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solus sto ( member #30989) posted at 4:05 PM on Friday, December 18th, 2015
BS-me, 62; X-irrelevant; we’re D & NC. "So much for the past and present. The future is called 'perhaps,' which is the only possible thing to call the future. And the important thing is not to let that scare you." Tennessee Williams
MadOldBat ( member #44146) posted at 10:33 PM on Monday, December 21st, 2015
Keeping my chin(s) up whilst getting divorced.
Lionne ( member #25560) posted at 7:29 PM on Thursday, December 31st, 2015
Me-BS-71 in May HIM-SAFWH-74 I just wanted a normal life.Normal trauma would have been appreciated.
MadOldBat ( member #44146) posted at 6:40 PM on Friday, February 5th, 2016
Bumping for Irene (so sorry sweetie - much the same happened to me)
MOBx
Keeping my chin(s) up whilst getting divorced.
Irene ( new member #51673) posted at 8:41 AM on Saturday, February 6th, 2016
Thank you MadOldBat ! I needed to read this thread and to know that there are others like me and that I am not alone. I still need time to sort things out in my mind. Thanks to hathnofury for all the information.
My life I feel now is like a broken down Lego house. I understand that I need to sort out the pieces and start building brick by brick and that it is going to take forever. I know for sure it will never ever look the same again...but I guess I can build another one some day!
[This message edited by Irene at 3:57 AM, February 6th (Saturday)]
Each of us has lived through some devastation,some loneliness or spiritual super storm. When we look at each other, we must say 'I understand..' Maya Angelou
Irene ( new member #51673) posted at 8:56 AM on Saturday, February 6th, 2016
itiswell
I also do not understand how they get to sleep fine, eat fine and act normal. I am up till 2 am crying while my WH is watching TV and laughing out loud or playing computer games.
My WH is exactly the same and I am going through the same emotions right now. It is a few months since you posted that, so I hope you are in the healing process.
Each of us has lived through some devastation,some loneliness or spiritual super storm. When we look at each other, we must say 'I understand..' Maya Angelou
MadOldBat ( member #44146) posted at 3:59 PM on Monday, February 8th, 2016
Bumping for Maya - this is a really good source of support and information for those of us who have unfortunately found ourselves involved with spouses who sleep with prostitutes. please read the first page at least - but the whole thread lets you know that sadly , you are very far from being alone.
MOBx
Keeping my chin(s) up whilst getting divorced.
CitrusC ( member #45652) posted at 4:50 AM on Tuesday, February 9th, 2016
Great. So do you ask to speak to the nurse of your OBGYN. This sucks!
MadOldBat ( member #44146) posted at 12:43 AM on Friday, February 12th, 2016
Keeping my chin(s) up whilst getting divorced.
Change2Be ( member #47878) posted at 11:43 PM on Wednesday, February 24th, 2016
Dday: May, 2015
I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.
-Maya Angelou
longtobecarefree ( member #48408) posted at 8:38 AM on Sunday, February 28th, 2016
Me BW 49 Him WS 48
4 children
Together 15 years-thought he was my best friend
DD 01/15 Constant lies until 05/15
07/15 Another lie found out
Many more DD Days during that time
Massage parlours 25years
Many EAs via texts and calls
EA turned ON
Kw0920 ( new member #51883) posted at 12:59 PM on Sunday, February 28th, 2016
I'm so glad this was rethreaded. I have been searching the sight for someone who has gone through infidelity with WS and "escorts". My WS has at been with at least 4 that I know of...and I'm sure that number is higher. I married him anyways...knowing what I know about him..and giving my all to save our marriage right now...even though this last time (Jan 2016) feels different? I'm not sure why? Just sick and tired of all his "crap". He's a recovering alcoholic/addict...doing what he needs to do right now...it's not easy..while we were separated this last time (9 days...3 weeks until back home) he seemed to work harder at working to stay sober...working on him/us. I sometimes feel I let him back too soon...but in MC we spoke of working on "us" and what better way of working on us then to be us?
Sometimes I feel it's ridiculous how much energy he takes from me. It's a double whammy...his recovery and his cheating...and sometimes I want to just go out separate ways...would be easier for sure (on my end). I do love the man he can be...the one I fell in love with...but just so numb and annoyed with him. I hurt on so many levels and just don't have it in me to take care of him too! Stuck in a place of wanting out and wanting to fight for us. It's a tough road to navigate! And here we have to support his sobriety...but sometimes I just want to scream and say WHAT ABOUT ME...WHAT ABOUT WHAT IM FEELING! Disgusted...angry...disappointed...sad..
Me: BS 41
Him: WS 40
Together 2011 Married 2015
1 DS 15 (mine) Twin B/G 3 year olds (ours)
DDay 1 June 7 2014
Possible encounterJune2015/August 2015
DDay 2 January 2016
MadOldBat ( member #44146) posted at 12:52 PM on Wednesday, March 9th, 2016
Bumping for Trying 1214 and for all of us BS who find ourselves in this devastating reality.
(( BSs))
MOBx
Keeping my chin(s) up whilst getting divorced.
MadOldBat ( member #44146) posted at 12:15 PM on Sunday, March 20th, 2016
Bumping for Salt&Pepper.
Please read the the first few pages of this thread.
Also the tactical primer & newbies threads at the top of the just found out forum.
Hugs.
MOB x
Keeping my chin(s) up whilst getting divorced.
Dorothea ( new member #48548) posted at 6:20 AM on Monday, March 21st, 2016
Bumping this for jsmum as this thread is full of good information and support. Also it reminds us that we are not alone.
Me BW 54
Him SAWH 56
M 32yrs
3 wonderful grown up kids
D day in Oct 2012
Trying to make it through the storm
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 12:32 AM on Monday, April 11th, 2016
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
outtanowhere ( member #39001) posted at 2:05 PM on Monday, April 11th, 2016
Me-clueless BS Dday - 2/19/13 "This isn’t flying. It’s falling with style".Buzz Lightyear - Toy Story
Lionne ( member #25560) posted at 11:57 AM on Sunday, May 8th, 2016
Me-BS-71 in May HIM-SAFWH-74 I just wanted a normal life.Normal trauma would have been appreciated.
Lostsad ( new member #53225) posted at 10:49 PM on Sunday, May 15th, 2016
I found out three weeks ago that my husband has been contacting escorts for the past year. He says he never actually went except he went to one he believed was just a massage. I know, i feel stupid even writing that. I am devastated. My worldview is shaken. He is writing a timeline right now for me. I am terrified. I am scared of what I will find out. I have never experienced so much pain. I really miss that blind faith and trust in someone. He wrecked that for nothing
MadOldBat ( member #44146) posted at 3:15 AM on Monday, May 16th, 2016
Welcome Lostsad,
So sorry that you had to find us, but you have come to a great place for support and advice. Be careful to keep this Site "incognito" from your WS, or delete it from your browser each time.
Why not start a thread in Just Found Out, and introduce yourself?
This is your safe place. Take care, MOB x
Keeping my chin(s) up whilst getting divorced.
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