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I don't doubt that the guy is a pro at this. My ex left for someone much older than her and never looked back, but the guy knew what he was doing and he was happy to settle for low hanging fruit. I have no doubt this guy does this regularly.

That said, it really doesn't matter. Like you said, your wife was open to it. She aired your dirty laundry to this piece of shit and very quickly escalated it into a full blown affair. Emotionally mature and healthy people don't do that sort of thing. She's just as fucked up as he is.

Agreed.

And...

Don't wait for His guidance, JUST GO TO HELL

OMG. Hilarious. And so spot on.

U&B, I like your anger!

What are you doing at the moment? I hope you're not waiting around for her to decide not to go there and to "choose you"?

Best wishes

POSOM needs to buy me a new iPhone because after reading his response I vomited all over mine! He is a self righteous, arrogant prick! Yes, someone is leading his path to your WW, his name is the devil...not God. But you know what, he is going to get exactly what he deserves....your peach of a WW, for the time it lasts. Keep walking that path captain save-a-Ho...bc you know what's at the end of it...a hell with hos!

UAB...pack her bags for her little farewell tour 2015....and let her figure out it isn't the other man she's saying farewell to but her loving husband of 10 years! Tell her she can definitely return the burner phone bc she will not be in need of it anymore. You're free little birdy...use your regular phone! While she's at it...she can lose your number because you got no love for hos!

I'm sick of both of their BS! I know you must be. Do not respond to him...crickets are far more powerful than any of the hilarious responses we can come up with. She may come back one day and feel remorse and be truly ready to change...but today is not that day! I promise you...their little holy guided Union will not be so fun without you to torment! She's getting off on the idea that she has you and yet "Jesus" has led them to sneak behind your back. They feel it is so magical right now. They have taken unicorn land to a whole different level...unicorn "Jesus" land...far more magical! It won't be long before "Jesus" leads her back to you! Because apparently in their eyes "Jesus" is just code word for whatever suits my selfish needs and agenda at the moment.

Man...I feel such ugliness in my soul toward this twatwaffle and the rotten peach!

What are you doing at the moment? I hope you're not waiting around for her to decide not to go there and to "choose you"?

Choose you do not be quick to reconcile with a person who openly disrespected and continued to hurt you to feed some selfish fantasy.

What is your plan if she says I have decided to work on our marriage.

Would you believe that, will she string you along until the boy graduates. Can you trust her.

Do you have a plan.

I don't have a plan if she makes like she's serious to reconcile and work through this.

I mean, call me crazy, but it's what I want.

At the same time... I don't trust her as far as I can toss an elephant.

And OMG, she keeps droning on about how when I try to talk to her about how I feel in all of this that she feels like I'm attacking her. She's saying, "I understand that I've hurt you in the past and that I've really, really hurt you right now. But I want you to understand that this is a 2 way street. I really don't feel like you can see past your hurt to realize I am hurting too."

She just texted me out of the blue and said, "Can I propose something?"

For shits and giggles, I've said yes.

I can't wait to read this.

"Will you consider going out with me tonight to dinner, maybe a movie and not talk about all of this for a night?"

...

Hahaha, she's incredible. Honestly, if she stays and doesn't go there for the weekend, I'd bet a pretty sum that she doesn't go only because she doesn't want to lose her comfy life and because she thinks she can take it underground etc.

You deserve more from life than someone like her.

To be honest, I think you're so much better off without her that I'm actually hoping she goes there this weekend, just so you'll be free of her.

I'm also worried that she'll decide to stay and "reconcile", and then do next to nothing about it, forcing you to file for divorce despite her "wanting to reconcile".

Best wishes

UAB--be careful!!!! She sounds like she's getting ready to deploy some kind of ridiculous compromise where she gets to stuff her face with CAKE while you twist some more.

Although, reading through this whole thread makes me think you'll be wiser to it at this point.

Your sense of humor and strength is very admirable--I'm rooting for you to be happy in the end, no matter what!

Also, that POSOM is, just, WOW. GRR!

WTF??!! So, she wants a "night off" from all the drama she instigated??

LOL. Incredible.

"Will you consider going out with me tonight to dinner, maybe a movie and not talk about all of this for a night?"

Your answer?

No.

HobbesThe tigger is right on the money

I am in the UK, and I could hear the collective eyerolling from here.

Will you consider going out with me tonight to dinner, maybe a movie and not talk about all of this for a night?

Are you good at throwing elephants, because if you go along with it, there's be a mahoosive one at the restaurant and cinema.

Response "No thanks, I don't date women with boyfriends"

ETA: Just realised I used a very British phrase, not sure it's widely used across the pond - hopefully this'll explain.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Elephant_in_the_room

[This message edited by MollyMoo at 11:17 AM, May 15th (Friday)]

My bet is this. Her and POSOM have talked about what she feels she was missing in the marriage. Like wanting it to feel like you were dating again. I would bet she laid out that scenario to prove to herself that....see he don't want to give me what I need. In her eyes you lose if you turn her down. Then she feels that she has to be with POSOM cause he does all the fun things that you won't. Don't fall for that crap.

She figures you'll do the Pick Me Dance. Try to nice her back.

Whereupon she would love the attention but lose all respect.

"I'd like you to wine and dine me. Then I'm going to visit my boyfriend tomorrow, sleep with him and worship God."

She's cold.

how when I try to talk to her about how I feel in all of this that she feels like I'm attacking her. She's saying, "I understand that I've hurt you in the past and that I've really, really hurt you right now. But I want you to understand that this is a 2 way street. I really don't feel like you can see past your hurt to realize I am hurting too."

Explain it this way. When you chose to speak to OM about our marriage problems over you own husband it was a knife to my heart. When you choose to lie to me repeatedly about your relationship with OM you twisted that knife, when you choose to sleep with OM and put me as risk of STD you twisted that knife even more...lies to me that you are going to break-up with him but instead sleep with him...twists more. Basically you want to talk about your problems with the marriage you have made a mockery of while I'm bleeding out from all of your lies and deceptions and you continue to plunge the knife further in.

oh, and that date thing is her way of being "friendly" with you so she feels better about leaving for the weekend.

I'm afraid that what you want and what's likely to happen are two entirely different things. She's not serious. If you do the pick me dance and if you sweep this under the rug, it will either continue or happen again. Mark my words.