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notperfect5 (original poster member #43330) posted at 10:35 PM on Tuesday, May 5th, 2015
Igotthis,
What does this mean?
From: CA & FL
Split personality, pilot, long distance snow bird?
Tick, tick, tick...
This waiting is killing me.
[This message edited by notperfect5 at 4:40 PM, May 5th (Tuesday)]
Me: 55 BH Her: 52 WW - Edith12
DDay 8/13 EA, fake R
Turned PA on 4/27/14 and fake R
PA during MC and my IC and her IC through 12/14
Polygraph on 4/30/15, TT 5/5/15.. TT on 10/4/15, 2nd Poly and TT 11/17/15
DD's 23, 21, 18, 15 DS
Igotthis ( member #47771) posted at 10:43 PM on Tuesday, May 5th, 2015
NP5,
Long story,
It means I split my time between the two I have and lived in one, then the other, Start businesses in Both, couldnt sell one or other so kept them both. (turned out to be a blessing)
Summers and Winter breaks are in Florida, (even though the weather is unbearable in summer and it is better in California) California all else, I prefer California. But I am in Both, depending time of year.
notperfect5 (original poster member #43330) posted at 10:45 PM on Tuesday, May 5th, 2015
Poly admin texted. Edith asked to talk with me first, so she is coming home and I can call poly admin afterwards. Edith wants to go out to talk away from the kids...
Me: 55 BH Her: 52 WW - Edith12
DDay 8/13 EA, fake R
Turned PA on 4/27/14 and fake R
PA during MC and my IC and her IC through 12/14
Polygraph on 4/30/15, TT 5/5/15.. TT on 10/4/15, 2nd Poly and TT 11/17/15
DD's 23, 21, 18, 15 DS
Igotthis ( member #47771) posted at 10:48 PM on Tuesday, May 5th, 2015
She wants to talk to you first?
She wants prepare you for "brace" you. I would get results first if you can.
Igotthis ( member #47771) posted at 10:48 PM on Tuesday, May 5th, 2015
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devotedman ( member #45441) posted at 10:48 PM on Tuesday, May 5th, 2015
Me: 2xBS b 1962 xWW after 2 decades, xWGF after almost 1.
Amelia Pond: Who are you?
The Doctor: I don't know yet. I'm still cooking.
ENFP-A. Huh.
h0peless ( member #36697) posted at 10:49 PM on Tuesday, May 5th, 2015
Going to be a rough night. I'm sorry, NP5.
Igotthis ( member #47771) posted at 10:50 PM on Tuesday, May 5th, 2015
I wish and hope your strength in getting through this, hopefully as I said before this gives you the closure or what you may need to move forward.
confused615 ( member #30826) posted at 10:50 PM on Tuesday, May 5th, 2015
Damn.
Prepare yourself, my friend.
BS(me)44
FWH 48
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
5454real ( member #37455) posted at 10:51 PM on Tuesday, May 5th, 2015
BH 58, WW 49
DS 31(Mine),SD 29,SS 28(Hers),DS 16 Ours, DGS 11, DGD 8, DGS 3
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 13yrs
"I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone."
― Sophocle
StillTrying11 ( member #43814) posted at 10:54 PM on Tuesday, May 5th, 2015
One day, I hope Edith stops getting what she wants and you start getting what you want. She is always in damage control mode. 
37 years old
6 kids
Married: 2000
Ddays: 2/10/12, 4/10/12, 6/10/12
Done Day: June 6th, 2016
Ducks finally in a row for D: 9/6/19
Rebreather ( member #30817) posted at 10:54 PM on Tuesday, May 5th, 2015
I'd call the poly guy first.
Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi
Trying297 ( member #44132) posted at 10:58 PM on Tuesday, May 5th, 2015
I can't see any reason for her to talk to you first, unless she wants to do preemptive damage control. Hasn't she already had plenty of time for that?
I hope that you don't keep the poly administrator waiting. I don't know how late s/he is planning to stick around, but it would be a shame if they have left for the day by the time you cal. Get the answers first, and then Edith can take as much time as she wants to try to explain things away.
Me: BW
Married for 6 years, now divorcing.
DDay: June 2014
DDay #2: April 2015
Tried to reconcile, did more than my fair share of the work, and he repaid me by starting another affair. I caught him both times - he was too cowardly to be honest.
nononsense ( member #45598) posted at 10:58 PM on Tuesday, May 5th, 2015
You know she failed the test miserably or she would have cled you happy as a pig in shit!!!!!!!
More manipulation. . !!!!
Now you will get HER confession doctored with tears and devotion
BH - 50 (me)
WW- 48 (her)
M- 27 years
3 daughters- 26, 24, 21
DDay1 7/5/2014 (PA- 2 different OM)
DDay2 11/28/2014- setting up another meeting new OM
5/1/2015- Looks like we are making it.
8/3/2015- Reconciled but watchful
11/10/2015- We made it
craig2001 ( member #55) posted at 11:03 PM on Tuesday, May 5th, 2015
NP, as I have told you, it is far worse to actually hear the real truth than to just guess and imagine. Steel yourself for the entire truth.
Be ready. Be strong.
I remember a day just like you're going through.
Dont blow up, dont lose yourself.
Just be calm and strong, and this time, Edith better have a why and how could you answer.
Just be strong, you have been through a hell of a lot, so you are strong since you have survived this long.
sofakingcensored ( member #41862) posted at 11:04 PM on Tuesday, May 5th, 2015
I agree with everyone else. Her wanting to meet with you prior to hearing the test results doesn't bode well.
Be strong. You can do this.
Elphaba ( new member #40110) posted at 11:10 PM on Tuesday, May 5th, 2015
Hang in there NP5-
I've been following this thread, and my heart breaks for you and your kids...
Breathe-
It WILL be OK!
-E
So Confused, Hurt, Humiliated...
But strong...
DDay #1 06/23/13
DDay #2 08/05/2013
DDay #5 02/08/14
DDay #3 08/12/13
DDay #4 08/13/13
DDay #5 08/17/22
...you get the idea
Married Sept 14 2015
Fully in R
annanew ( member #43693) posted at 11:21 PM on Tuesday, May 5th, 2015
((((notperfect5)))) Thinking of you, hoping for the best.
Single mom to a sweet girl.
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 11:22 PM on Tuesday, May 5th, 2015
I have to agree she is in Damage Control mode.
You want to R and be happy happy happy quit molly coddling her and trying to nice her into owning her shit, and call her out on it. Make her be accountable.
That;s when shit got done. That's when R really started. When I quit being afraid and started to demand the love and respect I deserved, with or without him.
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
Lark ( member #43773) posted at 11:22 PM on Tuesday, May 5th, 2015
You are strong np5, it is hard to go through with this knowing the truth could be even worse than what you've already found out - which has been devastating.
Prepare yourself, mentally. I hope you've already sought legal advice so you know those ducks. Do you have an IC? Are you able to call them tonight if need be?
And keep sight of who *you* are in this, don't fall into mindgames because it feels more comfortable.
Strength and peace. No matter what, you got this.
“It is our choices, Harry, that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.” - Dumbledore
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