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CheaterMagnet ( member #33581) posted at 11:23 PM on Tuesday, May 5th, 2015
If Happy Ever After did exist, I would still be holding you like this.
All those fairly tales are full of shit.
One more fucking love song I'll be sick. ~ Maroon 5
yearsofpain25 ( member #42012) posted at 11:37 PM on Tuesday, May 5th, 2015
Jeez. You can't catch a break NP5. I would have thought getting the test results would have been straight forwards without more damage control.
Strength and courage to you.
NP5))))
"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll
toby ( member #10337) posted at 11:49 PM on Tuesday, May 5th, 2015
The only thing I see here is that your WW cane clean to the polygrapher during the pre-test interview. This is why she wants to talk to you first. Did you give the polygrapher permission to tell your WW the results?
solus sto ( member #30989) posted at 1:34 AM on Wednesday, May 6th, 2015
I'd be disinclined to go along with her wishes on this one. She's had plenty of time for parking lot confession.
I'd tell her to head right on back for the poly, as agreed. She had plenty of time prior to tell you what you wanted to know.
"You call the polygrapher after?" After what, you talk with Edith yet again?
You don't need a chat with the polygrapher, or his impressions of her pre-poly interview. YOU NEED THE RESULTS OF THE POLYGRAPH.
My bet is that you won't be getting that. My bet is that she's decided not to do it, and has enlisted the polygrapher in her .... manipulations. She may have revealed just enough awfulness that he thinks he'd gotten the proverbial parking lot confession.
Not cool.
It's a shame she still thinks she's calling the shots.
It's a shame she still is calling the shots.
BS-me, 62; X-irrelevant; we’re D & NC. "So much for the past and present. The future is called 'perhaps,' which is the only possible thing to call the future. And the important thing is not to let that scare you." Tennessee Williams
h0peless ( member #36697) posted at 2:34 AM on Wednesday, May 6th, 2015
What Solus Sto said. Exactly. I'm convinced that my ex was a sociopath. I'm so grateful to her for just leaving after watching what yours is putting you through. I wouldn't be surprised if I reacted the same way you have up to this point. The only difference is that we didn't have kids who would have been irreparably damaged by my lack of fortitude.
Please, please stop being my Dad.I love my Dad. He is a great person. I don't respect him much and he set a terrible example for my siblings and me.
[This message edited by h0peless at 8:35 PM, May 5th (Tuesday)]
Western ( member #46653) posted at 3:14 AM on Wednesday, May 6th, 2015
so when do you get the results ?
Tearsoflove ( member #8271) posted at 3:29 AM on Wednesday, May 6th, 2015
My guess is she failed or didn't take it. He of course, has given her the opportunity to talk first and do her usual spin. She, of course, is spinning as hard and fast as she can so the examiner will not be available to give results until tomorrow. That way, she has all night to talk him out of talking to the examiner.
"Just because I don't care doesn't mean I don't understand." ~Homer Simpson
Autumn22 ( member #41810) posted at 3:47 AM on Wednesday, May 6th, 2015
I am so sorry, NP5. Regardless of what's happening right now, I'm sure you are being gutted once again.
Me: BW 48
Him: SA 44, multiple EAs, porn addiction, entered "recovery" in 2013 - no remorse, no empathy.
Married in 2000, divorcing
nononsense ( member #45598) posted at 3:53 AM on Wednesday, May 6th, 2015
Agree with Autumn and Tears . We were all rooting for a great out come but logic says NP5 would have reported that by now.
I think if she had refused to take it she would not have been in there so long. I find it hard to believe the poly examiner would have sat there for hours with her and not clued NP5 in on anything that was going on .
So my guess is that she took it and obviously failed big time and now she is spending the evening manipulating him so he will ignore the results .
Hope we all are wrong
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BH - 50 (me)
WW- 48 (her)
M- 27 years
3 daughters- 26, 24, 21
DDay1 7/5/2014 (PA- 2 different OM)
DDay2 11/28/2014- setting up another meeting new OM
5/1/2015- Looks like we are making it.
8/3/2015- Reconciled but watchful
11/10/2015- We made it
blondenblueeyed ( member #47527) posted at 7:37 AM on Wednesday, May 6th, 2015
I know this is old, and my sincerest hope is for peace for you and your entire family. But i feel so compelled to write this.
My heart just utterly breaks for your daughter. Seriously. I am brought to tears. I did the same thing when i was a child, caught my dad cheating on my mom, when i told my mom, my dad left us. Mom kept trying to work things out with dad, but the more they struggled, the more I blamed myself.... for years.
... and now 17 years later I am on this website, with a WH who has cheated on me 9 times that i know of, and may still be doing so.
Im not trying to tell you what to do or not do. Im not here to judge. All I can offer is my experience, and my prayers, which are definitely with you. I hope you all find peace.
gonnabe2016 ( member #34823) posted at 8:07 AM on Wednesday, May 6th, 2015
I hope you're okay, np5. Check in when you can....even if it's only an "I'll update later" message. We just want to know that you're still breathing and functional.
"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.
Rafi ( new member #47308) posted at 10:31 AM on Wednesday, May 6th, 2015
confused615 ( member #30826) posted at 11:56 AM on Wednesday, May 6th, 2015
BS(me)44
FWH 48
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
5454real ( member #37455) posted at 1:29 PM on Wednesday, May 6th, 2015
We're here when you're ready brother. Sending more strength.
BH 58, WW 49
DS 31(Mine),SD 29,SS 28(Hers),DS 16 Ours, DGS 11, DGD 8, DGS 3
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 13yrs
"I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone."
― Sophocle
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 1:42 PM on Wednesday, May 6th, 2015
NP - Please just let us know you are OK.
Then you can come back when you are ready, but there are a lot of people waiting, and worrying.
We do really care.
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
convert ( member #46684) posted at 1:51 PM on Wednesday, May 6th, 2015
only thing I see here is that your WW cane clean to the polygrapher during the pre-test interview. This is why she wants to talk to you first. Did you give the polygrapher permission to tell your WW the results?
^^^I agree with Toby
and this might explain why it took so long
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BH - me 48
WW - 46
one son
together 28 years
married 25 years
in R - trying anyway
yearsofpain25 ( member #42012) posted at 1:53 PM on Wednesday, May 6th, 2015
Thoughts are still with you NP5.
Strength to you.
yop
"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll
StillStanding1 ( member #40144) posted at 2:27 PM on Wednesday, May 6th, 2015
Concerned about you! Please take care of yourself. Many people here are holding you up in prayer.
Me: BS50s Him: WH50s
M 25 years - DD DS DS
LTA = 2+ yrs, Dday - 2/13, S for 1 year, now R
Ginny ( member #43196) posted at 2:32 PM on Wednesday, May 6th, 2015
Thoughts and prayers, NP5. Thoughts and prayers.
BW49
FWH50
DDay 11-02-13
Married 30 years
2 month PA/EA with COW
DS28
Trying to R
abbycadabby ( member #27428) posted at 2:51 PM on Wednesday, May 6th, 2015
Thinking about you this morning, NP5. I hope you're okay.
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