Wow, isn't she a cupcake
I feel stupider just having read that.
I suppose crickets are best,at least the "mature" thing to do
(Yes, I caught that too, I defintately think it was a dig at your age).
But, I'll just share what I did to destroy any thought OW meant anything to my exWH...
I called her on Dday. I had no clue what I was doing on DDday, I just lost it. She was totally denying anything but a friendship, because my WH was able to tip her off by yelling from the background while I was holding the phone "I told her we were just friends!"
(BTW, he's my EX now!!)
He left and I kept her on the phone for hours, going off on her, trying to get things out of her. When I said "you're not special anyway, you're not the only OW" I could tell immediately by her tone of voice that I broke her. I could sense it. I could tell she wanted to ask me about it but didn't dare in order to protect my WH
, I remember she whispered "I'm not the only one?" like she had never thought of that before. I wasn't lying, I just had never been able to catch him until her.
Then I said "well I'm leaving him, so we'll see if he scoops you up and runs away on a white horse with you". And she made some snotty comment that I would never leave him ( very similiar to the attitude candy has! It is us shrews that are making them stay!
). But guess what? I did leave him, and guess what? He did not end up with her, never contacted her again! Once he was free, why would he need her? He wanted to partake of the smorgasboard of women that is available to single men!
Well I did some other stuff to mess up her life
but I don't recommend slipping down the rabbit hole of revenge. It's much better to focus on yourself and your new beginning.
So, if I *was* gonna respond, I'd tell her she's not the only one. I'd destroy any sense of specialness she thought she had (and, I hate to say this, but truly she may not be, he may have done this before or at least inappropriately engaged with different women
, but that's not your problem now.) I'd tell her 'you mean these texts? yeah, he asked me how I would like him to respond' and send her a screen shot. And I'd tell her, as I did in my case, that I was already gone so it was funny he hadn't contacted her yet since he already had the freedom to do so. And yes, I would be so tempted to do as someone else suggested and have WH send her a scathing rejection letter.
As far as her message, god I don't even know where to begin. It's a plea for dominance, is what it really is. She wants you, the alpha female, to get out of the way so she's got a snowball's chance in hell. She's convinced herself that you're clinging to the poor man like a ball and chain while he's struggling to get out but darn it you just won't go away! That is much better that admitting the truth to herself: that he doesn't WANT to leave you, that he doesn't WANT to choose her.
She is not sorry, she is a terrible terrible person, it is clear from her message to you. She is smug, cruel, entitled, and delusional. I was neutral about her before that message, but now I would definately warn others not to hire her. She truly is NOT someone I would want to have in my home or near my family.
Or, actually, you should employee crickets and not respond. Something tells me that she will step up the attempted contact. At that point, I'd then get a restraining order on her. And I'd make HIM get the restraining order, just to really show her what her place is to him. And then I'd post a copy of that when I made my yelp review (with names blocked out, of course). Basically, don't respond and she'll hang herself, she seems like that type. She's a spoiled brat who isn't prepared to lose.