This Topic is Archived
ChoppingOnions (original poster member #31671) posted at 12:17 AM on Thursday, June 2nd, 2011
Breaking...
She admitted to OM#2.
OM#3 and #4 incoming.
Can't talk now. FUCK!
BS(me)-44
WW-43
Married-15 yrs
Daughter-(4)
D-Day: 5/31/11(EA/??PA)
D-Day #2 (PA), #3, #4: 6/1/11 (WTF?!)
jjct ( member #17484) posted at 12:19 AM on Thursday, June 2nd, 2011
Stay strong onions)))
We got your back.
palerider ( member #22496) posted at 12:22 AM on Thursday, June 2nd, 2011
jsatriani2010 ( member #30285) posted at 12:26 AM on Thursday, June 2nd, 2011
Do not acquiesce. Push hard my man. YOU ARE DOING WONDERFUL!!
Me: 66
Her: 64
DS: 29
Married 42 years
SpaceMountain ( member #32228) posted at 12:28 AM on Thursday, June 2nd, 2011
Heh, at this point I would pretend R until until she has to go on a business trip, then change the locks, drain the joint checking account, run up the joint credit cards, etc etc etc.
Go get a shark lawyer. Take her for all the spousal and child support she's worth.
Was the OM2 admission unprovoked or did you question?
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 12:30 AM on Thursday, June 2nd, 2011
(((ChoppingOnions)))
I'm so sorry. Sending strength.
girlfromipanema ( member #30976) posted at 12:30 AM on Thursday, June 2nd, 2011
Good lord.
((((ChoppingOnions)))
My heart is racing for you. Be strong and hang in there.
Married: 8 Years
Me: BS
Husband had LTA (5 years) with former close friend of mine.
Attempting Reconciliation
MovinogPast ( member #30370) posted at 12:36 AM on Thursday, June 2nd, 2011
The truth, while hurting like hell now, will bring you to a better place. I hope you both are able to R but if not, you will make someone very happy one day....most of all yourself.
blue_roses ( member #32062) posted at 12:41 AM on Thursday, June 2nd, 2011
Good Maude, man, I don't know how you do it. I really don't.
Sending good thoughts your way. I hope you get get whatever it is you need from her to put an end to this particular ride.
BS - Me, 39
WH - 44: 10 year EA with ex-fiancee OW#1 (no remorse)
2 year EA/PA with OW#2 (hates my anger and questioning)
13 years married; 16 years total
2 boys
DDay 4/10/11, NC broken 6/8/11
Status unknown
Cee64D ( member #21836) posted at 12:50 AM on Thursday, June 2nd, 2011
CO!
You deserve this:
Rock on, man, rock on!
The hardest part of forgiveness is accepting it from others...
Me BH 44
Clarrissa FWW 44
D-Day 04 Oct, 2008
NoLies ( new member #32263) posted at 12:54 AM on Thursday, June 2nd, 2011
So sorry for your pain CO.
Keep hanging in there.
BS-46
WW-43
Married 26 Years
OM1 D-Day#1 8/9/1995
OM2 D-Day#1 6/26/2008
OM2 D-Day#2 8/9/2008
OM2 D-Day#3 12/28/2008
bluewater ( member #9297) posted at 1:14 AM on Thursday, June 2nd, 2011
CO,
I am so, so, so sorry.
Stay strong. Do not waiver or falter.
Do not give up your sources. Keep her off balance as much and for as long as possible. It is your best hope and chance to get the truth.
Our thoughts are with you.
atsenaotie ( member #27650) posted at 1:28 AM on Thursday, June 2nd, 2011
CO, it cannot be said enough, so here it is again; do not give up your sources. From here you are doing fine. Best wishes.
ETA, 4? Where did she find the time to work?
LTA FBS
dday 10.5.09
Divorced
jsatriani2010 ( member #30285) posted at 1:33 AM on Thursday, June 2nd, 2011
My guess atsenaotie, just like all adulterous scum, she's an overachiever!
Me: 66
Her: 64
DS: 29
Married 42 years
PhoenixReborn ( member #22135) posted at 1:55 AM on Thursday, June 2nd, 2011
So sorry CO.
I also urge you to strongly consider a DNA test of DD regardless of who she looks like.
I bet the WW reaction to that will say a lot whether you have reason to be concerned.
PR
Me - XBF 40 (Fiance)
Her - XWF (who cares)
# Always trust your Gut - I didn't and am now regretting it. #
-Only give up when you won't regret giving up.-
daisy9204d ( member #28190) posted at 2:13 AM on Thursday, June 2nd, 2011
omg co my heart breaks for you but i know you are strong and will get threw this prayer and strenght going your way ((((co))))
bs-33
wh-40
d-day 2/10/03
5kids ds15,ds13,ds11 twins dd6
Silencio ( member #7085) posted at 2:14 AM on Thursday, June 2nd, 2011
hit post prematurely... Damn smart phone....
Well, crap. I felt after reading a few posts that your WW was an old hand at living the double life, with deception as a routine part of her day. Wish that first impression hadn't panned out...as it is, I'm not surprised at multiple OM, and still wonder if 4 are just the tip of the iceberg. Her suggestive comments about OW make me half suspect she's involved in some type of organized swingers club deal.
With her demonstrated propensity for gaslighting & lying approaching sociopath levels, you're going to have a real problem verifying her behavior if you decide to R. VAR in purse was a stroke of brilliance, even if you can't rely on it as a regular thing. Your call to OM1 and zapping her blackberry mean you've tipped the hand on email/sms/bb, unfortunately.
I'm sorry you're going thru this shit storm...wish I had better advice to offer.
[This message edited by Silencio at 8:50 PM, June 1st (Wednesday)]
"He's probably upset, Lorraine."
Rise_Above ( member #23674) posted at 2:19 AM on Thursday, June 2nd, 2011
Sending you prayers of strength.
You can live the way you believe this is your opportunity to let your life be one that lights the way~F.Battistelli
*****
God's hand was an avocado branch
oldandtiredout ( member #32299) posted at 2:32 AM on Thursday, June 2nd, 2011
She has a major screw loose! Narcissistic? Or just garden variety nuts? No one normal can relate to these nutters. Their brain is just soooo different.
WH 50's
BW 50's
DDay July 2009
3 year EA/PA
2 kids at home
marzipan ( member #28544) posted at 2:44 AM on Thursday, June 2nd, 2011
Sorry hun. You're doing good. Stay strong. 
me--Mean Batshit Crazy Pottymouth
him-- Swampy the WH
divorce DONE!!!!
http://soulmateshmoopies.wordpress.com/
PART 16-- "You are Such a Good Mother"
This Topic is Archived
