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Gipper, that's priceless!

gipper yiu made my dey, I howeld at tthatt;

😂😂😂😂😂😂

Gipper - you see, it's hilarious support like yours that gets me through this with my sanity intact!!!! Damn that's good and funny stuff. Thanks for that. I needed it big time today.

It's moving day so probably not much time to be here. I worry a wee bit that psycho OW drives by and may see the moving truck but nothing I can do about that. Just good to be busy to keep my mind off the circus that swirls around my life. It could be a sad day but time to get up, get going and power through it.

Onward and upward!

Funny Gipper...

Can't believe she contacted you again. I've changed my mind. I don't think your WH has been in contact with her.

I'm guessing he cut her off and the only way for her to know what's going on is via you. Crickets are driving her crazy.

I'm guessing DSS will eventually share the email with his Dad (When his health permits) and his Dad will be mortified...

[This message edited by Freeme at 8:32 AM, November 1st (Tuesday)]

She is fuming and probably growing more and more angry and feeling rejected. She is going crazy not getting contact from your WH. She is contacting you to gain insight into what's going on with your WH. She wants intel. She wants you to break down or be mad and let things slip that give her an indication into what's going with your WH and between your WH and you. She doesn't want to just BE a threat to you, she wants to KNOW that YOU KNOW she's a threat to you. If she can't talk to him, then she needs ( in her sick mind ) to hear your pain and chaos, that will make her "secure" that you must have been so rejected that yes indeed he really must want her. Oh she is smug....

OutOfTheDeep has this one absolutely spot on. Strength to you TOC

Love it Gipper!!!!!!!!!

k9

Hope the move is going smoothly TOC.

Definitely crickets for candy. If she sees the removal van and then there is no one in the house for the next few weeks as your WH recuperates, she is going to be beside herself. Expect more messages as she more and more desperately tries to find out what is going on.

Maybe it's time to block her on Facebook. You don't need this drama.

I don't post often, but I have been following this thread.

TOC you have my deepest respect.

Stay classy, do crickets ! You have help stregthen me.

To the other posters, some of you have had me laugh so hard, I actually wet myself

THANKYOU !

TOC

Good luck on your move. I'm sure that even though you have made this decision it is still heart wrenching as this is not how you thought your life would be 6 months ago. (((TOC)))

Keep no contact. IMHO that first message that she wrote was worded for your WS as she wanted him to know that she wanted what was best for him blah, blah, blah. And of course, telling you not to share it with him was pretty blatant that she wanted you to share it with him.

Her IQ isn't hitting the 3 digit mark. 😉

This woman used to pet sit at your house. Does she still have a key? Even if your WH got it back doesn't mean she didn't make a copy while she had it. Might want to give the son a heads up that the locks may need to be changed.

Maybe she will think you are moving out and on together. Imagine how crazy this will drive her, with no communication from either of you AND no activity at the house. I hope she wears a path in the road from driving by. I don't suppose you have survaliance cameras. Best of luck, you continue to inspire

Hey TOC. Thought I would chime in for the first time as I don't think anyone has suggested this yet.

Miss Bow Wow lost me at the second email asking for your response. I don't like it. Not one bit. Speaks of desperation, which I also really don't like. You said you don't want drama in your life right? I agree. I have had enough for several lifetimes. This is why I think you should head off some potential drama here.

Crickets. Yep. Absolutely 100% the way to go for all the reasons stated and you know. However, don't stop with that.

Take the emails and send them to your lawyer friend. Chances are she can most likely do absolutely nothing with them. But what you can do is start to build a file with them and get a plan in place if Miss Bow Wow should go complete bunny boiler on you as we have seen here on SI a few times over the years. SWAT and SoSorry come to mind. It's the desperation tone of that second email that I don't like.

Your friend might have some ideas as to what can be legally be done going forward if she were to send something else or worse show up in person at some point. Maybe your lawyer friend, or another legal friend she may have can even head off Miss Bow Wow by firing a warning shot to squash any possible future outburst. Bottom line, this is about protecting yourself.

Again, you may not be able to do anything yet but good to get legal advice and a plan in place. It could absolutely be nothing and me being overly sensitive to crazy... which I no doubt am. I've picked a fight or two with a few crazy bullies in my life recently. I did so to protect myself, cut the drama, and oh yeah... right a few wrongs.

Good luck to you TOC and keep moving forward.

yop

Maybe she will think you are moving out and on together. Imagine how crazy this will drive her, with no communication from either of you AND no activity at the house.

I was thinking this as well and I love it! She has been blocked from WH's phone (after YOURs and her text exchange - and she does not know it was you), so she is fully aware she's been told by "WH" to pound sand...a day later she writes the first missive to you...

Yes...desperation...and I agree with posters who are suggesting that you inform your attorney of these developments so he/she can provide advice and hopefully, a cease & desist letter.

[This message edited by Lalagirl at 12:09 PM, November 1st (Tuesday)]

Get the locks changed. Just for peace of mind, esp since he is in a facility for the next however long. Last thing you want is him being unable to return home d/t her doing damage to something.

Get the locks changed.

Agreed!

Gosh SI family, you have given me a A LOT to think about. DSS is here with me while movers are doing their thing and I have shared your ideas. He plans to change locks today so great info and thanks for passing that along. I've been scouting outside for OW but so far have not seen anything unusual. I'm not afraid of her but I do agree - she could be acting out of desperation now and that's never a good thing. I think it's so funny she would want my life. Fuck, if this is what it's like from here on out, she can have it!!! :)

I will inform my attorney about the OW contact and send her the messages, get her opinion. Always good to have on file just in case.

I think I kicked the hornet's nest when I engaged in that text conversation with her via WH phone. The take-away here is to NOT ENGAGE! Crickets, crickets, crickets. I think this time around, I brought this on myself. Not. Smart.

Let this be a lesson to all of us.

HouseOfPlane - You have a PM.

Gipper that is hilarious!

I don't think you should accept responsibility for the crazy OW TOC. WH hadn't responded to her since DDay and then when you are in the house she texts him; and mentions you are there?? I think she did a drive by, saw your car and panicked that you two were getting back together. Then after your text exchange you blocked her on WH's phone so she really had no way of contacting him. So she contacted you to try and find out what is going on.

I hope the move goes well and you can make your new spot a little oasis from the stress.'

Haha .. Yay Gipper.

Seriously, crickets. That was the most painful message to read. Painful. The typos, the sentences, the words....everything.

She is going to go crazy. Chirp, chirp, chirp. What a dingbat.

My STBX cheated with a woman I thought had integrity and intelligence. She has a masters degree and manages a childrens cancer clinic at a major hospital. She still had no problem sleeping with the father of her sons' best friends despite the fact that my STBX has turned out to be more like Candy (unemployed and less intelligent each year).

The OWs come in all shapes and sizes so don't be fooled. I too want to stay as far away from Jerry Springer as possible.

My STBX brought it right to our door by cheating within our friendship circle. Our break-up is the daily gossip of half the town.

If you have a keypad for the garage door opener to get in through the garage, don't forget to change that code as well.