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I have to agree.

Just go see your attorney tomorrow and have her served.

Then she will just start to comprehend what her future will start to look like.

Also, do not touch the VAR. Especially if she says nothing to you about the VAR, she may be using the spy cam to see if you touch the VAR. So just let the VAR be. IF it ever would come to police asking about the VAR, use your rights to remain silent and get an attorney.

Thanks for doing the rational thinking when I'm capable of none at this point. I'm packing my things now. Time to disappear.

I'm packing my things now. Time to disappear

Good decision.

Pack, GTFO. Unless I'm mis reading, there's really nothing to fight over.

File Monday, stay away from her. Have all the material possessions documented. She's being coached by a 3 time loser. Everything used against him in his D's will be used against you.

There's no winning here. I'm sorry.

Strength

Yeah I agree, she is with someone who is "coaching" her in how to cheat on you AND get away with it. She is trying to be one step ahead of you instead of being IN STEP with you.

Time to change the script, time to take yourself out of the equation. Stop telling her what you want or what you need, just stop talking to her. I agree also take out half of the money in the checking account and take your possessions that you want out of the home. Let her walk into an empty house not knowing where you are or what you are doing.

She may have been a good person when she was with you but she is not a good person while she is listening to someone else. Sorry.

[This message edited by realitybites at 4:03 PM, May 17th (Sunday)]

Sending some strength man.

Thanks, everyone.

I packed up almost everything I want - whatever I could fit in my car. I told my son that I love him and that once again, I'm sorry he's stuck in the middle of this. I said I don't know when the next time I see him will be. That I'm proud of the man he is, I'm proud of the fact that he's graduating with such high grades and in such esteem at school. I told him that I'm not going to change my phone number or get off Facebook so, since he's an adult soon, if he wants to talk or hang out, I'm always open and he knows how to find me.

And then I left. I'm staying with my brother until next weekend. From there, I don't know where I'm going. Guess it's time to apartment shop.

So, from this point forward, I am going completely dark, leaving her wondering what my next move is. I hope she enjoys that feeling, that's been my own hell for a couple months now. Complete NC. I meet with my lawyer tomorrow at 10am. I will have him file uncontested divorce immediately. That way, this is all over in 60 days.

I will communicate through him to negotiate the settlement of splitting remaining community property and debt.

I'm done. The POSOM can have her. They deserve each other.

And I really do hope that one day, she realizes what a manipulative, insane asshole he is. And what she did to herself and her family to be with him. And I hope it eats what's left of her tattered soul, just like it's eaten mine. Or, on the flipside of this, I hope the POSOM finds out just what sort of a girl - not woman, immature teenage girl - he's with and he comes to regret pairing up with her level of evil craziness. They'll make such a great, insane pair. Serious candidates for the Villainous Duo Hall of Fame, alongside Darth Vader and The Emperor, Saruman and Sauron, Beebop and Rocksteady and the Olson Twins.

You really think you know somebody. I didn't know shit. I'm not giving up on the idea of love or anything, but it's going to be a long, long, LOOOOOOOOOOONG time before I let someone anywhere near my heart again.

I was her loyal and faithful husband, the father to her son by choice. Her protector, her confidant and her friend. And she threw me away like a high school boyfriend.

You're an inspiration, UAB. You're a strong man.

Bebop and Rocksteady weren't evil, they were dumb muscle for Shredder and Krang.

NC with her, but, what are you going to do if/when she has that epiphany and turns up snot nosed and mascara running?

Oh, if she comes back? She's not getting the time of day.

No R. Live with the monster you have become and kiss my ass.

U&B should stand for Unshakable & Ballsy.

I hope they are happy together, they deserve each other and their mutual fuckupness.

It's you and your son I feel most for. I hope the POSOM won't try his mental gymnastics on him.

[This message edited by MollyMoo at 6:23 PM, May 17th (Sunday)]

UAB --

You've seen the light. Stay strong and calm.

Focus on the goal. Don't let your emotions get manipulated. The goal is to get yourself detached from this toxic relationship.

Think ahead to a bright, happy future. It will happen.

Serious candidates for the Villainous Duo Hall of Fame

the Olson Twins.

Your great sense of humor will keep you in good stead, U&B.

You are doing great circumnavigating this shitstorm that has been thrust upon you, keep it up. We will be here to keep you strong in your resolve. Best of luck!

eta: P.S. I totally agree about the Olson twins. I thought they were evil trolls the first time I saw them on "Full House".

[This message edited by SisterMilkshake at 6:46 PM, May 17th (Sunday)]

Thinking I'm going to post this on Facebook:

Friends, I have some news. Since March of this year, my wife has been having an affair with a new friend of hers. She has decided to torch our 11 year relationship and burn our family to the ground. She is not sorry, she is not repentant, she has made it plainly obvious that she does not love me, care about me or want to fix what is wrong between us. And so it is with a heavy and broken heart I inform you all that I am filing for divorce and moving on with my life.

Thoughts? Suggestions?

Posted it.

I think you should take it down. Word will get around anyways.

Don't show your hand.

I took it down.