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((((((((TOC))))))))))

We are here for you hon.

i am so sorry you are going through this. take good care of yourself.

Sending strength your way.

Sending hugs. We are all holding you up in spirit.

I cannot imagine holding myself together to do all that you have done. I know you're devastated and falling apart, but you've kept your life going and acted decisively. You might not feel strong, but you are. Your WH lost big time.

I'm so sorry, hon.

How awful you must have felt; I am so glad you have loving support waiting for you. It had to be done and could not have been made easier. So sorry you are in this pain.

{{{{{{TOC}}}}}}}

We all got your back, as do your amazing friends.

Sending you strength.

(((((((TOC)))))))

(((TOC))) thinking of you. So glad you have friends and family waiting for you.

I have 20 minutes to take off...

I am devastated. He is destroyed. It is all so unnecessary. No denial. He felt strongly I knew but convinced himself otherwise. He knows I'm not dumb but he wished I had just asked him. I wished he hadn't cheated.

Six months ago they started chatting after running into each other at local dog park. I know her. She sits for our dogs when we travel. They rain into each other at local dog park and then kept meeting up there. I even went along a few times. When I wasn't there, it got flirty. Escalated to PA 4 months ago - I didn't want any more of the details. I loved her, she's adorable- as a dog sitter! She took/takes great care of our dogs. I didn't recognize phone because it's her personal phone, not her work phone. She's 18 years younger than me, divorced, one daughter, 9 years old. Her fucking name is CANDY!

He does not love her and never told her so. Says THE text ended it. He's been 'sick' about it ever since. Didn't see her over my time away - so he says. He canceled her services because she was to take care of our dogs over our vacation and that is why they texted after the fateful text. Says he put the dogs in a kennel instead - one she recommended! Called himself an old, stupid fool.

I have to board my flight. If I have wifi, I will try to write more.

My advice - never, ever try to end your marriage in an airport. I never realized how loud airports are until I tried to do this. I had to duck into a family bathroom to get away from the announcements and noise. It was a shit storm - pun absolutely intended!

He is trying to come home as soon as possible. He does not want me to leave. He knows he does not get to decide that.

I have 20 minutes to take off...

I am devastated. He is destroyed. It is all so unnecessary. No denial. He felt strongly I knew but convinced himself otherwise. He knows I'm not dumb but he wished I had just asked him. I wished he hadn't cheated.

Six months ago they started chatting after running into each other at local dog park. I know her. She sits for our dogs when we travel. They rain into each other at local dog park and then kept meeting up there. I even went along a few times. When I wasn't there, it got flirty. Escalated to PA 4 months ago - I didn't want any more of the details. I loved her, she's adorable- as a dog sitter! She took/takes great care of our dogs. I didn't recognize phone because it's her personal phone, not her work phone. She's 18 years younger than me, divorced, one daughter, 9 years old. Her fucking name is CANDY!

He does not love her and never told her so. Says THE text ended it. He's been 'sick' about it ever since. Didn't see her over my time away - so he says. He canceled her services because she was to take care of our dogs over our vacation and that is why they texted after the fateful text. Says he put the dogs in a kennel instead - one she recommended! Called himself an old, stupid fool.

I have to board my flight. If I have wifi, I will try to write more.

My advice - never, ever try to end your marriage in an airport. I never realized how loud airports are until I tried to do this. I had to duck into a family bathroom to get away from the announcements and noise. It was a shit storm - pun absolutely intended!

He is trying to come home as soon as possible. He does not want me to leave. He knows he does not get to decide that.

Take your time. This is YOUR decision, on YOUR timeline, for the outcome YOU desire.

You have my sympathies, TOC.

I'm so sorry TOC. What a waste of a marriage, what stupidity. He ended it with that text but sent it anyway. He didn't end it with that text but asked for more.

If you need a place among the misty rolling hills and glens of Scotland for peace and solace, just get on another plane.

Hang in there TOC and keep walking through this hell. You don't need to decide anything yet until you want to. It's your call.

Take good care of yourself.

((((TOC))))

[This message edited by cass at 2:09 PM, September 21st (Wednesday)]

(((TOC))

I'm glad he didn't try to deny it. He can never undo what he's done but at least he didn't make it worse by lying. I don't know what else to say except that you're an incredibly strong woman and I'm so awed to see how you've been fighting through the pain. I'll keep following this thread and I wish for the very best for you, whatever the outcome.

TOC

Yes! this is your decision. YOURS, not his, not ours, not the kids. Take your time! it doesn't need to be rushed.

Hope you can rest, (some) on the plane, now that he knows. We are all for you, no matter what!

Rainbow unicorn fart skittle land ain't so much fun once the wife finds out, huh, WH???

Of course he wants you to stay. Affairs exposed to daylight are ugly and disgusting.

(((TOC)))

Why do they never care about their spouse's feelings until they're caught? God I hate that.

Sending strength your way!

[This message edited by GoldenR at 2:03 PM, September 21st (Wednesday)]

I am so sorry TOC.

Sending you hugs and strength.

Please look after you.

You have been an inspiration to many of us.

You are smart, strategic and a kind soul.

I wish you some peace at having confronting what you have been dealt.

May you find your way back to happy. One day and one decision at a time.

Know that we are all here rooting for you.

God bless.