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Wondering how many of us have contracted STD's from our WS's infidelities? The mods will consider giving us our own space in "I Can Relate" if there is enough 'interest'.

Am I the only one?

I know of a few others, I just don't know if they are still posting.

[This message edited by painpaingoaway at 4:11 PM, February 16th (Wednesday)]

If there is enough interest we can create a thread in ICR We'll use this thread a guage

High-risk HPV here from the first affair 8 years ago. Thankfully, after biopsies that removed lesions on the cervix, I've tested negative since and was taken off the dysplasia program a couple of years ago. When I first tested positive, I told my doctor to do a hysterectomy because I didn't want to be on pins and needles after every pap. But he was a wonderful, caring older doctor who gently explained to me that I had great chances to beat the disease with my immune system.

[This message edited by Tearsoflove at 2:53 PM, March 6th (Sunday)]

Chlamydia for me. BH didn't get it. He said we would be divorced if he had.

Incurable STD for me

...funny thing is is that I never had any problems from before his A

...his blood test came back negative

....his and his Dr's conclusion

...I had this from before our (at the time) 26 year M and he never got it from me after all of that time.

He had confessed to his unprotected infidelity with a bar skank, multiple times, before his tests results came back.

So I am not sure if I could be counted in these results or not.

(HUGS)

Unfortunately I have to raise my hand. Herpes, both of us were tested, I was the only one who was positive...was a BW in previous marriage.

At the time I felt like calling xwh's current gf to tell her, but I didn't and now they are broken up.

DeeplyScared,

May I make a suggestion? It sounds like a topic that is worthy of it's own ICR section because there are some people who my not be as comfortable posting about this here, but may have a question related to the topic later.

Just a suggestion....

I picked up a bad case of nasty skank! Does that count?

I actually have questions about the STD thing. FWH and I both got tested within the week of DDay #1. Both were negative. If he's telling the truth, the only unprotected time was last January -- the first night they met/had sex. They had sex twice more, but claims each time she brought condoms.

I posted a thread awhile ago about whether or not I could still have something show up at a future pap (I'm due in April and will be requesting STD tests annually forever more ). Is it really true that even if I did have something show up that it could be from exposure from before H and I were married? (we've been together for 14 years now, and I never had any positive tests for anything prior to that).

Also, I contracted a case of bacterial Vaginosis during the A -- is there a chance it was from that one night in January as well?

Yes.

I also think it would be beneficial for people to get information from people who have experienced it. As embarrassing as this topic is, I am 40 years old and sometimes get confused about the info out there.

The other problem I ran into was Doctors who do not want to get involved in a possible marital dispute. So instead they let me stay confused that somehow I had got this from previous relationships. Or they just placated me into believing it was not a big deal. One did not even tell me that BV was sexually transmitted. I guess they did not want to get involved. Unfortunately after 17 years of monogamy I did not stay up on the latest STD information and I was incredibly stupid. I had no idea that as my husband stood there gallantly holding my hand through biopsies etc etc, that he had given it to me. They and him let me believe otherwise, that this was somehow my fault.

Needless to say I have since found a different doctor who is female. When I told her what had happened, she could not believe how I was treated or the lack of information that was not provided.

I have never felt so dirty or disgusting in my life. It was so traumatic, I now have a hard time going in for a pap smear.

Slightly different story here...

Just before my husband and I met, I had one very brief relationship with someone else.

Before my husband and I met, he had several simultaneous, and very long-term (many years!)FWB (Friends With Benefits) relationships with other women (which were all open, and everyone knew and accepted that these were open FB/FWB relationships).

So then he and I met and very quickly became a monogamous couple. And somewhere in that first year, we both discovered we had herpes.

We will never know whether I gave it to him, or he gave it to me...or from which person he/I got the "original" infection.

But since the early months of our relationship (almost twenty-six years ago), we have both had herpes, and we will never know which of us gave it to the other.

[This message edited by Kjersti at 6:22 PM, February 16th (Wednesday)]

I got the gift of high risk HPV. He all of a sudden got a genital wart and then tried to blame it on me. I didn't know at the time he was having unprotected sex with a nasty skank who was doing everyone.

I also got an infection and had great discomfort. Ended up having multiple gyno visits, painful exams everytime, and lots of different types of meds. He insisted on being at all of them. I found out later it was because he didn't want me tested for anything so he showed up and insisted to the dr. that he had been faithful so they didn't test me for all the usual stuff.

I ended up having surgery since they couldn't figure it out. They found nothing but gave me tons of anitbiotics and then mysteriously I was better.

I still can't believe the lengths he went to and the stuff he put me through to cover his multiple As.

I also have a lifetime "gift" as a result of the affair. I have little interest personally in an ICR thread, but if one was started I would help to support it.

I never had a yeast infection until stbx cheated. I also got trichomoniasis and group B hemolytic strep--fortunately my regular OB was out of town the day I delivered my son; the OB on call couldn't locate my earlier labs (which were negative) and re-ran the B-strep test. It was positive. I hate to think how my son might have been affected if I'd delivered on time. (The STD is a primary cause of neonatal pneumonia and death.)

I went in for my annual and found out I had trichomoniasis, I never heard of it and realized that my H had some explaining to do. I have been with him and only him for nine years so I knew it came from him, It is sad that this is what has become of our relationship.

In October I had my annual pap and was told that I had bacterial vaginosis. I had never had an issue before so I asked the nurse if I needed to go home and confront my husband. She said, "Oh, definitely not. Any woman can get bacterial vaginosis."

Why, in 39 years, had I never had it before? Since he and I have been together I have had more yeast infections too. Thankfully, the doctor did not find anything else or I might have planted WH 6 foot under.

I got a the "gift" from his skank-a-whore-ous. Imagine my surprise when what I thought was a yeast infection turned out to be a

Trichomonas Infection. I've only EVER been with my husband. I thought I was going to vomit at the gyno office when she told me I had an STD. I was so humiliated, embarassed and ashamed. And I did nothing wrong except have total trust in my husband. I feel like such a blind idiot.

Count me in to a group I would rather not belong to.Found out I had HPV and had some of my cervix removed.

Heard through a friend, his ex GF tested positive for HPV and another girl he was with has it.Funny,he has no synptoms and does not believe he is spreading this virus!!

well i think i may have one :( going in the next week to be tested.i also tested positive years ago when i was preg with my first dd for group b strep(like a previous poster, after my first test resulting neg, my ob did the test but then went on maternity leave and i had to deliver with a different doctor).i got lucky, and so did my sweet girl.this is so embarrassing.