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Exit Wounds ( member #32811) posted at 2:48 PM on Wednesday, November 14th, 2012
I am sending you love, strength and prayer to you both. It is NOT your fault. HE chose to take the pills. He is an ADULT! You can not take HIS blame! He has done this to himself NOT you!!!
[This message edited by Exit Wounds at 2:06 PM, November 15th (Thursday)]
Exit WoundsH of 17 years got gf pregnant, left our kids 9 & 11 and we never saw him again. -His choice.
5454real ( member #37455) posted at 2:58 PM on Wednesday, November 14th, 2012
(((Lost & DTOM))) Not your fault. Prayers for you both.
BH 58, WW 49
DS 31(Mine),SD 29,SS 28(Hers),DS 16 Ours, DGS 11, DGD 8, DGS 3
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 13yrs
"I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone."
― Sophocle
aesir ( member #17210) posted at 2:59 PM on Wednesday, November 14th, 2012
Just thinking of you both and hoping for a full recovery.
Your mileage may vary... in accordance with the prophecy.
Do not back up. Severe tire damage.
TammyLynn70 ( member #28470) posted at 3:01 PM on Wednesday, November 14th, 2012
(((Lost and Dtom)))
My thoughts and prayers are with you both
2oldforthis ( member #19825) posted at 3:05 PM on Wednesday, November 14th, 2012
He did not see what he had in me, what I saw in him I did not have!
Love kills slowly.
itainteasy ( member #31094) posted at 3:27 PM on Wednesday, November 14th, 2012
((((((Lost))))))))
This isn't your fault.
I am hoping that DTOM is doing better today.
Lalagirl ( member #14576) posted at 3:38 PM on Wednesday, November 14th, 2012
(((((Lost)))))
Sending lots of prayers.
Echoing the others - this is NOT your fault. Please do not make this your burden.
I'm so very sorry. 
2025: Me-59 FWH-61 Married 41 years grown daughters- 41 & 37. 1 GS,11yo GD & 9yo GD (DD40); Five grands ages 15 to 8. D-day #1-1/06; D-day #2-3/07 Reconciled! Construction Complete. Astra inclinant, sed non obligant
MissesJai ( member #24849) posted at 3:42 PM on Wednesday, November 14th, 2012
(((Lost & DTOM))) - do not blame yourself. You had nothing to do with this.
44
Happily divorcing..
My Life is Mine!!!!
#BlackLivesMatter
Don't settle for no fuck shit....
putonahappyface ( member #30269) posted at 3:48 PM on Wednesday, November 14th, 2012
Prayers, strength & comfort to you lost. He's in good hands at the hospital, so please rest.
BS (me) - 51; SAWH- 52 (hurtherbadly)
Married 28 yrs
2 DS - 21&17
Dday 6/4/2010. 2 EA/PA
11/15/12 update: discovered porn addiction
4 years out: M is strong; FWH is a new man :)
JanetS ( member #2766) posted at 3:53 PM on Wednesday, November 14th, 2012
Hold onto the positive news (responds to pain).
Praying for your husband.
cdnmommy ( member #30182) posted at 3:54 PM on Wednesday, November 14th, 2012
Keeping you both in my thoughts.
Me: BW
DDay: Oct 2010 + 6 weeks false R
2.5 (+?) year A with married coworker/my "friend"
2 great kids
Reconciling and healing
trustagain ( member #16921) posted at 4:00 PM on Wednesday, November 14th, 2012
((((Lost)))) Thoughts and prayers are with you and your husband.
WH - 55
BS (me) - 57
Son - 31
Son - 24
Dday #1 - 10/31/07
Dday #2 - 12/23/07
Dday #1,000,000 - 12/23/09 - found out EA was PA
Dday Again - 13 years later....
silverhopes ( member #32753) posted at 4:01 PM on Wednesday, November 14th, 2012
Sending both of you strength.
Aut viam inveniam aut faciam.
VeilLifted ( member #34692) posted at 4:03 PM on Wednesday, November 14th, 2012
((Lost & DTOM))
Our thoughts and prayers are with you both.
Me - BW
Him - FWH
DDay 10-29-11 2 month EA 1 time PA
He had ended it 10-28-11
Broke NC 12-20-11
S 12-21-11 filed D 1-4-12
R started/H moved home 2-8-12
2 wonderul boys 17 & 14(now 20 & 17)
Now we have a beautiful grandson!
Married 19 years(n
SurprisinglyOkay ( member #36684) posted at 4:03 PM on Wednesday, November 14th, 2012
Prayers for the both of you.
As an addict in recovery I can tell you this IS NOT YOUR FAULT!! and this:
If we were still living together this wouldn't of happened.
is not true.
I'm really sorry about your dog too!
And after several years in recovery, I've heard many stories of surviving overdose!
[This message edited by broevil at 10:05 AM, November 14th (Wednesday)]
FWS me 38 (recovering addict)
BS him 41 AFrayedKnot
Together 10 years
2 children
"Your secrets keep you sick"
earthymom ( member #37080) posted at 4:04 PM on Wednesday, November 14th, 2012
I'm so sorry! Sending vibes of strength to you both.
FindMyselfAgain ( member #36969) posted at 4:06 PM on Wednesday, November 14th, 2012
(((lost)))
My thoughts and prayers are with you.
DDay: October 7, 2011
R finally started in earnest: April 2014
Current status: If he won't make changes, I must.
fraeuken ( member #30742) posted at 4:11 PM on Wednesday, November 14th, 2012
Thoughts are prayers are with you. It is hard to believe at first, but you are not at fault. I am hoping he will be stable today and get better.
Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.
Deeply Scared ( Administrator #2) posted at 4:13 PM on Wednesday, November 14th, 2012
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
SoVerySadNow ( member #36711) posted at 4:44 PM on Wednesday, November 14th, 2012
Oh honey, I'm so sorry. Hugs and prayers for you and DTOM.
(You are not responsible- but I know you won't believe this. It's part of the whole codependent crap we go through when we live with an addict. I've lived with two in my life and was a master of codep.)
Maybe this can be a turnaround. But for now, just take care of yourself and let the doctors do the things they are doing. We will all trust that it will be ok.
ETA:appologies to Tred for shortening DTOM to Tred. NOT Tred involved here but DTOM is Lost333's H. And thanks to MOD for correcting quickly for me. I'm so sorry Tred.
*edited to correct username.
[This message edited by SoVerySadNow at 5:46 PM, November 14th (Wednesday)]
Me:BW
Him:WH
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.
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