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Hi (((TOC))),

I so admire your continued strength through all of this. You inspire all of us.

I agree------crickets.

Do not lower yourself by continuing contact with this Slunt.

Also, crickets will torture her for a long time.

I WOULD, however, send your STBXWH a copy of the DVD "Fatal Attraction", once he is well enough to watch movies.

If you do want to respond, you could just say you filed for divorce on xx/xx/xxxx, so you don't understand why she'd write you such a letter? It would seem your WH didn't tell her about that.

Obviously she's got a copy of the OW Handbook.

I've seen/heard just about every one of those lines. Most of the times though, the spelling was better.

Just goes to show, cheaters aren't the most original books on the shelf.

k9

Oh yes, OW's message was right out of the WS handbook. Let's translate it from Cheaterspeak:

"First, just let me say I am sorry but if you want to know what is happening between me and (insert WH name here), I am willing to tell you what you want to know.

Because *we* will not let you into our special little world, even though you are desperately trying to keep us apart.

I know this is very unusual but we did not mean for this to happen but now that is has happened we might as well be adults about it.

We were destined to be together. We are star crossed lovers.

I am sorry your husband cares for tow women now but I care for him very much and want him to be happy.

He can only be happy with *me*, because I am so special and made of skittles.

Being the mature woman, I hope you also want just his happiness for him like I do.

Let's not forget how OLD you are, and how much younger *I* am.

He should be able to decide w/out pressure.

I know you must be begging him to stay with you, but you can not come between us, as we are star crossed lovers.

I know he cares about me bur feels an obligation to you because he met you first. This is how he explains it to me. If only he had met me first.

He is such an honorable man that he is trying to do his duty.

I have thought a lot about just trying to let him go but realize that we do have something special and when that happens, you owe it to yourself go after it and be willing to fight for it.

Me me me and I couldn't care less about what happens to anyone else.

I know you know and that is why we have not benn able to communicate to much lately but let me tell you he was still speaking with me even his weekend and we are still in touch. I obviously don't know what he has told you but we still talk. I can send you texts from just the other day.

You just don't realize how *special* I am!

I am not tying to hurt you but Iam sorry I have.

No I'm not.

Like I said, I just want him to be happy.

And I want his money.

I want to be happy and he makes me happy. I will leave you access to write me back.

Because I am SO important in all of this.

He does not know that I am writing to you and if you want to know everything I have to say, it might be best that this is between us for now."

Because I'd rather he not know how much I am trying to manipulate things to go my way.

Actually, although CRICKETs is definitely the way to go with this Slunt, I would be SO tempted to tell her "you can have him." That would be the best revenge on both of them.

But stay with crickets----if you want to respond, post it here----you will be releasing it out into the universe, without having to be exposed to the reality TV show that your STBXWH got involved with.

Crickets to both. Yep, you don't live in SpringerWorld. He doesn't need to know and it will drive C nuts 😈

Crickets to both. Yep, you don't live in SpringerWorld. He doesn't need to know and it will drive C nuts 😈

Crickets to both. Yep, you don't live in SpringerWorld. He doesn't need to know and it will drive C nuts

WOW --- this slunt is a real predator!!!

Crickets to her ---- I WOULD send to STBXWH when he's in better health.

I absolutely urge you to write a Yelp review though - you could save another family from going through this tragedy!

Strength to you TOC!

The wise would respond with crickets. SilverStar would respond with, "I agree, you two are perfect for one another. Good luck."

Who ever came up with the quote about bunny boiler - was brilliant.

There is a very creative group on this thread. I am beginning to think that this group should get together and write comedy sketches for those of us that are "wounded".

As for the latest:

Your step son is a class act. What a wonderful lunch to have. Your WH is one f'd up dude to have had such a wonderful wife and a terrific son. I wonder why he is so broken to have to go trolling for pond scum.

As for the bunny boiler, candy (with a small c), I agree with everyone here about the crickets BUT, if you were to take any of the great ideas of a reply, I think I would reply to BOTH the twit AND your WH all in one. Let her see that you WH has now seen the exchange as well, and then as another said,

drop the mike and exit stage left.

Ah TOC, you have proved to be an awesome awesome person. I, along with so many here, admire your strength and your humour (and your excellent capitalization skills).

(BTW I am Canadian so yes we use the "U" :))

[This message edited by DdV65 at 12:45 PM, October 31st (Monday)]

Or you could say:

OW, your message convinced me-- you and WH deserve a life together. I will no longer stand in your way.

When they say

...we might as well be adults about it.

somehow it always turns out to mean

I'll just keep doing whatever I want and you'll just have to put up with it.

[This message edited by Foley05 at 12:59 PM, October 31st (Monday)]

Hey, TOC! You're doing great. The situation sucks, but you're rocking it!

One thought for you to consider and do with as you will:

Your stbxwh is doing rather poorly at the moment. If OW were to get wind of it, through friends, newspaper, etc, she'd be up at the hospital in a New York Minute (Guaranteed 30 seconds shorter than the Common Minute!) making a nuisance of herself.

And perhaps upsetting your stbxwh. Not Your Circus, Not Your Monkeys. I agree.

However, if I could, without going too far out of my way, keep a rabid hound away from an injured human I would do that.

So, with all that said, stage set, etc. - Consider calling the hospital and warning the duty nurses that A) You're getting divorced from Patient X and, B) Girlfiend (no misspelling that) Candy might suddenly show up and C) that, to the best of your knowledge your stbxwh has been avoiding Girlfiend.

Or, call his neuro... nue... surgeon! and let his office know, -Or- clue the step-son in on the whole goings on and let him handle telling the Doctors/hospital.

and I forgot to mention telling them D), do not call you with any updates because he's no longer your problem.

Now, that would be a sort of final kindness. You could decide that that is just getting too involved for you and I (and I think all of us) would completely respect you for making the decision that is best for you.

Comments?

House of Plane

I think it'd be OK to respond with, "You write like a retard"

This is a DISGUSTING thing to say. So terribly disrespectful to anyone with mental disabilities and the people who love them.

Completely uncalled for and out of line.

[This message edited by CheaterMagnet at 1:51 PM, October 31st (Monday)]

On the other hand, she, OW, is now getting what she wants. She needs a meal ticket for her kid and herself. She likes what your DWH, (Dumb W Husband) has except for you were in the way. She gives dwh some attention, easy sex, and look what is happening now....She then sends you a text to piss you off and drive another wedge in between you and dwh. Look I am on your side TOC, but you are getting played. She wants you to throw in the towel. I think you can do better than just insulting her or crickets? And I agree with you on dumping DWH.

Hyperheadnow, there's really nothing that indicates she'll get what she wants -my WH- but even if she did, not my problem to worry about. I'm already done. Her message had no bearing on that. I can't worry about wanting revenge or winning according to her rules. In my book, loving and living well is the best revenge and that's how this will go down.

Devotedman, I always wait for your sage replies. I will tell DSS about OW message and ask that he handle blocking OW access to his dad while he convalesces, if he confirms that is what his dad wants. He asked for me to add his name to his dad's hospital contact list and we did and made him primary. I'm still listed as the best local contact and I'm OK with that.

For the love of gawd!!! I just got another message from her. No use cutting and pasting but just a note saying she can tell I saw her message last night so wonders when I will reply. Now she's even willing to meet.

Uh, thanks but no thanks psycho!!! I value my safety!

Cricket silence continues.

Yep, crickets are driving her mad. Keep it up.

And desperation sets in. funny and pathetic. she has no idea who she's dealing with.