor
5 beautiful children
Dday 10/29/07 - day after my birthday, 23 days before birth of #5
Too Many False Rs; D final Feb. 09.
starling ( member #2081) posted at 7:48 PM on Tuesday, March 24th, 2009
still confounded ( member #7826) posted at 2:31 AM on Tuesday, March 31st, 2009
bumping for new-to-SI folk...
"Sometimes, the rest of your life starts with goodbye."
D-day April 2005
(Married 33 years, together 35)
Divorced Dec. '05
Life is good, but it took a long time to heal.
still confounded ( member #7826) posted at 4:25 AM on Tuesday, April 7th, 2009
"Sometimes, the rest of your life starts with goodbye."
D-day April 2005
(Married 33 years, together 35)
Divorced Dec. '05
Life is good, but it took a long time to heal.
SuspiciousWife ( member #18108) posted at 11:39 PM on Wednesday, April 8th, 2009
Bumping again. I so wish my sister had taken this advice to heart... 
Me - BW, 44
Him - FWH, 44
OW - former co-worker
3 great kids
DDay - April 25, 2008 - mostly EA with one make-out session
badlyhurting ( member #18915) posted at 4:53 AM on Saturday, April 11th, 2009
Me - 37 BW
Him - 50 WX/Sperm Donor
5 beautiful children
Dday 10/29/07 - day after my birthday, 23 days before birth of #5
Too Many False Rs; D final Feb. 09.
feelingfoolish ( member #22804) posted at 9:22 PM on Tuesday, April 14th, 2009
This is wonderful information . I wish I had read it sooner. Thanks for the insight.
Multiple ddays-LTA with coworker.
imagoodwitch ( member #23375) posted at 9:48 PM on Tuesday, April 14th, 2009
Thank you "bumpers", I do remember reading this early on and it was nice to read again. Either we are on the road to a successful reconciliation or someone has shaken my snow globe and I am getting snowed on, only time will tell.
Ordinary average everyday sane psycho super goddess
still confounded ( member #7826) posted at 1:47 AM on Monday, April 20th, 2009
"Sometimes, the rest of your life starts with goodbye."
D-day April 2005
(Married 33 years, together 35)
Divorced Dec. '05
Life is good, but it took a long time to heal.
JustKeepSwimmig ( member #19269) posted at 2:18 AM on Thursday, April 23rd, 2009
Mr. JKS - EA/PA
DDay - April 2008
Skimyster ( member #23751) posted at 5:44 AM on Tuesday, April 28th, 2009
Very well said!
I would add trust your gut. You know when it is time.
Me - BS
Her - WW
D-Day #1: 3/28 for EA, probably PA
S 4/17
D-Day #2: 4/22 (evidence of PA)
Filed for D (uncontested)
D finalized 5/26
katherine41 (original poster member #5792) posted at 3:34 AM on Friday, May 1st, 2009
kluelesskat ( member #23552) posted at 6:24 AM on Friday, May 1st, 2009
I guess I should feel fortunate that my WS was completely defogged in less than 2 weeks. Somehow it doesn't make me feel better about what he has done.
Me - BS
Him - WS
MOW - Ole fatty w 2 others on the side besides mine and her husband
jewel123 ( member #22863) posted at 11:55 PM on Friday, May 1st, 2009
Bumping
Since this should be on the first page
BS me 44
H 46 (paulie)
married 25 years (hs sweethearts)
dday 8-08
DS19
DS23
New love is the brightest, and long love is the greatest, but revived love is the tenderest thing known on earth. -Thomas Hardy
Reconciled! :)
morningside ( member #23765) posted at 9:50 AM on Sunday, May 3rd, 2009
Great thanks! I've read and re-read this post and have come up with my minimums - IC, return from posting OS, honesty and MC.
Also, believe the line that you don't have to reconcile. I think we are too hard on ourselves with this one.
Thanks again for the great post.
Mum (30) of 3 little boys 7ys and under
Together for 12 years, M for 9 yrs
D-Day 14/03/09 - found out about first 3 A's (starting during engagement in 2000).
D-Day 2 04/09 - A #4 and now with OW #4
Status: S 15 Mar 09 - in different countries
katherine41 (original poster member #5792) posted at 3:41 AM on Thursday, May 14th, 2009
survivor78 ( member #23703) posted at 8:57 AM on Thursday, May 14th, 2009
Great post.
I wish I had gotten a whole lot more physical with my anger. Wish I'd poured gasoline on all the wedding things and lit the blow-torch to it in the front yard, and when the neighbors would hurry over to inquire, wish I'd have told them in plain terms what WH did to me and our marriage.
Wish I'd taken all that glassware I saved from our wedding and used it for target practice on the range.
Wish I had used a lot more dirty words when I confronted him and a lot fewer tears.
Still wish I could compile everything my WH says about the MOW now and send it to them. (Cackle)
Of course, the other information in this post is more productive ... 
[This message edited by survivor78 at 2:58 AM, May 14th (Thursday)]
crushed/destroyd ( member #23956) posted at 5:45 PM on Thursday, May 14th, 2009
Whatsoever Ive feared has come to life
Whatsoever Ive fought off became my life
Just when everyday seemed to greet me with a smile
Sunspots have faded
And now Im doing time
Cause I fell on black days - Soundgarden
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