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ba1987 ( member #28761) posted at 5:04 AM on Friday, June 18th, 2010
I wish that I had trusted my gut 5 years ago when I first suspected something was wrong. Maybe I wouldn't be in this awful place...
D-day: May 6, 2010
TT ever since
Looking for peace among the madness
SuspiciousWife ( member #18108) posted at 3:54 PM on Friday, June 18th, 2010
Me - BW, 44
Him - FWH, 44
OW - former co-worker
3 great kids
DDay - April 25, 2008 - mostly EA with one make-out session
justbreathe ( member #13765) posted at 4:53 AM on Saturday, June 19th, 2010
Bumping for all in pain tonight.
In times of universal deceit, telling the truth becomes a revolutionary act.
George Orwell
diditagn ( member #3433) posted at 4:23 PM on Friday, June 25th, 2010
Happy people don't have the best things, they make the best with what they have.
justbreathe ( member #13765) posted at 7:35 PM on Saturday, June 26th, 2010
Bumped to share the collective wisdom.
In times of universal deceit, telling the truth becomes a revolutionary act.
George Orwell
summerbaby ( member #28879) posted at 5:26 AM on Sunday, June 27th, 2010
Thank You!! I needed this. You know that Denney's commercial where the person gets hit upside the head with the skillet? Thanks for being the skillet. Actually, this whole site has pretty much been that skillet. Kinda makes me feel like an idiot to need the skillet, though.
"Find out who you are, and do it on purpose.- Dolly Parton
jjct ( member #17484) posted at 12:42 AM on Friday, July 2nd, 2010
"We're all idiots" bump
unarmbears ( member #7480) posted at 4:34 AM on Wednesday, July 7th, 2010
Bumping for the new folks. So sorry you needed this place, glad you found us.
FBS-Me, 67
FWH-Him, 62
2 Sons 33 and 38
2 Daughters 36 & 31 And 5 darling grandchildren!
"Love is an impulsive act, it's free. It's the story we tell about it afterward that's our poverty." Byron Katie
still confounded ( member #7826) posted at 2:02 AM on Friday, July 9th, 2010
Bumping for TJC (that's tammyjean100!)
"Sometimes, the rest of your life starts with goodbye."
D-day April 2005
(Married 33 years, together 35)
Divorced Dec. '05
Life is good, but it took a long time to heal.
lost27 ( new member #28823) posted at 3:48 AM on Friday, July 9th, 2010
I know what I would have done if I were the WS and wanted to R. Now I know not to expect nothing less than what I would do in that situation.
HOW TRUE,
Problem is when you ask him what he would have done if I would had had the A, he says he never would forgive me... so does that mean i should never forgive you? AGHHH!
brokeninfl ( member #21896) posted at 2:12 PM on Friday, July 9th, 2010
I still love this post. I read it at least once every few months. It's so so so so so so so so so true. every word. Best post ever!
"On the other side of fear lies freedom"
Me - 39 BS
Him - doesn't matter
2 DS
DD 11/08
Divorced.
ob-la-de ( member #23735) posted at 4:44 PM on Sunday, July 18th, 2010
punky ( member #12233) posted at 11:55 PM on Sunday, July 18th, 2010
Bumping for songinmyheart and all the others.
13 years later...finally healed. Definitely survived and thrived and you can, too.
freshwound ( new member #29081) posted at 1:00 AM on Monday, July 19th, 2010
Just Found Out is certainly the right place for me to be. I literally found out a few hours ago. I found an unrecognized charge on a credit card which led to the discovering of a membership on an infidelity website.
I haven't said a word; I'm determined to play this smart. I believe you can either borrow your experience or buy it, so I'm looking for experience to borrow from all of you.
I have decided to purchase a web monitoring software to collect as much information as I can. I also need to get a look at the iPhone. What else should I do in these early stages? I just want to find out as much as I can on my own before the confrontation.
Thanks!
BS: me 41
WH: 43
Kids: D-14 & S-11
POSOW: anybody will do, EAs, PA?
D-Day July 18, 2010
freshwound ( new member #29081) posted at 1:00 AM on Monday, July 19th, 2010
Just Found Out is certainly the right place for me to be. I literally found out a few hours ago. I found an unrecognized charge on a credit card which led to the discovering of a membership on an infidelity website.
I haven't said a word; I'm determined to play this smart. I believe you can either borrow your experience or buy it, so I'm looking for experience to borrow from all of you.
I have decided to purchase a web monitoring software to collect as much information as I can. I also need to get a look at the iPhone. What else should I do in these early stages? I just want to find out as much as I can on my own before the confrontation.
Thanks!
BS: me 41
WH: 43
Kids: D-14 & S-11
POSOW: anybody will do, EAs, PA?
D-Day July 18, 2010
glasvegas ( member #22639) posted at 1:08 AM on Monday, July 19th, 2010
Not much you can do with the iPhone, except look at his texts and mobile safari history - both of which can be deleted to cover their tracks.
You can look at who they are calling/texting from AT&T's website - but you won't be able to get the body of the texts.
eamherst14051 ( new member #28990) posted at 1:16 AM on Monday, July 19th, 2010
freshwound..........there are companies that can get deleted text messages however I believe they will need the phone and of course its pricey. What isn't!!
justbreathe ( member #13765) posted at 6:49 PM on Monday, July 19th, 2010
In times of universal deceit, telling the truth becomes a revolutionary act.
George Orwell
still confounded ( member #7826) posted at 2:07 AM on Friday, July 23rd, 2010
Bump for JFO newcomers ...
"Sometimes, the rest of your life starts with goodbye."
D-day April 2005
(Married 33 years, together 35)
Divorced Dec. '05
Life is good, but it took a long time to heal.
AngelBetrayed ( member #28579) posted at 3:20 AM on Friday, July 23rd, 2010
I wish I had not destroyed the copies of emails that FWH sent to me that OW sent to him after D-Day.
BW: Me 45 ( now 53 )
BH: Him 38. ( no longer relevant )
together 10 years, married 8 on DD
Reconciled for 6 years, Divorced
1 DD: 12
Confessed: February 26, 2010
PA 1.5 years with coworker MOW
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