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Bravo! Good for you Mojojo! Glad you finally got around to taking out the trash. Things will certainly smell better now

Well done!

It is concerning that someone is reporting your activities to him. Watch your back.

So the police showed up at my door last night about 30 minutes after XWS dropped off our son. That means XWS spent about 20 minutes telling lies to the police since we live 5 minutes from the station. I invited the officer inside and he questioned me. He explained why he was there and asked me lots of questions about the cars. I answered most of the questions except for one “how much money did you get for the cars?” I told the officer that I needed to talk to my lawyer first. I told him my side of the story and how those cars came to be abandoned in the first place! Luckily I had been documenting everything as my S.I. Community suggested so all I had to do to prove that I had been asking him to remove the vehicles was print out 3 pages of my requests from our 2 Houses App

Under the heading “property you abandoned at (our address)!

I delivered that to the police station and they told me that I will have no criminal charges against me because cars are considered abandoned in our state after 4 days or 96 hours! Well it’s been 9 months so I’m in the clear!!! I love being organized and feel good that I’ve taken the high road.

He can chose to sue me in criminal court but I don’t know why he would waste his time over such a small amount of money? With the affair baby due to be born any minute shouldn’t he be focused on that instead? He is writing all kinds of abusive remarks and threats to sue me on the App that we communicate with. I’m still ignoring him and I only unblock his number when he has our son. I’m surprised his knocked up whore Isn’t putting her two cents in!

I’m sending my son on a Retreat this weekend with other kids his age from his youth group! He’s going to go snow tubing, and it’s a super hero themed weekend with no electronics allowed. There is a talent show and indoor gym, swimming, etc...he’s going to have a great time. I’m really looking forward to having a break from parenting. I’m going to celebrate officially the end of this toxic relationship at a very nice restaurant which I can only afford because it’s price fix week!

😂 I’m also starting my intake for therapy this Saturday I finally got in! I still need support from you all because grief is a squirrelly little bitch! It keeps resurfacing.

Bravo momma bear! I'm so proud of you!!! Keep on sister. We've got you.

Oh to be a fly on the wall when he was told HE adandoned the vehicles. It would be nice if the police charged him with filing a false report and wasting their valuable time.

So glad you documented everything about this situation.

Your son is going to have an amazing weekend. Enjoy your weekend and the amazing food.

Counseling will put you on a clear path towards healing. Just let it all out.

Mojojo

BRAVO sister. Well done on all fronts.

I know you have been through hell but you are doing amazing.

Celebrate YOU this weekend.

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Just know the more your idiot STBXH loses - the harder he may come after you.

Glad you legally have no consequences in this one.

But of course he will soon this as you selling “his pre ious” car. Boo hoo.

Enjoy your relaxing weekend !!!!

I looked into getting cameras installed for the front and back entrances and it’s not that expensive. I have a friend who does it and I think that it’s a good idea. I do not trust him.

I will never trust him.

Therapy

I went to my first IC therapy appointment with someone new. A counselor who wasn’t our MC. It feels different and better.

Nightmares

I’m having them 3 or more times per week

The affair baby is coming any day now and this is a huge trigger subconsciously.

Fall out from selling the cars

So far none! Just angry threats from the vampire XWS narcissist. To All of those posts I simply say contact my lawyer if you want to press these matters further.

I’m done with his petty requests and his abusive statements.

The last comment he made was “ now you can add bonified their to your singles add”

Lol I don’t even have a singles ad! He’s so stupid!

I saw him last night with his witch of a mother they came to watch our son play hockey and I brought one of my sons friends. We were on opposite sides of the rink buffered by ice and plexiglass but their evil could still be felt. It was her birthday and I smiled knowing that I didn’t have to celebrate that haters birthday ever again! She’s the one who taught my X how to treat a woman.

Finding joy

That’s my new focus

I looked into getting cameras installed for the front and back entrances and it’s not that expensive. I have a friend who does it and I think that it’s a good idea. I do not trust him.

I will never trust him.

Therapy

I went to my first IC therapy appointment with someone new. A counselor who wasn’t our MC. It feels different and better.

Nightmares

I’m having them 3 or more times per week

The affair baby is coming any day now and this is a huge trigger subconsciously.

Fall out from selling the cars

So far none! Just angry threats from the vampire XWS narcissist. To All of those posts I simply say contact my lawyer if you want to press these matters further.

I’m done with his petty requests and his abusive statements.

The last comment he made was “ now you can add bonified theif to your singles add”

Lol I don’t even have a singles ad! He’s so stupid!

I saw him last night with his witch of a mother they came to watch our son play hockey and I brought one of my sons friends. We were on opposite sides of the rink buffered by ice and plexiglass but their evil could still be felt. It was her birthday and I smiled knowing that I didn’t have to celebrate that haters birthday ever again! She’s the one who taught my X how to treat a woman.

Finding joy

That’s my new focus

finding joy

Love it!!!!

It would be nice if the police charged him with filing a false report and wasting their valuable time.

So glad you documented everything about this situation.

I echo this.

I saw him last night with his witch of a mother they came to watch our son play hockey and I brought one of my sons friends. We were on opposite sides of the rink buffered by ice and plexiglass but their evil could still be felt. It was her birthday and I smiled knowing that I didn’t have to celebrate that haters birthday ever again! She’s the one who taught my X how to treat a woman.

Birds of a feather...

I'm glad you are holding your head up high and are not taking his crap anymore. You GO girl!

Valentine’s Day PTSD

This time last year my S had me look up a plane ticket online for him to go to Florida to see his college age girl friend. He lied and said that he was going to see his father. He left for work the day before Valentine’s Day that night he put roses on the dinning room table for me and a love card. When I woke up I found them. On Valentine’s Day he boarded a plane to Florida and was MIA for 5 days! Of course I didn’t find any of this out until April 14th when I saw all of the trip pictures and much much more on his phone! She wasn’t the only affair partner I want to get through this day and not be sad. It’s my older sons birthday but he’s in another state. I’ll call him later. Any tips or encouragement for surviving Valentine’s Day post infidelity.

((((mojojo))))

I'm sorry you're hurting today, sweetie.

Try to keep busy and do something kind for yourself, like a mani/pedi/massage, go see a funny movie, anything that is pleasurable to you and keeps you busy. Do you have a friend or family member to hang out with?

I went out to breakfast with my younger son! It was fun even though it was a rush to get him to school on time. Worth it.

His Dad saw him last night and gave him a bag of presents! In other words “a bag of guilt”! I know it’s the new girlfriend shopping for the stuff too and I HATE that! Never before has he given our son anything except candy and a card and I was the buyer! I knew this day was going to be a huge trigger. Luckily I have to work all day until 8! It’s his Dads night for visitation but he switched so he could be with her.

I'm glad you got to spend time with your son.

It’s his Dads night for visitation but he switched so he could be with her.

I'm sorry your XWS is an asshole.

Affair baby is being born now or was born yesterday on the 20th? I know that my X told my son he couldn’t see him on Tuesday (his regular visit) because as he put it in his text “looks like we have to go to the hospital, everyone is trying to guess baby ______ weight!” He named the baby it’s a girl. First of all he talks to our son like he’s a buddy. What is he really asking our child to do? Is our child suppose to put his guess in as to how much your affair baby weighs? 2nd of all he isn’t supposed to be discussing your new family Until he shows he’s ready.

My good friend was able to get intel off Facebook and found out the reason why he blew off his visitation on Valentine’s Day

wait for it...he married her on Valentine’s Day! I was able to watch his pathetic baby shower proposal and see pictures of the wedding etc. it was cathartic for me and traumatic all at once. I’m glad I saw but sorry I saw. I watched him say the same stuff to her as he said to me before our child was born such as I was an angel sent to him and his biggest blessing and how he knew our child was going to bring both families together. Blah blah blah...on her page all of her posts say how she agreed to marry her soul mate, the love of her life, etc etc there was no mention of how they met or got started!

Hello stupid, wake up! your “soul mate is a liar and a cheater!

This is the same guy who last year at this time was having an emotional affair with and fucking a 22 year old college student! Deceiving his family for 9 or more months until he met you and began an emotional and physical affair with you. I threw him out, you got him by default as I chose to exit the infidelity triangle using my super power “common sense” Then you kicked your boyfriend to the curb and He slithered in to your bed. You got knocked up two or three weeks after I threw him

out of our home! Sounds like true love a genuine fairytale.

This whole thing is so crazy I can’t believe all that has happened in 10 months time! You know what is really

breaking my heart though? The fact that he’s ultimately hurting our son. All my X had to do to avoid all of this trauma was break up with me from the beginning when he knew his heart was out and he was wayward. Then move out like a man, let it breathe for a while and then start his new relationship. Why is infidelity such a desperate evil soul sucking arrangement between two or more broken people? It’s a shit show from start to finish! Does anyone want to guess the affair babies birth weight? Or speculate on the duration of this miracle

marriage between soul mates? Please you all have the floor!

As for me, I’m snuggled up in a peaceful infidelity free home counting every blessing!

My goodness, Mojojo. You have had so much to absorb the past 10 months! Your xWH’s behavior is completely irresponsible, not to mention obnoxious.

I am so sorry you and your son have to deal with his path of destruction. I am sure it hurts, but you are handling it like a boss. Stay strong!

Wow! Sorry you had to see all that. Just think of their honeymoon period with a newborn. The level of stress will probably rip those glittery blinders right off. Keep protecting your son from his incredibly selfish father.

Well I just can’t take seeing my son suffer and come home in tears after his visits with dumb dumb Dad! We are going back to court on April 4th I petitioned the court to reinforce our original agreements. I wrote to my X and asked him to stop forcing the acceptance of the new child on our son but of course he wrote back any nasty thing he could think of and that I’m acting like a vindictive jilted woman! Hmmm? Is it possible to ask the court to give this guy a frontal labotomy?

Sorry this is happening Mojojo, but not surprising considering your EXWH is a cruel narcissist. Do whatever is necessary to protect your son. Is your son receiving counseling. Document, document, document. Save those nasty emails and give it to your attorney. Really, communicating with the asswipe is a waste of time, but he’s so stupid he is giving you evidence to go back to court with. Is it possible to get an expert’s written opinion (therapist, counselor, or psych) on how much damage this is doing to your son. Just a thought. Hang in there.

[This message edited by fareast at 9:32 AM, March 8th (Friday)]