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LydiaE ( member #42571) posted at 2:58 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014
I am so sorry for all of your pain and losses.
IWantDoOver ( member #39440) posted at 3:11 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014
I am keeping you and your loved ones in my thoughts and prayers.
lynnm1947 ( member #15300) posted at 3:20 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014
Ahhhh, Phoenix, my dear.........I know they say God doesn't give us more than we can handle, but you have been thrown problems of Job-like proportions. 
I don't know if the love and prayers and sympathy of all the members of this site help even a whit, but I like to hope it does. I have tears in my eyes as I write, and I don't even know you or your family. I can't even begin to imagine the pain and sorrow you must be feeling on the loss of your beloved son as well as your brother and his wife. You know if we could lift some of that burden from you, we would. But we can't so the best we can do for you is to be here if you need to talk, and hope and pray that you are stronger than you've ever been. (((((Phoenix and family)))))
Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!
"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks
Undefinabl3 ( member #36883) posted at 3:26 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014
I feel selfish typing this out really - My words of love and hope of peace for you and your family - they will never be enough. They will never be able to extend my heart to you the way I wish I could.
I don't know you personally - but as a mother, as a sister, as a sister in law - as a woman of family....my heart bleeds for you.
Please, take care of yourself. Please eat and drink, Please walk around, shower and get dressed, make coffee and sit on a back porch. Please breath - and pray - or meditate - or whatever. Please check in with medical people to get on AD's....please please take care of yourself.
You are loved, you are deeply loved by people that know you and don't know you personally.
Me: 35 MH
Him: 41 MH
New online find 6/19/14 - shit
Phone Find 11/21/14 - I can't even right now.
1/26/15 - Started IC for me, DH won't go.
1/10/18 - Again?!? Online EA's
mainlyinpain ( member #39134) posted at 3:30 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014
(((Phoenix)))
My heart is filled with sorrow for you and yours.
I want to send you love and strength.
Hold on to those you love and the memories of those you have loved and who also loved you greatly.
Take care of yourself the best you can.
I will pray for God to take care of you, your beautiful DS, and your family.
MIP
hopingforhappy ( member #29288) posted at 3:41 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014
I have struggled for a day or so to figure out something profound to say--but I have nothing. There is no explaining the loss of such a beautiful young man and no words to make it any better. I just hope that you can feel all of the love and prayers that are coming from this community and that they give you some small measure of comfort. (((Phoenix)))
Me--BW (57)
Him--FWH (54)--5yr. LTA--OW probably BPD
Married 21 years
DS-19, DD-16
Reconciling--but boy is it hard!
cmego ( member #30346) posted at 3:45 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014
Still thinking about you and your family. Just sending more hugs.
me...BS, 46 years old.
Divorced
itainteasy ( member #31094) posted at 3:48 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014
I can't.....I don't...There are no words.
I'm so sorry. So so very sorry.
Jeaniegirl ( member #6370) posted at 4:22 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014
I cannot imagine ....
I am so very sorry.
"Because I deserve better"
swizzlestick03 ( member #30102) posted at 4:37 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014
Phoenix-
I am so terribly sorry. You will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers every single day.
Take care,
Swiz
Me: BW-36
Him: WS-35
D-Day #1: 16 August 2010
D-Day #2: 16 January 2011
One smallish kiddo.
justabrokendream ( member #3075) posted at 4:43 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014
I too, don't know what to say. My sincere condolences.
MissesJai ( member #24849) posted at 4:54 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014
44
Happily divorcing..
My Life is Mine!!!!
#BlackLivesMatter
Don't settle for no fuck shit....
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 5:09 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
trustagain ( member #16921) posted at 5:20 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014
There are no words, just hugs. My heart breaks for you!
WH - 55
BS (me) - 57
Son - 31
Son - 24
Dday #1 - 10/31/07
Dday #2 - 12/23/07
Dday #1,000,000 - 12/23/09 - found out EA was PA
Dday Again - 13 years later....
ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 5:32 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014
((((Phoenix))))
Oh NO. NO. NO.
I am so very sorry for the loss of your precious DS, on top of everything else you are going through right now.
There are no words.
My deepest condolences to you and your family.
I am so sorry.
Please reach out here. Please. We all want to help any way possible.
((((Phoenix))))
Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now
katiesmom ( member #39074) posted at 5:52 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014
(((Phoenix)))
So very, very sorry! I can't imagine the pain you are going through. Keeping you and your family in my prayers.
purplebreeze ( member #31611) posted at 5:52 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014
Words can not express...I am so so very sorry. Praying for strength for you.
rachelc ( member #30314) posted at 6:01 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014
Phoenix,
I'm so sorry to hear this. You spoke of him with so much mother pride!
Please take care of yourself. Go to the hospital, if you need to...
lean on people here! We are all great listeners and huggers...
I'm so sorry!
BrokenDaisy ( member #37063) posted at 6:09 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014
I've typed so many versions of this message but it just doesn't seem like enough or that anything conveys how much my heart is feeling for you. I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. A loss no one should have to live through. My thoughts are with you and your family. I'm so so sorry.
Me xBW, him SA NPD WxH
1 son: sole legal custody to me and supervised visitation to xwh.
No longer broken
DDay 01/2012
10/2013 Finally Divorced!!
Fireball72 ( member #20152) posted at 6:45 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014
(((Phoenix1)))
My thoughts and prayers are with you at this sad time. This is no doubt a very, very deep loss for you; indeed, for all of us.
Please keep in touch with us as best as you can. We're all very, very concerned about you and your loved ones.
I am deeply sorry for your pain.
BS (me):44 (now 52) WS (him):42 (now 50)Married 3.5 years, together 5.5 D-Day #1 - 2/10/16 #2 - 2/20/16 #3 - 5/27/16 Divorced 6/12/17 One daughter, 9, the light of my life. Finally happy.
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