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painpaingoaway (original poster member #27196) posted at 1:21 PM on Wednesday, July 10th, 2013
The mental health system in this country leaves much to be desired.
Yep, don't even get me started on that issue! Grrrrr!
Well, he's completely on the street now. 
He did make it to his second Voc Rehab appt, and they said it should be another week or two before a spot opens in their inpatient program. God why do these things take so long!!!
He came by the other day and asked to take a shower again. He was filthy. I said no, but he was welcome to use the outside hose if he wanted to, but that he was not coming in the house. He cried. It killed me.
When I woke up this morning his truck was parked in the street beside our house. He was sleeping in it.
D-Day June 2009
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk
lieshurt ( member #14003) posted at 2:07 PM on Wednesday, July 10th, 2013
I'm so sorry. I can't imagine how much pain you are feeling right now. Sending prayers to you both.
(((ppg)))
No one changes unless they want to. Not if you beg them. Not if you shame them. Not if you use reason, emotion, or tough love. There is only one thing that makes someone change: their own realization that they need to.
frigidfire86 ( member #32324) posted at 2:28 PM on Wednesday, July 10th, 2013
Doing the right thing can really suck sometimes. I was horrible when I was younger...well, it was only 9 years ago. I broke too many laws, was in a horrible relationship, did drugs, etc. My parents kicked me out, cut me off, and let me hit rock bottom. I'm soooo glad they did. Jail sucked and my visits to the hospital weren't fun either, but I needed all that to happen. Thankfully it didn't take too long to get my head out of my ass after they put their foot down (about 6 months). I don't even want to know what kind of life I'd have now if it hadn't happened.
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 3:05 PM on Wednesday, July 10th, 2013
((((ppga))))
I wanted you to know I am thinking about you, sending you strength and praying for your son.
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
lynnm1947 ( member #15300) posted at 3:49 PM on Wednesday, July 10th, 2013
I don't know if they call it "tough love" because it's so hard on the kid or so devastating to the parent.
Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!
"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 3:54 PM on Wednesday, July 10th, 2013
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
confused615 ( member #30826) posted at 5:03 PM on Wednesday, July 10th, 2013
BS(me)44
FWH 48
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
painpaingoaway (original poster member #27196) posted at 1:54 PM on Friday, July 19th, 2013
He is in bad shape.
Still on the street.
Could be several more weeks before the treatment center takes him.
H is weakening and wants to to let him come back.
I am still in hell over this.
Here is a song for our loved ones ones with addictions:
http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=-pD2zIuiC2g&feature=fvwrel
D-Day June 2009
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk
Tred ( member #34086) posted at 1:57 PM on Friday, July 19th, 2013
(((PPGA)))
Sending you strength for this awful situation.
Married: 27 years (14 @JFO) D-Day: 11/09/11"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)
ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 3:40 PM on Friday, July 19th, 2013
((((ppga))))
Oh I'm just ACHING for you. Big big hugs to all of you.
((((ppga))))
Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now
hopelessromantic ( member #25415) posted at 3:49 PM on Friday, July 19th, 2013
(((ppga)))
I'm so sorry for your heartache. I can't even imagine.
Sending you all the strength and mojo you need. It makes *my* DD struggles taking place seem so small.
Wishing you peace to get you through this, wishing your son blessings from God that he will hold him thru the hell he is in and bring him thru on the other side.
hang in there, as a mom, my heart is breaking for you and hoping you find your inner strength to get you through it.
BS-Me FWS-him (bigdog)
D-Day 5/3/09 TT til 6/22/09
Behind every woman scorned is a man who made her that way.
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 3:53 PM on Friday, July 19th, 2013
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 5:46 PM on Friday, July 19th, 2013
((((ppga)))) You are one of my heroes, ppga. Please believe me when I say you are amazing, even though I am sure you feel anything but.
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
authenticnow ( member #16024) posted at 6:09 PM on Friday, July 19th, 2013
What Sistermilkshake said.
((((PPGA and DS)))))
DS, you are forever in my heart. Thank you for sharing your beautiful spirit with me. I will always try to live by the example you have set. I love you and miss you every day and am sorry you had to go so soon, it just doesn't seem fair.
painpaingoaway (original poster member #27196) posted at 7:17 PM on Friday, July 19th, 2013
Thanks you for all your thoughts and prayers sweet friends. His situation is, and always has been so horrendous that there really aren't many people to talk to other than you guys and my NAMI support people.
Please everyone keep him in your prayers.
He came by yesterday briefly to return some more tools. I told him I loved him. I asked if there was anything I could do for him. I did go pick up and pay for his bipolar meds. He just stared at me and cried. I hugged him and asked if he wanted to talk. He said no.
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D-Day June 2009
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk
ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 7:58 PM on Friday, July 19th, 2013
Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now
hexed ( member #19258) posted at 8:31 PM on Friday, July 19th, 2013
((PPGA))
I'm so sorry.
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
redrock ( member #21538) posted at 9:15 PM on Friday, July 19th, 2013
I don't respect anyone that can't spell a word more than one way:)
Gottagetthrough ( member #27325) posted at 9:22 PM on Friday, July 19th, 2013
Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 9:33 PM on Friday, July 19th, 2013
((Pain)). You and DS are in my thoughts.
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
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