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It really just seems that it is one thing after another with him! And it is about every other week...just when things have quieted down a bit...BOOM THERE HE IS! I feel like he just wants to keep the emotions stirred up and continue to bother me! WHY?!? HE LEFT ME!!! SO LEAVE ME ALONE!!!

He claims to be so happy and to be with his true love. Okay. Great. Good for him. Now go away!!

So...what are you going to do about this?

Let's see...he has blown your son's world up...he went from living in the house and being daddy..to abandoning his child, short of a call here and there. You have watched how this has torn your little boy up. And now that POS stole your son's dog?? You said it's really your WH's dog..but that is bullshit...when a dog lives with a family, he is the family's dog. I guarantee your son thinks of that dog as HIS dog. WH didn't want that family so he left. He doesn't get to just come and go as he pleases. He doesn't get to remove "property" from your home just because he wants to. He hasn't lived there for several months now.

What you need to do is call the police and make a report. You have an eye witness.

You need to ACT. This POS is going to continue to do these things as long as he knows you will tolerate it. Stop tolerating it. CALL THE COPS. They may, or may not, be able to do anything about it. But you need to make a report. Keep in mind, you are divorcing this asshole. Behavior like this isn't looked upon to kindly by a judge.

I am so sorry for your little boy. I have an 11 year old who is very much attached to our dog. he would be devastated if something like this happened. What your WH did was cruel. It was an emotional assault on your son.

What are you going to do about it?

[This message edited by confused615 at 1:31 PM, September 25th (Thursday)]

BBM- As I said in my first response to this situation you need to call the police and please do it now. He abandoned you, his son, and that dog months ago. He has not contributed to that dogs care or well being nor has he even inquired about it. He abandoned that dog trust me he doesnt give two shits about that dog-he wants to stir shit up and hurt you and your son. Plus I doubt he will will take care of the dog. We are talking about a jobless meth addict living with another addict/dealer. I would worry about the care the dog would receive.

Please do not let it slide or it will never end. Take a stand for yourself and your son. He really doesnt think that you will do anything about it, he knows there is no consequence for his actions and he will continue to sink lower and lower to hurt you. This is going to hurt your child. If you call the police and make a report he very well could get into trouble and then he will understand he cannot screw with you because you will take action. You cannot wish this jackwagon away! You have to take a stand BBM and I know it is hard. He came onto your property and removed a dog he abandoned months ago. He trespassed on your property and stole that dog. Please call the police and take back your power from this asshole. He really is sick and evil to continue to hurt his son like this.

Stop worrying about why, and deal with the reality of it. He did.

So pick up the phone and call the police, and make charges that this douchecanoe has stolen your dog, and trespassed.

I talked to my neighbor and the sheriffs department and because she did not actually see him ON my property, there isn't a lot that can be done. I was told that it would be hard to prove who had actually been in posession of her during the last few months.

I haven't been home yet so I don't know if he was in the house or not. If he was, then that is a different story. My uncle has a game camera pointed at my house but my garage blocks the driveway so I don't know if he was even in the yard. He would have had to open a gate to the yard but unless he walked in, that view is blocked as well.

Now to deal with yet another heartbreak and loss for my son. I hate him!!! But on a brighter note, I am taking his dvds to the pawn shop today. Wish me luck! I need gas money!

I suspect there will also be a problem because legally you are still "married" and haven't filed. The dog will likely be considered "marital property". And now that the dog is in his posession, no matter how that happened, he will get to keep the dog.

Please, please, please. FILE FOR DIVORCE. Borrow the money from your dad. This is urgent. You need to do this to protect yourself, your son and your property.

[This message edited by sadtoo at 8:08 AM, September 26th (Friday)]

It's past time you have a chat with his parole officer. Tell him about the facebook posts your friends are alerting you to - the threats, the stealing the dog, the lack of financial support, etc. That you've had to change your cell #, and that all this impacts your son. Ask him what he can do to pull his parolee in line and back off the threats, but that you're through playing the patience game. Any more lines crossed, any more threats, any more harassment and you will press for a protective order for you and your son.

It might help you to research what that would do to his probation status! Then follow through. You may even just bypass the parole officer when you find out he's already done enough to get probation revoked.

BBM I wanted to check in on you, haven't heard from you since the dog was stolen by your wh. How are you and your son doing? I'm hoping no more bullshit antics from your wh. I also hope enough is enough and maybe you've contacted his po?

Let us know how you are.

[This message edited by Hopetosurvive98 at 7:17 AM, October 3rd (Friday)]

I am doing okay. Good days and bad, still. I haven't heard anything from him AT ALL. Not sure if that is a good thing or not. It does worry me a bit, kind of like the calm before the storm?

I didn't contact his PO but I heard through the grapevine that his house arrest supposedly ends today. Again, that kind of scares me. We will see what happens next, I guess.

I have about 1 1/2 more payments before I have my lawyer paid for. Thanks for checking in on me! I appreciate it!

Stay strong,you're almost there. If he does anything like that again please just call the police, he needs to see your boundaries are firm and he will suffer concequences. He has no right to step foot on your property.

It will be a huge step and a relief when you can officially file and get everything sorted out and finalized, then you can really move on.

I hope your little boy is doing ok. Check in with us bbm, I know many of us are thinking of you and pulling for you. You will come through this stronger and have a bright and happy future.

OH I HATE HIM!! This weekend, for the first time since this nightmare began, I actually went out with some friends and had a good time! Yes pictures were posted on Facebook. Not of me doing ANYTHING WRONG just having fun with friends!

So today, my dear sweet ASSHOLE husband posted ON my cousins Facebook page that instead of going out and spending money that I got from selling his things that I should be paying for a divorce! ARE YOU KIDDING ME? He doesn't have anything of value! And the ONLY thing that I have sold is DVD's. And trust me, that was not near enough to get a divorce. It barely paid for gas to get to work for 2 damn days!

Needless to say, it did NOT sit well with a few friends and family and I basically had to talk them out of responding too negatively! Even though part of me would love for them to say EVERYTHING they are thinking, I don't want to sink to his level. However, one thing that WAS posted said, "Well when you leave your wife to move into a basement with another "woman" (and I use the term woman loosely because we all know what she really is...) then you should probably take everything you want when you go. BM31 has been a lot nicer than anyone else would have been. She isn't running a storage shed for you to use at your convenience! Why would you even post this? To upset her? Guess what, it isn't working anymore! Grow up." My friends will always have my back.

Well, he is a real asshole isnt he? Hes such lowlife that I almost want to feel sorry for him *almost*. I do not have words for what I really think of this "man." BBM I hope you can see that the day he ran off was a gift to you as now you can be free of this mans toxicity. Also-you go out and have fun all you want and FUCK HIM!!! I LOVE what your friend wrote to him and I think a good dose of reality is good for him. I think he is such a dopehead that he really is delusional enough to think that nobody really knows what happened. He thinks he has really painted himself as a victim-when truthfully everyone knows what sort of scum he is. Someone should have asked him when the last time he paid any support for his children was, or why he can buy meth but not pay for the D himself-at least contribute. A real piece of work.

Anyhow, BBM you are so,so far above this man that he isnt even good enough to be shit under your shoes. Keep moving forward, keep being a good mother, keep being strong and do not let this pos get you off into the mud with him. Get that D going asap. If he does even the slightest thing wrong such as come back to your property, make a veiled threat, anything please call the police. This guy needs to know you have boundaries and he is on the far side of them.

You are doing well BBM.

I know it shouldn't but it really surprises me each time he reaches a new low! Seriously! How can one person be so stupid?! I honestly never thought that this would EVER HAPPEN! Or that he would ever act this way! I just wish I would have seen it sooner and then maybe I could have spared myself a lot of heartbreak and anguish.

I am done with him and everything he has done. I won't be nice anymore about ANYTHING. I was too nice for too long and look where that got me. I hope he has enjoyed his freedom and his whore because I am sure it won't last long. I am done. More done than I have ever been about anything in my life.

Love how your friends called him out for the horse's ass that he is. Bet that post gets deleted...

this is my favorite part

Why would you even post this? To upset her? Guess what, it isn't working anymore! Grow up.

They say that living well is the best revenge and with your WH I believe any happiness you experience really drives him nuts.

Oh my Dad has seen the post on Facebook.....not good. Not good AT ALL.

I am still not over this lowlife POS stealing his 10yo son's dog. What kind of scumbag loser does that??

Seriously, this guy has to look up to find bottom.

Whenever I read this thread I think to myself that there should be a sort of "divorce fund" people could donate to! I totally vote for an SI party when it goes through, BBM!

I hope the dog bites him and pees on his whore. Just saying...no really, though, he is crap for doing that. He may think he's one-upping you, but taking his son's dog. Bullshit!! Can you take it back anyway? Call his PO and tell him/her about the dog. Maybe they'll deem that theft and get the dog back.

[This message edited by deena04 at 7:44 PM, October 7th (Tuesday)]

OH. MY. GOD. His stupidity and his craziness never ceases to amaze me!! So yesterday after slandering my Dad on Facebook and not getting the reaction he wanted (my Dad wasn't going to to stoop to his level!) he chose to move on to me AND MY SON.

He posted a picture of someone that we went to school with and his child next to a picture of MY son. He is claiming that MY son is NOT his now and he belongs to this other person! Oh and I "tricked" him into loving a child who is biracial! ARE. YOU. FUCKING. KIDDING. ME? So I spoke to my lawyer today about it and she is going to DEMAND a paternity test AT HIS EXPENSE. She said the only way that I would have to pay is if he turns out not to be his. Well....since I have NEVER been with anyone else, pretty sure that won't be a problem.

After the paternity test comes back, we are going to look into terminating his paternal rights. But she said he will still be responsible for support. I didn't know that.....

He has been low and awful but this is as low as he can possibly get! Right? Surely, he can't go lower!!

I am documenting everything that he puts on Facebook to start a paper trail. I really can NOT believe this bullshit! My sister posted a nice but not so nice response to the picture post. She may or may not have called his whore a "basement whore"! Then his whore had the nerve to say that if I hadn't been such a liar and

tricked my husband, he would have never had to be with anyone else. OMG. But before my sister could respond, the post was deleted. I do know that several people reported it to Facebook so I don't know if he realized that he had crossed a line or if Facebook deleted it. Either way, I already had it screenshot and sent to me.

I am done being nice. I have too much ammo on him to keep quiet any longer. His PO will be getting a packet in the mail detailing ALL of his illegal activities. He wants to play dirty? Okay! Great. I am ready!